Anonymous wrote:Have her do a paid trial and tell her flat out "Our only hesitation besides confirming your references is that it didn't seem like you tried to bond with our child. I'm concerned you'll give more attention to your girl than ours. If you're our nanny, the attention really needs to be with BOTH girls. Is that truly something you think you can do?"
See what her answer is, and see how the paid trial goes.
+1, though I think the first sentence of this phrasing is unnecessarily antagonistic. The second half is excellent, though. I agree with the poster who said it sounds like you've found a great match IF you can be reassured. So ask her to reassure you.