Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Me too, OP. I kind of try to not think about it, beyond keeping all our financial stuff in our office, keeping the drawers in our desk locked, not gossiping in front of the nanny, etc. I keep the house a somewhat professional place for the nanny to be.

I am sure she appreciates it! The truth is that we don't WANT to be in your business; it just comes with the territory. Discretion helps us feel relaxed and comfortable at work. Good job, MB!

+1

There is nothing more awkward than a MB who confides in us. It's nice to feel trusted, but puts us in a very weird position.

It really depends on how open you are with your nanny.

I've had families where I knew nothing, they never talked to me so I pretty much knew what their house looked like and that's it.

Other times....other times people over share.


Really a nanny shouldn't know about an employers sex life unless the employer shares (which they shouldn't) or if they're a live in with thin wall.s

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:... knows about our private lives. She is an amazing nanny and a lovely woman who keeps her personal life to herself. Having worked for us for nearly two years, she knows a lot about our private lives and it feels weird at times not to mention very one-sided. I wasn't raised with a nanny or any kind of in-home help so I have no idea if my feelings are common or even valid.

This post, if it is even real, makes no sense unless the nanny is a live-in or snooping all about.

I am not a live in and I am not the least bit interested in "snooping". And I know a shocking amount about my employers. I know what the wear to bed and what their relationships are with their parents. I know how hard they are trying to have another baby (and who is at fault) and that DB silently seethes when MB loses her glasses, wallet, keys. I know that MB rules the house and she better watch how she talks to DB or she is going to lose him one day. I know how MB is always trying to win her mother's approval.

I know because I am in their home 50 hours a week and I have eyes and ears.

My employers know very little about me and have never even been inside my house.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does your nanny know? I am not even sure my nanny knows what I do for a living.

Don't kid yourself. I know things I would rather not about:
MB/DB sex life
How MB And DB feel about their respective inlaws
What MB and DB eat and how much alcohol and coffee they drink
How clean they are (piles of laundry/dishes vs clean floors)
Which kid they favor an why.
Financial stressors


That's just off the top of my head. I am not nosy and they are not blabbermouths, but I'm not stupid and 2 years of being the fly on the wall add up.

Are you also the "OP"?

Anonymous wrote:... knows about our private lives. She is an amazing nanny and a lovely woman who keeps her personal life to herself. Having worked for us for nearly two years, she knows a lot about our private lives and it feels weird at times not to mention very one-sided. I wasn't raised with a nanny or any kind of in-home help so I have no idea if my feelings are common or even valid.

This post, if it is even real, makes no sense unless the nanny is a live-in or snooping all about.

Anonymous wrote:Me too, OP. I kind of try to not think about it, beyond keeping all our financial stuff in our office, keeping the drawers in our desk locked, not gossiping in front of the nanny, etc. I keep the house a somewhat professional place for the nanny to be.

I am sure she appreciates it! The truth is that we don't WANT to be in your business; it just comes with the territory. Discretion helps us feel relaxed and comfortable at work. Good job, MB!

Me too, OP. I kind of try to not think about it, beyond keeping all our financial stuff in our office, keeping the drawers in our desk locked, not gossiping in front of the nanny, etc. I keep the house a somewhat professional place for the nanny to be.

Anonymous wrote:... knows about our private lives. She is an amazing nanny and a lovely woman who keeps her personal life to herself. Having worked for us for nearly two years, she knows a lot about our private lives and it feels weird at times not to mention very one-sided. I wasn't raised with a nanny or any kind of in-home help so I have no idea if my feelings are common or even valid.

What did you expect? You are ridiculous. Stay home with you kids if you want absolute privacy. You may be surprised to find that your nanny finds you deadly dull and boring.

Yeah, I easily know their financial priorities. Hard to hide that.

Anonymous wrote:What does your nanny know? I am not even sure my nanny knows what I do for a living.

Don't kid yourself. I know things I would rather not about:
MB/DB sex life
How MB And DB feel about their respective inlaws
What MB and DB eat and how much alcohol and coffee they drink
How clean they are (piles of laundry/dishes vs clean floors)
Which kid they favor an why.
Financial stressors


That's just off the top of my head. I am not nosy and they are not blabbermouths, but I'm not stupid and 2 years of being the fly on the wall add up.

That's the nature of the job OP. There's no way to give someone total access to your home, your kids, everything you hold dear in the world, and not have it feel incredibly personal.

Be thankful you have a nanny who maintains boundaries herself - that's a blessing, and speaks also to her profesionalism in how she's likely viewing her knowledge of your world.

What does your nanny know? I am not even sure my nanny knows what I do for a living.

It's just part of having someone work in your home.

I'm sorry, OP. The end.

... knows about our private lives. She is an amazing nanny and a lovely woman who keeps her personal life to herself. Having worked for us for nearly two years, she knows a lot about our private lives and it feels weird at times not to mention very one-sided. I wasn't raised with a nanny or any kind of in-home help so I have no idea if my feelings are common or even valid.