Do whatever is comfortable. I've been a nanny for over 15 years. Many of those years were with infants. Initially I felt weird when viewed as a mother figure. Now I'm okay with it. I've received gifts from some families and I'm grateful for them. I always make sure the children create something memorable for their mothers. For infants, I create art to commemorate the first mothers day. Years later, all the mothers cherish them. There are no hard fast rules. Do whatever is comfortable. Whenever I wish any of my MB's a happy Mother's day, they thank me for making their mothering less stressful.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not have children but have always received chocolates from my MB as she feels that I am a mother figure to her children.

We should have a separate Nanny's Day. I am NOT a mother figure - I am a teacher and caretaker. I never want to be thought of by my employers or my charges as a "mother figure". Uck!

Totally agree!!!

Absolutely pick a day to celebrate the nanny. But that isn't Mother's Day.

+1,000,000

I am not a mother figure to my charges!

as another nanny, I don't understand this sentiment. How are you not a mother figure? Mother figure and mother substitute are not the same thing. As a nanny, if you're doing your job right, your relationship is much closer to that of a mother figure than that of a teacher. I've been with my charge since she was 4 weeks old. I was there when she took her first steps, said her first words, rocked her to sleep at night, cared for her when sick, celebrated her birthdays, kissed her boo boos. I don't expect to be recognized on Mother's day, but why would I take offense if I was? Kind of ridiculous.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not have children but have always received chocolates from my MB as she feels that I am a mother figure to her children.

We should have a separate Nanny's Day. I am NOT a mother figure - I am a teacher and caretaker. I never want to be thought of by my employers or my charges as a "mother figure". Uck!

Totally agree!!!

Absolutely pick a day to celebrate the nanny. But that isn't Mother's Day.

+1,000,000

I am not a mother figure to my charges!

Np here. I'm a mother figure to my charges. I work 24 hrs a day and on average the children only see their parents about 6- 8 days per month. But I wouldn't expect a Mother's Day card, weird. Actually creepy

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not have children but have always received chocolates from my MB as she feels that I am a mother figure to her children.

We should have a separate Nanny's Day. I am NOT a mother figure - I am a teacher and caretaker. I never want to be thought of by my employers or my charges as a "mother figure". Uck!

Totally agree!!!

Absolutely pick a day to celebrate the nanny. But that isn't Mother's Day.

+1,000,000

I am not a mother figure to my charges!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not have children but have always received chocolates from my MB as she feels that I am a mother figure to her children.

We should have a separate Nanny's Day. I am NOT a mother figure - I am a teacher and caretaker. I never want to be thought of by my employers or my charges as a "mother figure". Uck!

Totally agree!!!

Absolutely pick a day to celebrate the nanny. But that isn't Mother's Day.

Anonymous wrote:I do not have children but have always received chocolates from my MB as she feels that I am a mother figure to her children.

We should have a separate Nanny's Day. I am NOT a mother figure - I am a teacher and caretaker. I never want to be thought of by my employers or my charges as a "mother figure". Uck!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing unless she is your mother. Mother's Day is for YOUR MOTHER and no one elses.

I wish my sister's and friends a happy mothers day.

You shouldn't. They are not your mother. I agree with the other PPs.

And I think it takes away from your own celebration with your own mother. I want my kids to think of me and only me on Mother's Day. Meanwhile I will be thinking of my beautiful mother.

Mother's day is a Hallmark holiday. Anyone can celebrate it in any way they damn well please. My mother is of course my mother, but I have lots of mother figures who I also like to honor, as well as the mother figures to my own children. What the hell are you going to do when your kids have MILs and have the nerve to wish her happy mothers day?

Calm down! PP gave her opinion - that's all. I happen to agree with her opinion but I really don't care what anyone else does.


However, if I give our nanny a mother's day gift does she have to give me a mother's day gift?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing unless she is your mother. Mother's Day is for YOUR MOTHER and no one elses.

I wish my sister's and friends a happy mothers day.

You shouldn't. They are not your mother. I agree with the other PPs.

And I think it takes away from your own celebration with your own mother. I want my kids to think of me and only me on Mother's Day. Meanwhile I will be thinking of my beautiful mother.

Mother's day is a Hallmark holiday. Anyone can celebrate it in any way they damn well please. My mother is of course my mother, but I have lots of mother figures who I also like to honor, as well as the mother figures to my own children. What the hell are you going to do when your kids have MILs and have the nerve to wish her happy mothers day?

I do not have children but have always received chocolates from my MB as she feels that I am a mother figure to her children.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing unless she is your mother. Mother's Day is for YOUR MOTHER and no one elses.

I wish my sister's and friends a happy mothers day.

You shouldn't. They are not your mother. I agree with the other PPs.

And I think it takes away from your own celebration with your own mother. I want my kids to think of me and only me on Mother's Day. Meanwhile I will be thinking of my beautiful mother.

Anonymous wrote:Nothing unless she is your mother. Mother's Day is for YOUR MOTHER and no one elses.

I wish my sister's and friends a happy mothers day.

Mother's Day is the day you honor your mother.

Nothing unless she is your mother. Mother's Day is for YOUR MOTHER and no one elses.

Nothing. She's the nanny, not the mother of anyone in your household, and Mother's Day happens on a Sunday when presumably she isn't working.

You can wish her a happy mother's day of course but anything beyond that seems weird.

This will be our first Mother's Day with our nanny (who has two children), and wondered what people have done for gifts, etc., to acknowledge the day.
Thanks!