Anonymous
Post 04/21/2015 13:29     Subject: Hiring a first-time nanny?

Anonymous wrote:Have her do a paid trial and tell her flat out "Our only hesitation besides confirming your references is that it didn't seem like you tried to bond with our child. I'm concerned you'll give more attention to your girl than ours. If you're our nanny, the attention really needs to be with BOTH girls. Is that truly something you think you can do?"

See what her answer is, and see how the paid trial goes.


+1, though I think the first sentence of this phrasing is unnecessarily antagonistic. The second half is excellent, though. I agree with the poster who said it sounds like you've found a great match IF you can be reassured. So ask her to reassure you.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2015 07:35     Subject: Re:Hiring a first-time nanny?

You are a mother. How much attention would you honestly give another child when you were with your child?
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2015 07:30     Subject: Hiring a first-time nanny?

I'm assuming this was the interview? How much bonding did you expect?
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2015 23:26     Subject: Hiring a first-time nanny?

Have her do a paid trial and tell her flat out "Our only hesitation besides confirming your references is that it didn't seem like you tried to bond with our child. I'm concerned you'll give more attention to your girl than ours. If you're our nanny, the attention really needs to be with BOTH girls. Is that truly something you think you can do?"

See what her answer is, and see how the paid trial goes.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2015 21:58     Subject: Hiring a first-time nanny?

1. She's affordable
2. She comes recommended by a trusted person
3. She has a healthy, happy child

What is the problem? Are you really going to look for problems? You don't have a lot of options and have found someone willing to offer quality care at a price you can afford.
Did she greet your child? Did she speak to your child or completely ignore her existence?
In that situation, I wouldn't expect much bonding to happen.
Be happy you've found such a bargain.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2015 21:25     Subject: Hiring a first-time nanny?


This is a repost - didn't get any responses in the other forum...


We had a wonderful nanny when we lived in DC, we have since moved and are desperate to get DD out of a bad daycare. We have been on waitlists for some time and it still looks like we won't have a lot of luck any time soon.

Our former daycare teacher mentioned that her sister was looking for a nanny job and she spoke highly of her. The potential nanny has a child the same age as our DD, but she has never nannied before. She has had extensive babysitting experiences (which I have to get references for), and plans on bringing her child with her every day. DH works from home, so he'll be here if there are any issues.

So, she is very affordable, and I think she's just trying to get her foot into the nannying world, which is fine by us. Our income level has dropped significantly and we couldn't afford a nanny like our former one (she had extensive experience and education). But, I noticed when she was here, she only focused on her child. I think she was assuming that we would watch our daughter (of course we were), but I was thinking that it was odd that she didn't really try to bond with DD much. I'm assuming that would change if she came to work for us.

Anyways. That was a bit of a red flag, but I think that's something we can see improves...Perhaps give her a trial?

I will mention that one reason we like her is the she is willing to do all this legally, get re-certified in CPR, etc. She has a lot of friends in our region who are nannies (like her sister), so she knows all the parks, libraries, etc. Also, her son seems to be thriving.

Is there anyone been through this that could shed some light on this?

Thanks.