Anonymous
05/20/2015 00:14
Subject: Starting a new job
Honestly, I would rescind the offer. I'm all for having backup care, but to me that means someone who can run over for an hour or two, and DH or I can work from home for a day or two. We can't work from home for three weeks. If I could do it legally I would rescind. Sorry.
Anonymous
05/19/2015 20:01
Subject: Starting a new job
[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would let them know now.
It will establish a good amount of trust between you and them.
If you wait until you start to show to inform them, they may feel conned.
Congratulations on your good news!!~[/quote]
She'll most probably be fired on the spot. You do know that, don't you?[/quote]
As she should...... could you imagine how crappy a situation that would be for the new family? They hire a nanny and then all the sudden she wants maternity leave. If OP was a real woman she would just quit now and avoid the awkwardness.[/quote]
Want to talk about equal rights, my dear?[/quote]
I feel like this is the same debate educated people have to have with people like you about "freedom of speech" and how you don't have the right to shout FIRE in a crowded theater. You have every right to get pregnant and have a baby, do as you wish, but it is not my or any other MBs responsibility to carry you on our backs through it. And honestly you should be a grown up and feel moral by not putting your burdens on others.[/quote]
Are you seriously that stupid? OP asked WHEN to tell them.
It will establish a good amount of trust between you and them.
If you wait until you start to show to inform them, they may feel conned.
Congratulations on your good news!!~[/quote]
She'll most probably be fired on the spot. You do know that, don't you?[/quote]
As she should...... could you imagine how crappy a situation that would be for the new family? They hire a nanny and then all the sudden she wants maternity leave. If OP was a real woman she would just quit now and avoid the awkwardness.[/quote]
Want to talk about equal rights, my dear?[/quote]
I feel like this is the same debate educated people have to have with people like you about "freedom of speech" and how you don't have the right to shout FIRE in a crowded theater. You have every right to get pregnant and have a baby, do as you wish, but it is not my or any other MBs responsibility to carry you on our backs through it. And honestly you should be a grown up and feel moral by not putting your burdens on others.[/quote]
Are you seriously that stupid? OP asked WHEN to tell them.
Anonymous
05/19/2015 19:08
Subject: Starting a new job
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would let them know now.
It will establish a good amount of trust between you and them.
If you wait until you start to show to inform them, they may feel conned.
Congratulations on your good news!!~
She'll most probably be fired on the spot. You do know that, don't you?
As she should...... could you imagine how crappy a situation that would be for the new family? They hire a nanny and then all the sudden she wants maternity leave. If OP was a real woman she would just quit now and avoid the awkwardness.
Want to talk about equal rights, my dear?
I feel like this is the same debate educated people have to have with people like you about "freedom of speech" and how you don't have the right to shout FIRE in a crowded theater. You have every right to get pregnant and have a baby, do as you wish, but it is not my or any other MBs responsibility to carry you on our backs through it. And honestly you should be a grown up and feel moral by not putting your burdens on others.
Anonymous
05/19/2015 13:39
Subject: Re:Starting a new job
How far along are you? I'd wait until you were out of the first trimester
As an MB, I would like to know as early as you were able to tell me. I would not fire you but I would like to be able to plan early on how we are going to handle appointments, your absence after baby is born, if there are complications that cause you to go out on leave before baby is born, what will happen after, etc. I also work in a field where being big and pregnant can be seen as not able to fulfill all your job duties, but there are thankfully other options available to work with those of us who are pregnant and cannot perform what needs to be done. No one gets fired for being pregnant (although per diems do not get called as much and that apparently is not illegal). Anyways, my point is I'm sympathetic to the fact that nannies do not get that same protection.
For you, I would not bring it up until you've discussed with your partner at least the following scenarios
1. Can you afford to live on just one income? For how long?
2. Are you high risk (I don't know if you have pre exisiting conditions or age that would automatically qualify you) which means will you have more appointments than normal?
3. What are your plans after baby is born? Will you want to stay home? Return to work? Return to work only at a job where you can bring your baby? This doesn't have to be a definite decision, but at least have an idea
4. How long of a maternity leave can you take? This is separate from the first point. How many vacation and sick days do you have? How many will be used for appointments if you're a normal pregnancy? How long can you afford to not be working after baby is born?
None of these have to have a definitive answer, but they are things you should think about before you bring it up to your employer. While your employer is going to be happy for you (well at least hopefully) they are also going to want to start discussing the logistics of it ASAP so they can look for back up care or plan their schedules in anticipation of whats to come. Going in with having a pretty good idea of what YOU want will help them figure it out plus will hopefully prevent you from feeling like you have to agree to things before you've thought about it from your side.
And congrats!
As an MB, I would like to know as early as you were able to tell me. I would not fire you but I would like to be able to plan early on how we are going to handle appointments, your absence after baby is born, if there are complications that cause you to go out on leave before baby is born, what will happen after, etc. I also work in a field where being big and pregnant can be seen as not able to fulfill all your job duties, but there are thankfully other options available to work with those of us who are pregnant and cannot perform what needs to be done. No one gets fired for being pregnant (although per diems do not get called as much and that apparently is not illegal). Anyways, my point is I'm sympathetic to the fact that nannies do not get that same protection.
For you, I would not bring it up until you've discussed with your partner at least the following scenarios
1. Can you afford to live on just one income? For how long?
2. Are you high risk (I don't know if you have pre exisiting conditions or age that would automatically qualify you) which means will you have more appointments than normal?
3. What are your plans after baby is born? Will you want to stay home? Return to work? Return to work only at a job where you can bring your baby? This doesn't have to be a definite decision, but at least have an idea
4. How long of a maternity leave can you take? This is separate from the first point. How many vacation and sick days do you have? How many will be used for appointments if you're a normal pregnancy? How long can you afford to not be working after baby is born?
None of these have to have a definitive answer, but they are things you should think about before you bring it up to your employer. While your employer is going to be happy for you (well at least hopefully) they are also going to want to start discussing the logistics of it ASAP so they can look for back up care or plan their schedules in anticipation of whats to come. Going in with having a pretty good idea of what YOU want will help them figure it out plus will hopefully prevent you from feeling like you have to agree to things before you've thought about it from your side.
And congrats!
Anonymous
05/19/2015 13:05
Subject: Starting a new job
Anonymous wrote:I was hired when my MB was still pregnant. 3 weeks before i was supposted to start working i found out i was expecting. I told them. They kept me and let me brought my child to work. Stayed with the for 3 years
What a very happy ending. Thank you for sharing that.
Anonymous
05/19/2015 13:04
Subject: Starting a new job
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would let them know now.
It will establish a good amount of trust between you and them.
If you wait until you start to show to inform them, they may feel conned.
Congratulations on your good news!!~
She'll most probably be fired on the spot. You do know that, don't you?
As she should...... could you imagine how crappy a situation that would be for the new family? They hire a nanny and then all the sudden she wants maternity leave. If OP was a real woman she would just quit now and avoid the awkwardness.
Want to talk about equal rights, my dear?
Anonymous
05/19/2015 12:55
Subject: Starting a new job
I was hired when my MB was still pregnant. 3 weeks before i was supposted to start working i found out i was expecting. I told them. They kept me and let me brought my child to work. Stayed with the for 3 years
Anonymous
05/19/2015 12:20
Subject: Starting a new job
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would let them know now.
It will establish a good amount of trust between you and them.
If you wait until you start to show to inform them, they may feel conned.
Congratulations on your good news!!~
She'll most probably be fired on the spot. You do know that, don't you?
As she should...... could you imagine how crappy a situation that would be for the new family? They hire a nanny and then all the sudden she wants maternity leave. If OP was a real woman she would just quit now and avoid the awkwardness.
Anonymous
05/19/2015 12:03
Subject: Starting a new job
Anonymous wrote:I would let them know now.
It will establish a good amount of trust between you and them.
If you wait until you start to show to inform them, they may feel conned.
Congratulations on your good news!!~
She'll most probably be fired on the spot. You do know that, don't you?
Anonymous
05/19/2015 10:43
Subject: Starting a new job
I would let them know now.
It will establish a good amount of trust between you and them.
If you wait until you start to show to inform them, they may feel conned.
Congratulations on your good news!!~
It will establish a good amount of trust between you and them.
If you wait until you start to show to inform them, they may feel conned.
Congratulations on your good news!!~
Anonymous
05/19/2015 00:41
Subject: Starting a new job
Congratulations!!
You should search the Jobs and Careers forum about this.
What kind of job is it? Age of child? Schedule?
You should search the Jobs and Careers forum about this.
What kind of job is it? Age of child? Schedule?
Anonymous
05/18/2015 23:13
Subject: Starting a new job
I was just offrred a job. I found out I am pregnant should I let them no? Or just start and then tell them. Help please?