I've worked for parents like this.

Meaning...I could take them or leave them.

But as long as they are treating you fairly as the family nanny, I wouldn't care too much about how I feel toward them unless of course, they work from home + you have to get along w/them.

Mostly as long as my charge and I get along, that takes full precedence over any relationship I may or may not have w/the parents.

I feel exactly the same about my employers. I get weary dealing with MB's insecurities which would be much easier if I actually liked her but aside from that it (my ambivalence) doesn't have any impact on my job. I love my charges and that is all that matters.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I understand exactly what you are talking about, OP. I don't care for my employers either (but like you -- love my job and my charge). I am in even a weirder situation of being able to do extra for them if I wanted (I came into some substantial money) and could give them a reduced rate or not ask for a raise -- but don't give them a reduced rate and I always make sure I get my raise even though I don't need the money. I just don't think they deserve any extras.


I'm sure a lot of people feel indifference to their bosses but it is different when you fell this indifference to a boss whose home you are in 50 hours a week and whose child you love and care for.

Why would anyone reduce their wage because they came into money? It makes sense to ask for fewer hours or find a job that you like better that doesn't pay as well, but why would you work the same hours at the same job for less money?

PP here. I'm not crazy about my employers but I love my charge and I love being a nanny. If I liked my employers I would tell them about the money, reduce my rate and certainly not ask/expect an annual raise. But I don't so I won't.

I am totally "meh" about my current employers, too. They are fine, I guess, but there is nothing warm or welcoming about them at all. They have never once said, "How are you?" to me either.

They have a wonderful little boy however and we (the parents and I) do talk about him all the time.

I know exactly what you mean. I've had some wonderful parents who I really cared for and who became good friends, or parents I liked but on a more professional level. But I am completely indifferent to the people I work for now. They treat me well, they pay me very generously, are always accommodating (and I am in return) and I enjoy the job and love the kid, but I really don't care for them. Like, if I never saw them again, I would not spend a lot of time thinking of them.

It's a bit of a new feeling for me tbh, I've always clicked with parents straight away or had a really professional relationship where clicking wasn't on the agenda. Now the mom is friendly and we talk about things but I don't really put anything into it. It's weird.

Anonymous wrote:I only see my bosses for 5-10 minutes of chatting at 8am and 5-10 minutes of chatting at 5pm. Sometimes less if they are in a rush for an 8:30am meeting or I am in a rush to get somewhere by 5:30pm or 6pm. We keep a logbook of the children's activities and catch up just fine.

They are friendly enough asking how I am, talking about weather, activities, showing me pictures, but nothing more or less. I don't even know where they are going for vacation next week except that it is with the grandparents. Fine with me.

What you describe would be fine with me too. I don't need to be close with my bosses. However, my bosses are like a pp who posted recently. In several years, they have never said "how are you?", or "how was your weekend?", etc., even when I ask them the same. I am not an over-sharer, so it's not due to them being worried I would talk too long when answering. It's just that they are so incredibly self-absorbed. They are so busy with their own drama and thinking of how everything is affecting them, they fail to even have a thought about another person. They see me as a servant, not as a person to even wonder how she is. They try a bit harder with friends or family, but are self-centered with them as well. Of course then it figures that "just the nanny" would not even get a second thought.

I only see my bosses for 5-10 minutes of chatting at 8am and 5-10 minutes of chatting at 5pm. Sometimes less if they are in a rush for an 8:30am meeting or I am in a rush to get somewhere by 5:30pm or 6pm. We keep a logbook of the children's activities and catch up just fine.

They are friendly enough asking how I am, talking about weather, activities, showing me pictures, but nothing more or less. I don't even know where they are going for vacation next week except that it is with the grandparents. Fine with me.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I understand exactly what you are talking about, OP. I don't care for my employers either (but like you -- love my job and my charge). I am in even a weirder situation of being able to do extra for them if I wanted (I came into some substantial money) and could give them a reduced rate or not ask for a raise -- but don't give them a reduced rate and I always make sure I get my raise even though I don't need the money. I just don't think they deserve any extras.


I'm sure a lot of people feel indifference to their bosses but it is different when you fell this indifference to a boss whose home you are in 50 hours a week and whose child you love and care for.

Do your employers know that you came into "substantial money", PP?

My employers have never uttered the words, "How are you?" to me! No, they have no idea.

How selfish they are. I can't imagine.

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I understand exactly what you are talking about, OP. I don't care for my employers either (but like you -- love my job and my charge). I am in even a weirder situation of being able to do extra for them if I wanted (I came into some substantial money) and could give them a reduced rate or not ask for a raise -- but don't give them a reduced rate and I always make sure I get my raise even though I don't need the money. I just don't think they deserve any extras.


I'm sure a lot of people feel indifference to their bosses but it is different when you fell this indifference to a boss whose home you are in 50 hours a week and whose child you love and care for.

Why would anyone reduce their wage because they came into money? It makes sense to ask for fewer hours or find a job that you like better that doesn't pay as well, but why would you work the same hours at the same job for less money?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I understand exactly what you are talking about, OP. I don't care for my employers either (but like you -- love my job and my charge). I am in even a weirder situation of being able to do extra for them if I wanted (I came into some substantial money) and could give them a reduced rate or not ask for a raise -- but don't give them a reduced rate and I always make sure I get my raise even though I don't need the money. I just don't think they deserve any extras.


I'm sure a lot of people feel indifference to their bosses but it is different when you fell this indifference to a boss whose home you are in 50 hours a week and whose child you love and care for.

Do your employers know that you came into "substantial money", PP?

My employers have never uttered the words, "How are you?" to me! No, they have no idea.

Being indifferent to someone is probably the biggest insult you can give a person. It mean they aren't even worth the expenditure of any emotion.

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I understand exactly what you are talking about, OP. I don't care for my employers either (but like you -- love my job and my charge). I am in even a weirder situation of being able to do extra for them if I wanted (I came into some substantial money) and could give them a reduced rate or not ask for a raise -- but don't give them a reduced rate and I always make sure I get my raise even though I don't need the money. I just don't think they deserve any extras.


I'm sure a lot of people feel indifference to their bosses but it is different when you fell this indifference to a boss whose home you are in 50 hours a week and whose child you love and care for.

Do your employers know that you came into "substantial money", PP?

Anonymous wrote:I actually don't like or dislike them. They are okay. I love my charge and I love my job but my employers are just okay.

I was wondering how common that "meh" feeling about your employers is...

Perfectly ok, OP. Don't worry about it.

Wow, I understand exactly what you are talking about, OP. I don't care for my employers either (but like you -- love my job and my charge). I am in even a weirder situation of being able to do extra for them if I wanted (I came into some substantial money) and could give them a reduced rate or not ask for a raise -- but don't give them a reduced rate and I always make sure I get my raise even though I don't need the money. I just don't think they deserve any extras.


I'm sure a lot of people feel indifference to their bosses but it is different when you fell this indifference to a boss whose home you are in 50 hours a week and whose child you love and care for.

I actually don't like or dislike them. They are okay. I love my charge and I love my job but my employers are just okay.

I was wondering how common that "meh" feeling about your employers is...