A live-in nanny can be so close with the kids, sometimes the parents too. But when it's time to move on, it's time. You could try looking for a family that only needs care in the mornings and on the weekends, or needs overnights and mornings, that way you would still have housing and an income.

All nanny relationships end. This may be time for yours to end.

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What I would so OP is speak to your family NOW.

The sooner, the better.

Let them know that the only time your classes are available are in the evening, yet you were hoping to stay on as their nanny during that time also.

Ask them if they have any possible suggestions for what you all can do.

It DOES sound like you have an excellent relationship w/them so they must be approachable & easy to talk to.

This is a huge plus in my book. If you all put your heads together, perhaps you can come up w/a good solution to this issue. Let them know what you were thinking of as well.

Good luck to all of you!~

I nannied through college and have the same relationship with that family. I never considered them employers - they were great friends and their children were my babies - still are!

I was in a similar dilemma and they adjusted to keep me around another 2 years. Then, when I decided it was really time to move on from there I got a teaching job and they insisted I live there until I find the right place to live. They didn't want me to just settle for somewhere new with people from Craigslist, they wanted to be sure everything fit just right! After my first day of work, I came home to flowers and a card from them and the first 7 weeks of my teaching job I still lived with my nanny family while the new nanny came to work.

Just talk to them. If you've been in school the entire time they'll understand that classes aren't always flexible and school changes.

Good luck OP!

By the way - I haven't worked for them since 2013 and I still talk to mom and kids at least once a week. We will forever have a great relationships and I'm so thankful for that.

If the relationship is as wonderful as you say then the family may prefer finding someone to fill in for the time that you're not available instead of hiring a completely new nanny, but you have to be prepared for them to decide that they want a single nanny to take care of the children and that you may be replaced.

Our last nanny made pretty much the same request to us because of school and we tried to make it work by having my parents fill in 2 days a week so that she could work only 3 days. It was a lot harder to juggle than I had anticipated and I was relieved when the nanny finally quit. Honestly looking back it was a mistake for us to even go along with it and now that we're back to having a single full-time nanny I don't think I'd ever agree to it again.

Yes.

You are all right.
I will eventually end up leaving...and I don't want them to have to deal with two nannies..
I will offer up some suggestions such as afternoon.
And if not...then I guess it will be time to part ways.

THANK YOU ALL TRULY.
Being a nanny is so amazing and sad at the same time. This is the second time I've had to leave a family and it's always so hard After so long.

Let them know your dilemma and see what they say. Go into the conversation with a couple of solutions such as an afternoon nanny, or your leaving and see if they have a solution you haven't thought of. I'd also look into distance education or online classes, even if it's at another school. Look under every rock.

It sounds like you're too close so finding a new job that fits your hours is a good idea.

Anonymous wrote:YES. I really do love them.

I guess it's silly to ask online. No one will really understand our kind of relationship.
Know I don't want to hinder them...but I've just grown so attached to them.

THat's all well and good, truly it is. But you can't be with them forever and you are about to move on anyways when you graduate, so why not just rip off the band-aid now and go and let them move on with their lives instead of dragging out a shitty situation for a year just for your benefit.

YES. I really do love them.

I guess it's silly to ask online. No one will really understand our kind of relationship.
Know I don't want to hinder them...but I've just grown so attached to them.

Have you ever heard this saying?

If you love someone let them go.

- Albert Einstein

Why do you want to put them through all that aggravation of having 2 nannies, one of who is a live-in who only does mornings? Why not move on and let them find someone that can benefit them instead of hinder them? Do you actually care for them or are you just saying that?

Hello! I am new to this forum and thought I might ask for some opinions/help!

I moved to DC 2 years ago and have been with this amazing family for the same amount of time. Actually today is our 2 years all together going into our 3rd. Which makes me happy!

Anyways, I am a live-in. Full Time. Mornings/ Afternoons. Pick up. Laundry, grocery shopping/ etc. We go on family vacations. My family comes and stays with us, it's a very comfortable and lovely environment.
I LOVE my little kiddos, but I have a dilemma.
I am going into my last year of college (which is why I moved to DC) and unfortunately the classes I have to take are for the next semester going to be at night
Im upset by this because it's during the times I would need to be with the kids.

I also have a GREAT relationship with the mom. I love the whole family as if they were my own. The kids are like my little brother and sister. We get along SO well.

But I need to notify my employer and I don't know how to go about it...
Is it too much to ask if I continue to work for them for the remainder of the year but my employer can get a "afternoon nanny".
Im so protective of these kids, and love them so much that I can't stand the idea of them being cared for by someone else when I'm in the same area...
The kids love me as well. The youngest one cannot be away from me for a long time as well as the eldest. We get along so well. I don't think I've ever seen a nanny-family relationship such as ours.

SO, anyways. Can anyone help me find a way to discuss this? Would it be reasonable to ask if they can lower my pay and I continue to do mornings/overnights if needed...
And someone just does afternoons ?

Or is that too much to ask?

THANKS.
And technically in our contract I have to notify 20 days prior to leaving...but I would hate for them to have no care if I leave it till August...

Thank you.