Anonymous wrote:Going a bit off topic but, is it just me who COMPLETELY lost interest in being a mom, after 9 years of being a nanny? I am 33, married for 5 years, TERRIFIED of being a mother. I love children, I've seen 3 newborns being raises during these 9 years and I keep close contact with a lot of families I've worked for during the years (specially the one who had babies). but I am still not ready for a baby myself and I am unsure I will ever be. I am certainly glad my husband isn't exactly pushing for it either.... anybody else feel somewhat the same??

Oh, I'm the OP, and I am 100% in the same position as you! I have never been certain that I want kids and I'm still not, however, my bf and I just had a conversation about kids and we just saw a friend who has a newborn (and was being soooooo incredible crazy), so those two things sparked my interest.

Anonymous wrote:Going a bit off topic but, is it just me who COMPLETELY lost interest in being a mom, after 9 years of being a nanny? I am 33, married for 5 years, TERRIFIED of being a mother. I love children, I've seen 3 newborns being raises during these 9 years and I keep close contact with a lot of families I've worked for during the years (specially the one who had babies). but I am still not ready for a baby myself and I am unsure I will ever be. I am certainly glad my husband isn't exactly pushing for it either.... anybody else feel somewhat the same??

same here!! I work 12 hours a day 5 days a week and when I get home it is AMAZING to just hang out. I'm also getting my Masters in Education so I won't be a nanny forever but I can't imagine having to work a full day then come home and take care of kids and be on all the time

I cannot think of any training better to prepare you to become a mother than being a full-time nanny for a few years! Experience, experience, experience...

Yes, being a SAHM is SO MUCH EASIER than being a nanny.

Going a bit off topic but, is it just me who COMPLETELY lost interest in being a mom, after 9 years of being a nanny? I am 33, married for 5 years, TERRIFIED of being a mother. I love children, I've seen 3 newborns being raises during these 9 years and I keep close contact with a lot of families I've worked for during the years (specially the one who had babies). but I am still not ready for a baby myself and I am unsure I will ever be. I am certainly glad my husband isn't exactly pushing for it either.... anybody else feel somewhat the same??

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Anonymous wrote:I also was a career nanny before becoming a mother. It was the very best preparation anyone could wish for.

I feel sorry for all the new parents today who never even got the opportunity to babysit when they were in middle school and high school and beyond. They're mostly the ones making the worst mistakes with their own children. Lots of fear and anxiety.

Early childhood education (along with finance) should be mandatory in high school. What else is more essential for a successful life?

Not everyone has children. Why would you make that mandatory? So strange.

Because even those who are not parents themselves are part of the society in which the next generation is being raised. Imagine if you could go to the grocery store and everyone there understood that tantrums are a normal developmental stage for toddlers, because that was common knowledge. How would people interact with you differently as you ignore your melting-down 2yo?

Excellent response. Thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:I also was a career nanny before becoming a mother. It was the very best preparation anyone could wish for.

I feel sorry for all the new parents today who never even got the opportunity to babysit when they were in middle school and high school and beyond. They're mostly the ones making the worst mistakes with their own children. Lots of fear and anxiety.

Early childhood education (along with finance) should be mandatory in high school. What else is more essential for a successful life?

Not everyone has children. Why would you make that mandatory? So strange.

Because even those who are not parents themselves are part of the society in which the next generation is being raised. Imagine if you could go to the grocery store and everyone there understood that tantrums are a normal developmental stage for toddlers, because that was common knowledge. How would people interact with you differently as you ignore your melting-down 2yo?

Anonymous wrote:I also was a career nanny before becoming a mother. It was the very best preparation anyone could wish for.

I feel sorry for all the new parents today who never even got the opportunity to babysit when they were in middle school and high school and beyond. They're mostly the ones making the worst mistakes with their own children. Lots of fear and anxiety.

Early childhood education (along with finance) should be mandatory in high school. What else is more essential for a successful life?

Not everyone has children. Why would you make that mandatory? So strange.

I also was a career nanny before becoming a mother. It was the very best preparation anyone could wish for.

I feel sorry for all the new parents today who never even got the opportunity to babysit when they were in middle school and high school and beyond. They're mostly the ones making the worst mistakes with their own children. Lots of fear and anxiety.

Early childhood education (along with finance) should be mandatory in high school. What else is more essential for a successful life?

I was a nanny and became a mother myself. It is easier being a mother in the day to day - much easier than being a nanny and any previous childcare experience is always great. Like anything when you have the experience of "life on the other side (whether it be as a waitress, teacher, etc) you will always have a greater understanding of what your nanny is experiencing and how you can make it better.

I became a SAHM and there is no doubt that being a nanny was much, much harder than raising my own children, in my own house, with my rules is infinitely easier.

Sorry for the abrupt stop.

I'd like to think I'll be less anxious and a more laid back new mom, but I really have no idea if that's the case.

I'm a young nanny with no children.

Several people here talk about how terrible it is working with first time parents and what not, but I'm curious if those people have ever been first time moms? Does our nanny/NB experience make us less nervous?
I like to THINK I'll be less anxious and more la, but I obviously have no ie