Anonymous wrote:Wow. Some of the comments here are priceless. You sound like a very happy bunch! Nowhere did I say I wish our former nanny harm and want to cost her a job.
My personal preference is to do nothing. But my conscience tells me I am potentially endangering another baby by staying silent.
When I gave my opinion/reference check, I told her new employer that she's great with older kids but that babies are not her comfort zone so they'd have to be explicit about what their expectations are. She's been with us 18 months and our baby is 2 months old. She's yelled at the baby out of frustration (while we were around) and rocks the baby a bit too vigorously because it is obvious babies stress her out. This latest incident resulted in a wound to the baby's face that was inflicted by her - she admitted that.
In light of what recently happened, I would still maintain that she's great with older kids but that she probably shouldn't be the primary caregiver to a baby. This family has 3 older kids and a newborn. I would MUCH PREFER to just shrug all of this off and think "She's their problem now, not mine anymore" but is that the right thing to do? Is that what you would do?
Anonymous wrote:This nanny was good enough for you to keep as she cared for your children for 18 months. I would let it go and just move on. I seriously doubt she hurt your child intentionally -- people do not become child abusers over night.
She has been working in your home for 1.5, OP, and her work has at least been satisfactory for you to have kept her that long. Move away, move on and say nothing.