Anonymous wrote:The true sign of a competent nanny is to excel with any family and overcome any issues.

Really? I would have thought a better sign would be to recognize when its not the job for you and to leave and find a netter 'fit'

I had the exact same experience ONCE. I will never doubt my instincts again. If it doesn't feel right, it isn't right and will never be right.

I'm an MB and I can relate.

When I have ignored my gut instincts it has never ended well.

Anonymous wrote:The true sign of a competent nanny is to excel with any family and overcome any issues.

Just the usual person on here trying to stir the pot. Ignore.

OP, all of us nannies on here can relate.

Thanks for sharing your experience with us, interestingly enough this mode of thinking goes with anything in one's life.

Whenever something feels "off," it usually is.

Intuition is rarely wrong.

I learned the same lesson. Whenever you feel like you have to talk yourself into accepting an offer, you should see that as a red flag.

In my case it was a disorganized couple and one toddler who had no rules or limits. And they didn't have air conditioning. I knew it wasn't the right job for me and I took it anyway. I lasted six weeks.

Anonymous wrote:The true sign of a competent nanny is to excel with any family and overcome any issues.

Horse hockey!

Anonymous wrote:The true sign of a competent nanny is to excel with any family and overcome any issues.

I had a job once where the DB kept hitting on me and trying to corner me. He talked constantly about how sex with his "fat wife" wasn't satisfying and more like a job.

How was I incompetent as a nanny to leave that job?


You are full of it, PP. I suspect you are our nanny-board troll because your post is so stupid.

Anonymous wrote:The true sign of a competent nanny is to excel with any family and overcome any issues.

You are kidding, right? Clearly you have never been a nanny or else you have just gotten lucky with working for normal families.

I made the same mistake, OP, and for the same type of position. I guess I figured that since it was just a weekend gig that it wouldn't matter that much.

The parents in my case were totally off the wall. I mean - nuts. The MB would say, for example, to never give her DD ice cream as she was allergic and then the next day tell me to let her have the ice cream that she was screaming for. One day she would tell me that she needed me to work more hours and the very next day me that she didn't thing she could guarantee my hours as she didn't need me for that long. When the child pooped in her diaper and didn't want to be changed, MB told me that she just let her sit in it until her bath -- four hours later!

When I gave my notice, the parents were shocked as they thought things were going so well!

Anonymous wrote:The true sign of a competent nanny is to excel with any family and overcome any issues.

Nonsense. Total nonsense.

The true sign of a competent nanny is to excel with any family and overcome any issues.

... and I didn't listen to it. The parents seemed chaotic, their house was a mess and the child seemed unpleasant and clingy (to the parents) at the first meeting. I just didn't feel like it would be the right fit for me but I accepted their offer thinking that maybe I was over-reacting to the situation as I didn't really want a second job.

BIG MISTAKE. The job has been so much worse than I ever anticipated. I had to give notice yesterday. Lesson learned. When something feels "off" it is "off".

Listen your gut feelings, Nannies!