Anonymous wrote:Honestly, as a lot of nannies said in the previous thread, the insulting part here is that Mb feels that because I am only the nanny (who spends 40+ hours a week with my charge), my input isn't needed or wanted and anything the doctor has to say is for her ears only. For me, it wouldn't be about the time, but it would be a serious wake-up call that MB does kot view me ad a valuable resource and a partner in raising her child, but as a babysitter. My attitude towards the job would change, and I might start looking for a family that will be happy to accept all the skills I can offer.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there is some family history and disease stuff that my nanny does not need to know about. . .we are a very open family, but there are just some things we keep to our family. I sometimes like to discuss them with the ped to make sure we are keeping an eye on it etc.

Inwould not be at all offended if my MB said, "I want to ask the ped about something confidential. Can you give us a minute and I'll meet you in the waiting room?" I have been to many sick and well visits in my time. At well-visits, there is usually a 10 minute conversation about nutrition, activities, milestones, safety measures, etc. all of which (I believe) a qualified, full-time nanny can and should contribute to. At sick visits, there are usually questions about onset of symptoms and feedback from the ped about steps moving forward/treatment plan/recovery expectations, all of which, again, benefit from having as many caregivers present as possible. If you are more concerned with your super secret family health problems than with having nanny and ped on the same page, then you don't value the nanny all that much. That is fine. Not everyone wants a nanny to be part of the team. But that's not the kind of nanny that I am. I go out of my way to note and track physical and developmental changes in my charges. I do my best to stay current on health and nutrition and safety issues, and as any experienced nanny can tell you, a lot of the recommendations about nutrition, minor health issues like gas or constipation, etc. vary WIDELY from one ped to the next. Having a good working relationship with the specific pediatrician you have chosen allows me to best tailr my skills to what you want for you kid. Parents, esp. First-time parents often don't even realize how many different ways there are to handle a specific issue, so it is pretty common that I have questions or clarifications for the ped that never occurred to them to ask.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there is some family history and disease stuff that my nanny does not need to know about. . .we are a very open family, but there are just some things we keep to our family. I sometimes like to discuss them with the ped to make sure we are keeping an eye on it etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I really hate when my nanny tries to accompany us into the exam room. Frankly, I don't need her going to the doctor's office with me, but she insists.

Why do you hate it? What does your nanny do that is so hateful?

We do not live in DC, actually we live in a rural area where nannies are uncommon. I once had a doctor roll her eyes over me bringing a nanny with me, so I don't do it anymore. Around here, it's seen no differently than having a 2+ ct diamond ring, just kind of tacky, in a flaunting your money kind of way. Also, since I don't wear dress clothes to work, it makes me appear as if I'm a SAHM who can't handle my own child without a nanny.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there is some family history and disease stuff that my nanny does not need to know about. . .we are a very open family, but there are just some things we keep to our family. I sometimes like to discuss them with the ped to make sure we are keeping an eye on it etc.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, as a lot of nannies said in the previous thread, the insulting part here is that Mb feels that because I am only the nanny (who spends 40+ hours a week with my charge), my input isn't needed or wanted and anything the doctor has to say is for her ears only. For me, it wouldn't be about the time, but it would be a serious wake-up call that MB does kot view me ad a valuable resource and a partner in raising her child, but as a babysitter. My attitude towards the job would change, and I might start looking for a family that will be happy to accept all the skills I can offer.

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Anonymous wrote:I really hate when my nanny tries to accompany us into the exam room. Frankly, I don't need her going to the doctor's office with me, but she insists.

Why do you hate it? What does your nanny do that is so hateful?

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, as a lot of nannies said in the previous thread, the insulting part here is that Mb feels that because I am only the nanny (who spends 40+ hours a week with my charge), my input isn't needed or wanted and anything the doctor has to say is for her ears only. For me, it wouldn't be about the time, but it would be a serious wake-up call that MB does kot view me ad a valuable resource and a partner in raising her child, but as a babysitter. My attitude towards the job would change, and I might start looking for a family that will be happy to accept all the skills I can offer.

Anonymous wrote:I really hate when my nanny tries to accompany us into the exam room. Frankly, I don't need her going to the doctor's office with me, but she insists.