Sorry but I would quit.

Anonymous wrote:You don't have to worry about MB being a blabbermouth because I am sure you will never tell her anything personal ever again!

However - I could NOT work in a dirty home. I would quit based on that alone and quit now before I became too attached to the children. Was their home clean when you interviewed with them?

Their home was messy with boxes everywhere but they were were in so I figured it was that. Then it was disaster on the first day. The other thing I hate is MB knows no boundaries. I had to take off one day for a very serious matter. I had what should of been a good test come back abnormal. I asked for an hour but MB gave me the day. The whole day she sat there going back from saying how much they are happy to have me to making sure I am reliable and how I understand to importance of reliability. That happened the second week. I haven't missed any other time ( usually don't) and have worked OT literally 2-4 times a week since the day I started. I jut hate that she is been moody changy and some days treats me like I'm 5.

You don't have to worry about MB being a blabbermouth because I am sure you will never tell her anything personal ever again!

However - I could NOT work in a dirty home. I would quit based on that alone and quit now before I became too attached to the children. Was their home clean when you interviewed with them?

Even though you cannot pinpoint exactly what is bothering you in this position, does not mean that there is nothing amiss.

Listen to your gut. It is telling you something here. More like warning you.

Try to figure out what it is because if it is something that can be discussed with them, perhaps you may be able to rectify the situation, if you so choose.

If not, simply let them know that you do not feel you are a suitable fit.

Of if you really do not want to hurt their feelings, you can always lie and tell them your Aunt in Timbuktu just died.

Trust me, the longer you stay working for this family, the more bitter, unhappy and resentful you will get. And it will not end well.

Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:I think maybe you were just hoping for a bigger life change with a job change than you got. Maybe you put a lot of hope into this job change, thinking it would be the end-all, be-all for you and would improve everything, and now that you're in it, you realize there are still some frustrating things in life.

I'd give it a little more time, but if they are basically a good fit for you, what else can you expect? I don't think I would leave for another similar job. If you wanted to try something new -- like a daycare center or preschool or something -- that's different, but for another nanny job? I don't see why you would be happier unless there are specific issues you can verbalize that you'd rather have in a job than you have now.

There are a few things I dislike. For one, they are slobs. I'm not the neatest person but I literally come to open boxes of food and dirty dishes laying around. It's like a maze for every room with piles of books, blankets, shoes, clothing, etc., walk over. The most frustrating is the baby's nursery. I kept his room everyday and the next day MB's clothes are on the floor, bottles strewed everyone, dirty diapers left out, etc. I hate walking in to a room to find MB's dirty panties on the nursery floor. I feel like they're personal housekeeper in the sense if trying to keep his room and everything orderly.

Second and last, MB is a blabber mouth. I told her something private ( she asked pretty personal questions) and I later had two of her friend and one neighbor bring up my situation and how sad it was to hear, etc. I do not want MB telling my business to the neighborhood. We have a confidentiality agreement, too. I like the professional and personal balance of things. I just don't want MB blabbing everything to her friends.

Have you heard the saying, the grass is always greener on the other side? That definitely applies here. I've been in the same boat before, twice actually. The first time I foolishly switched to another family and I regretted it. The second time it happened I stuck around for 5 years and it turned into the best job I've ever had. If you can't find anything you don't like about your job, focus on the things you do like about your job. Over time you will begin to love your charge which hopefully will translate to you loving the job. Good luck OP!

I think maybe you were just hoping for a bigger life change with a job change than you got. Maybe you put a lot of hope into this job change, thinking it would be the end-all, be-all for you and would improve everything, and now that you're in it, you realize there are still some frustrating things in life.

I'd give it a little more time, but if they are basically a good fit for you, what else can you expect? I don't think I would leave for another similar job. If you wanted to try something new -- like a daycare center or preschool or something -- that's different, but for another nanny job? I don't see why you would be happier unless there are specific issues you can verbalize that you'd rather have in a job than you have now.

I want to add on that I was not all that enthusiastic about the job when I got the offer either. They really loved me from the interview and practically hounded me until I accepted. My main motivation to take this job was to get out of a very terrible one.

My employers are mostly great, I love my charge, and pay and hours are decent. I still find myself feeling like it's not the best fit. When I was in a great position I never was interested in being poached or looking around. This position is pretty good but I can't help but think what is out there they may be a better for me. I feel like a jerk for thinking this way. I am debating on sticking it out or taking the plunge to find something else. I've been with them a little over a month. They can't stop complimenting me and gloating to friends/neighbors and that makes me feel even more guilty for thinking of leaving.

How did it turn out for you?