Anonymous wrote:Unless the nanny is unable to perform her full-time job because she's exhausted or burned out or something, the MB has no business trying to dictate what the nanny does during her free time.

This is the risk. When she shows up sleepy, quality of care drops, and the house starts to get messy.

Anonymous wrote:I would not tell the nanny she's not allowed to do it. But I would not like it. Anyone working 45 - 50 hours a week needs time to recharge each night. If she's regularly sitting a lot on top of that, that's not possible.

I call BS. Let's say this nanny gets off at 6pm and hops right over to the neighbors, serves their kids dinner, gives them a bath, and puts them to bed. Kids are asleep by 8pm, nanny then watches TV for a couple hours, and parents stroll in around 10pm. Nanny goes home, goes to bed, and wakes up the next day ready for work. Plenty of working parents do exactly that every single day of the work week.

Anonymous wrote:I would not tell the nanny she's not allowed to do it. But I would not like it. Anyone working 45 - 50 hours a week needs time to recharge each night. If she's regularly sitting a lot on top of that, that's not possible.

stop projecting. 45-50hrs a week is nothing for some people. You sound like a princess.

Before I had kids I always worked two jobs. My longest stretch was a solid 6 months of straight work without a day off. Didn't bother me one bit until I had children.

I would not tell the nanny she's not allowed to do it. But I would not like it. Anyone working 45 - 50 hours a week needs time to recharge each night. If she's regularly sitting a lot on top of that, that's not possible.

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Anonymous wrote:This should have been discussed before hiring the nanny. If you won't allow your nanny to work extra jobs then you state that and the nanny can decide to accept the job or not. I would assume you pay more for this unusual demand from your nanny. Most don't like being told they can't work for others

There is no way that anyone can dictate what an employee does on her/his off hours as long as it is legal. There is no such thing as "you won't allow your nanny to work extra jobs".

I've had jobs like this. They are out there.

Anonymous wrote:This should have been discussed before hiring the nanny. If you won't allow your nanny to work extra jobs then you state that and the nanny can decide to accept the job or not. I would assume you pay more for this unusual demand from your nanny. Most don't like being told they can't work for others

There is no way that anyone can dictate what an employee does on her/his off hours as long as it is legal. There is no such thing as "you won't allow your nanny to work extra jobs".

Most people have told her she has no right to be upset. A few have poked fun saying "she has ownership rights to Nanny." I think 2 ppl agreed with her that her neighbors should have asked her first.

Wow. What's the consensus on the other board? I'm an employer and I vote nuts.

This should have been discussed before hiring the nanny. If you won't allow your nanny to work extra jobs then you state that and the nanny can decide to accept the job or not. I would assume you pay more for this unusual demand from your nanny. Most don't like being told they can't work for others

She may not be nuts, but she's way out of line. For some reason there are still some people who believe because you work for them, they own you (in a way). She has no right to dictate how she spends her free time, including working for others. If she notices nanny is too tired at work and not performing well, then she can address that. Otherwise, it's none of her business.

I've actually had employers ask that I not work extra hours just in case they need me to work extra. Ummmm no.

If MB would like to pay nanny to NOT work for others, then she can ask nanny to forget taking any additional sitting jobs and bill MB for the fees.Otherwise MB is wrong and rude.

She's a whackadoo. You don't get to decide what your nanny will or will not do during HER time.

Unless the nanny is unable to perform her full-time job because she's exhausted or burned out or something, the MB has no business trying to dictate what the nanny does during her free time.

She's way over stepping Hopefully the nanny will pick up on this and not mention anything other than she needs to be off by 6. The boss shouldn't worry about what extra sitting gigs the nanny takes. Presumably the nanny can manage herself and show up awake, alert, and ready for the work day.

I read this on another parenting board and thought this woman was crazy:

We have a full-time nanny, currently guaranteeing her 45 hours per week, though lately it has been between 45-50 hours a week. She just asked me what time she would be finished today, because our neighbor (friends of ours) asked her to babysit starting at 6pm. I don't think I will need her that late today (fulfilling a nine hour day), but it bothers me that she is taking extra hours from our neighbors. I know our neighbors have a class together every Tuesday night and she could be babysitting for 3-4 hours. I just said that I felt uncomfortable with her taking job from our neighbors when we need her full-time. After all, 45-50 hours is quite of work. Thoughts on this?