Anonymous
06/12/2015 00:22
Subject: Something nice for MB?
I strongly disagree that you should give a gift to your Mom Boss OP. It just isn't appropriate & would most likely make your boss feel uncomfortable.
No gift cards to a spa, no free evening of babysitting, etc. Bad ideas.
A great idea would be to have your charge (if he/she is old enough) to make a handmade card for his Mommy. A "Just Because" -type card.
If your charge is very young, you CAN create a homemade card yourself + simply sign it w/your charge's name.
Do not say anything like "Get Well Soon." Just give a nice card telling her how much her child loves his Mommy.
No gift cards to a spa, no free evening of babysitting, etc. Bad ideas.
A great idea would be to have your charge (if he/she is old enough) to make a handmade card for his Mommy. A "Just Because" -type card.
If your charge is very young, you CAN create a homemade card yourself + simply sign it w/your charge's name.
Do not say anything like "Get Well Soon." Just give a nice card telling her how much her child loves his Mommy.
Anonymous
06/11/2015 23:57
Subject: Something nice for MB?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just do your job. Show up on time, be somewhat pleasant, clean up after yourself and the kids, don't bring drama to work. I don't want gifts from my nanny.
I would imagine that you do not receive gifts from your nanny.
I do not WANT gifts from my nanny. That would be inappropriate. An employee should not give gifts to their employer. I am not the "my nanny is part of our family" type. My nanny is a valued employee.
Anonymous
06/11/2015 23:55
Subject: Something nice for MB?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just do your job. Show up on time, be somewhat pleasant, clean up after yourself and the kids, don't bring drama to work. I don't want gifts from my nanny.
I do all of this and more by default. I would also like to do something to let her know that I appreciate how hard she works to be an amazing boss to me and an amazing mom to my charges. These things impact me regularly and I want her to know that her effort is noticed and valued.
I really just don't think it's your place as a nanny to compliment her on her mothering of her own children.
Anonymous
06/11/2015 23:36
Subject: Something nice for MB?
Anonymous wrote:Just do your job. Show up on time, be somewhat pleasant, clean up after yourself and the kids, don't bring drama to work. I don't want gifts from my nanny.
I would imagine that you do not receive gifts from your nanny.
Anonymous
06/11/2015 23:34
Subject: Re:Something nice for MB?
Anonymous wrote:Give her a free night of babysitting. Put it in a card and let her use it for either a night out with her DH or with her friends.
Don't do anything gross or "romantic".
Free babysitting is a VERY expensive gift. Give her a good little of wine.
Anonymous
06/11/2015 22:29
Subject: Something nice for MB?
Anonymous wrote:Just do your job. Show up on time, be somewhat pleasant, clean up after yourself and the kids, don't bring drama to work. I don't want gifts from my nanny.
I do all of this and more by default. I would also like to do something to let her know that I appreciate how hard she works to be an amazing boss to me and an amazing mom to my charges. These things impact me regularly and I want her to know that her effort is noticed and valued.
Anonymous
06/11/2015 21:43
Subject: Re:Something nice for MB?
I became really good friends with one of my previous MBs. For her birthday, I got a bunch of pics of her kids I'd taken turned into refrigerator magnets. She loved it!
Anonymous
06/11/2015 21:32
Subject: Something nice for MB?
Just do your job. Show up on time, be somewhat pleasant, clean up after yourself and the kids, don't bring drama to work. I don't want gifts from my nanny.
Anonymous
06/11/2015 21:21
Subject: Something nice for MB?
Anonymous wrote:2 things:
1. a gift cert for a massage or manicure
2. but my bigger one would be to do something so that her time when she gets home is special. Can you fold the laundry, set the table (for 2) with a table cloth and flowers on the table, have the kids fed, bathed and ready for bed on a Friday that you know both parents will be home? that way she can get home, not have to DO anything but order dinner for her and her husband, enjoy the children, then pop them in bed? Also goes without saying that the dishes would be in the dishwasher, counters in kitchen cleaned off, toys put away, no clutter.
And soft music playing in the background. The kids can make a picture for Mommy and put it on her place at the table... you can do that earlier in the day.
I'm not an MB but if my husband did that for me after a long, stressful week at work, I'd faint with happiness. Because there is always a load of dishes to be put through the dishwasher, or things on the counter, or laundry to move from wash to dryer......
When I read number 2 I got very uncomfortable. It's something a 10 yr old would do. But a nanny ? Totally out of line bordering on creepy
Anonymous
06/11/2015 20:05
Subject: Something nice for MB?
Anonymous wrote:2 things:
1. a gift cert for a massage or manicure
2. but my bigger one would be to do something so that her time when she gets home is special. Can you fold the laundry, set the table (for 2) with a table cloth and flowers on the table, have the kids fed, bathed and ready for bed on a Friday that you know both parents will be home? that way she can get home, not have to DO anything but order dinner for her and her husband, enjoy the children, then pop them in bed? Also goes without saying that the dishes would be in the dishwasher, counters in kitchen cleaned off, toys put away, no clutter.
And soft music playing in the background. The kids can make a picture for Mommy and put it on her place at the table... you can do that earlier in the day.
I'm not an MB but if my husband did that for me after a long, stressful week at work, I'd faint with happiness. Because there is always a load of dishes to be put through the dishwasher, or things on the counter, or laundry to move from wash to dryer......
Please don't do this romantic dinner crap. It is way out of line and something a child would do to make her parents love each other again.
I echo the free night of babysitting. It is what you are good at, OP, and what you can best offer her.
Anonymous
06/11/2015 19:57
Subject: Re:Something nice for MB?
Anonymous wrote:Give her a free night of babysitting. Put it in a card and let her use it for either a night out with her DH or with her friends.
Don't do anything gross or "romantic".
Right! My MB would be so put off if I tried to stage some sort of romantic dinner for her and DB.
Way too much.
OP, make a nice casserole, have the dishes done and the kids bathed.
That would be perfect!!
Anonymous
06/11/2015 19:54
Subject: Re:Something nice for MB?
Give her a free night of babysitting. Put it in a card and let her use it for either a night out with her DH or with her friends.
Don't do anything gross or "romantic".
Don't do anything gross or "romantic".
Anonymous
06/11/2015 19:34
Subject: Something nice for MB?
Anonymous wrote:2 things:
1. a gift cert for a massage or manicure
2. but my bigger one would be to do something so that her time when she gets home is special. Can you fold the laundry, set the table (for 2) with a table cloth and flowers on the table, have the kids fed, bathed and ready for bed on a Friday that you know both parents will be home? that way she can get home, not have to DO anything but order dinner for her and her husband, enjoy the children, then pop them in bed? Also goes without saying that the dishes would be in the dishwasher, counters in kitchen cleaned off, toys put away, no clutter.
And soft music playing in the background. The kids can make a picture for Mommy and put it on her place at the table... you can do that earlier in the day.
I'm not an MB but if my husband did that for me after a long, stressful week at work, I'd faint with happiness. Because there is always a load of dishes to be put through the dishwasher, or things on the counter, or laundry to move from wash to dryer......
Wow. Those are very personal gifts and would be more appropriate coming from your husband.
Anonymous
06/11/2015 19:15
Subject: Something nice for MB?
2 things:
1. a gift cert for a massage or manicure
2. but my bigger one would be to do something so that her time when she gets home is special. Can you fold the laundry, set the table (for 2) with a table cloth and flowers on the table, have the kids fed, bathed and ready for bed on a Friday that you know both parents will be home? that way she can get home, not have to DO anything but order dinner for her and her husband, enjoy the children, then pop them in bed? Also goes without saying that the dishes would be in the dishwasher, counters in kitchen cleaned off, toys put away, no clutter.
And soft music playing in the background. The kids can make a picture for Mommy and put it on her place at the table... you can do that earlier in the day.
I'm not an MB but if my husband did that for me after a long, stressful week at work, I'd faint with happiness. Because there is always a load of dishes to be put through the dishwasher, or things on the counter, or laundry to move from wash to dryer......
1. a gift cert for a massage or manicure
2. but my bigger one would be to do something so that her time when she gets home is special. Can you fold the laundry, set the table (for 2) with a table cloth and flowers on the table, have the kids fed, bathed and ready for bed on a Friday that you know both parents will be home? that way she can get home, not have to DO anything but order dinner for her and her husband, enjoy the children, then pop them in bed? Also goes without saying that the dishes would be in the dishwasher, counters in kitchen cleaned off, toys put away, no clutter.
And soft music playing in the background. The kids can make a picture for Mommy and put it on her place at the table... you can do that earlier in the day.
I'm not an MB but if my husband did that for me after a long, stressful week at work, I'd faint with happiness. Because there is always a load of dishes to be put through the dishwasher, or things on the counter, or laundry to move from wash to dryer......
Anonymous
06/11/2015 19:01
Subject: Something nice for MB?
My Mb has had a really rough time lately. She is incredibly considerate and kind to me and I would love to do something nice for her. MBs is there anything that would make your day?