God I feel like I just wrote the op. I didn't realize how badly I was treated until my current position. Wish I would've listened to my gut and not my heart because I fell in love with the baby. Kudos op!

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Anonymous wrote:While you have valid complaints, if you are working in someone's home, technically you are the help. You are an employee, not a friend, not family.

They have every right to have grandma visit.

Grandma was half senile and I had to follow her around to make sure she didn't give her 1 year old granddaughter (and my other charge) hard peppermint candy. Seriously. She made it a inpossible to keep the kids on a schedule.
I tried to talk to the other family AND the horrible family about improving things and nothing ever got resolved.
I might be an employee, but I will never work for another family who treats me like one.

I don't get what you are expecting. Any job you have you will be an employee regardless of if it is in someones home or in an office. You are not an equal parenting partner, you are not a friend, you are not family.

That might be so, but my other families never treated me as such. They valued the role I played in their child's life. I'm really not sure why you are having such difficulty understanding this.

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Anonymous wrote:While you have valid complaints, if you are working in someone's home, technically you are the help. You are an employee, not a friend, not family.

They have every right to have grandma visit.

Grandma was half senile and I had to follow her around to make sure she didn't give her 1 year old granddaughter (and my other charge) hard peppermint candy. Seriously. She made it a inpossible to keep the kids on a schedule.
I tried to talk to the other family AND the horrible family about improving things and nothing ever got resolved.
I might be an employee, but I will never work for another family who treats me like one.

I don't get what you are expecting. Any job you have you will be an employee regardless of if it is in someones home or in an office. You are not an equal parenting partner, you are not a friend, you are not family.

Good for you OP.

Hopefully you printed this out and sent it to your former Nanny Family with your walking papers.

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Trust your gut! I had a gut feeling that this would be bad and I didn't trust it. I allowed my common sense to be clouded by high pay.

As they say, "If you marry for money, you'll earn every penny of it!"

Anonymous wrote:While you have valid complaints, if you are working in someone's home, technically you are the help. You are an employee, not a friend, not family.

They have every right to have grandma visit.

Grandma was half senile and I had to follow her around to make sure she didn't give her 1 year old granddaughter (and my other charge) hard peppermint candy. Seriously. She made it a inpossible to keep the kids on a schedule.
I tried to talk to the other family AND the horrible family about improving things and nothing ever got resolved.
I might be an employee, but I will never work for another family who treats me like one.

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Anonymous wrote:Use the Nanny network to blackball these people.

What is Nanny network and how can we warn other nannies before they accept job with crazy families.

Word of mouth. You tell your nanny friends, they tell other nannies. Eventually,their names get around as problem employers

Good luck with your next nanny share job.

While you have valid complaints, if you are working in someone's home, technically you are the help. You are an employee, not a friend, not family.

They have every right to have grandma visit.

Anonymous wrote:Use the Nanny network to blackball these people.

What is Nanny network and how can we warn other nannies before they accept job with crazy families.

Anonymous wrote:Use the Nanny network to blackball these people.

What is that?

Use the Nanny network to blackball these people.

Anonymous wrote:Slow clap....

Why did it take so long for you to quit?

I didn't think that I deserved a better job, which I see as completely ridiculous now. I had been with my previous family for 6 years and they were wonderful! I kept thinking that if I just stuck it out, it would begin to feel right. It never did. My standards are much, much higher now.

Slow clap....

Why did it take so long for you to quit?

*You never trusted me. This wasn't because of anything I did. It was because you never intended to trust your nanny.
*You picked your toddler up the instant she whimpered. This caused her to have melt-downs while I tended to the other child in the share.
*You allowed your elderly, nutty mother to come to the house, unannounced, several times per week to see the baby. She disrupted the schedule I worked hard to keep with the children.
*You wouldn't allow us to leave the house for the first year...not even for a walk.
*When you did allow us to leave the house-you made me text you when I left, text you when I arrived, text you when I left to go home and text you when I arrived home...all with 2 children in tow.
*You left dirty dishes in the sink, knowing that I would have to wash them before I could prepare bottles or meals for the children.
*You tried to lowball me during pay negotiations (that should've been my first clue). You treated the process the same as you would buying a new car.
*You wouldn't allow me to meet your baby until I insisted that I wouldn't accept the job unless you relented. What was I thinking?
*You treated me like "the help."
*You didn't tell me you were expecting a new baby until you were 7 months pregnant. You had no health issues. You just didn't see me as someone worth telling.
*You asked me where I live because you were concerned that your car seat would be stolen from my car
*You wouldn't allow me to feed your child anything other than Turkey, broccolii, bananas and Cheerios....every single day...for a year and a half.
*your daughter caught a terrible stomach bug and you insisted that it was just teething, even after I told you that it was definitely not. She proceeded to get the other child in the share, the parents of the other child, and my husband and I sick. I was off of work and you actually told me that I didn't have any more vacation days left and I'd have to take it unpaid. The other parents told them to piss of and that it would be paid because they had gotten me sick.
I started interviewing a week later.

Trust your gut! I had a gut feeling that this would be bad and I didn't trust it. I allowed my common sense to be clouded by high pay.
This job thought me a very valuable lesson. It also has made me appreciate the amazing bosses that I have had since!