Here's the thing: employers think that nannies accomplish more during the day and get better behavior from the kids because we don't have the added stress that they do of trying to run a household, and because the children love them more and therefore save their bad behavior for their parents. Those things are true, but in my experience they only account for maybe 25% of the difference. The bigger component of the difference between what I accomplish and how your kids behave for me is simply that I have a skill set that I have mastered. I have gone out of my way to gain information and experience about child development and discipline and I apply those things in every encounter with your kids. I know more about it than you do and I don't sometimes decide that I'm too tired to actually deal with the discipline problem and just given I give them the best possible discipline every time. That means that over time they get out of the habit of even trying to push the boundaries with me. I also have the necessary skill set to run a house. I have been in nanny positions where I did all the grocery shopping, all the cooking, and kept the kids laundry done and the kids play spaces in order during the day. I did all this by myself. You have two adults on the weekends with the same number of children and while you may have more tasks, there are two of you to tackle everything. Juggling a household and general household management is a skill set. It is not something that just anyone can do.

The reason that nannies can be so critical of parents is that so often parents seem to think that they could in fact do our jobs just as well as we do, but they simply choose to work out of the home instead. The reality is that you could not do my job. You would suck at it and fail every day. Please acknowledge my skill set, instead of saying that you could do my job perfectly...if you weren't just "too busy on the weekends."

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Anonymous wrote:I imagine OP is a lovely and kind employer, but unfortunately she's in the minority.

Perhaps more parents would express such appropriate gratitude?

I see most nannies start out as all-giving. And then get burned again and again.

You are such a sap, PP!!! I can't believe you fell for that horses*it!!!

Yep, I fell for it. Although I have had a good number of employers who worshiped the ground I walked on.

Anonymous wrote:I imagine OP is a lovely and kind employer, but unfortunately she's in the minority.

Perhaps more parents would express such appropriate gratitude?

I see most nannies start out as all-giving. And then get burned again and again.

You are such a sap, PP!!! I can't believe you fell for that horses*it!!!

Anonymous wrote:We appreciate what you do.

Most of us realize you can get our children to mind you better. We are flabbergasted at how clean you keep the house while we are at work. You are very good at your job.

However I constantly see nannies complain about their employers house not being spotless when they arrive or that the kids got off schedule. Weekends are hectic for parents, I want to spend time with my kids. I have to balance work and play, chores and errands. Sometimes cleaning house gets left out, but I do try.

Parents love their nannies, but please try to understand that I don't get a break. When I come home from work I'm picking up where you left off, and while it may not be perfect we do the best we can.

I am an MB and this ridiculous post is making me sick as well, Nannies.

Anonymous wrote:So... do you think nannies come home from work to a houseful of maids, cooks, laundresses and gardeners? Are you that myopic, OP, that you believe your nanny's work commitments begin and end at your doorstep?

You generally work 40 hours a week and nannies generally work 50 hours a week PLUS our commute home.


Go somewhere else and sing your song of woe. It isn't flying with me.

+1 OP is a total ass!! I love how she whines about not getting a "break" -- as if a nanny has no family, life, home, laundry, children, responsibilities outside of her nanny job!

And as PP pointed out, she wants us to feel sorry for her when she is home on evenings and weekends with another adult to help her!!!

OP is the biggest fool I have ever seen on this forum -- and you know that says a lot!

Anonymous wrote:We appreciate what you do.

Most of us realize you can get our children to mind you better. We are flabbergasted at how clean you keep the house while we are at work. You are very good at your job.

However I constantly see nannies complain about their employers house not being spotless when they arrive or that the kids got off schedule. Weekends are hectic for parents, I want to spend time with my kids. I have to balance work and play, chores and errands. Sometimes cleaning house gets left out, but I do try.

Parents love their nannies, but please try to understand that I don't get a break. When I come home from work I'm picking up where you left off, and while it may not be perfect we do the best we can.

What would your nanny say about you?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We appreciate what you do.

Most of us realize you can get our children to mind you better. We are flabbergasted at how clean you keep the house while we are at work. You are very good at your job.

However I constantly see nannies complain about their employers house not being spotless when they arrive or that the kids got off schedule. Weekends are hectic for parents, I want to spend time with my kids. I have to balance work and play, chores and errands. Sometimes cleaning house gets left out, but I do try.

Parents love their nannies, but please try to understand that I don't get a break. When I come home from work I'm picking up where you left off, and while it may not be perfect we do the best we can.

You couldn't be more patronizing if you tried.

+1 She is also a big, fat phony.

Anonymous wrote:We appreciate what you do.

Most of us realize you can get our children to mind you better. We are flabbergasted at how clean you keep the house while we are at work. You are very good at your job.

However I constantly see nannies complain about their employers house not being spotless when they arrive or that the kids got off schedule. Weekends are hectic for parents, I want to spend time with my kids. I have to balance work and play, chores and errands. Sometimes cleaning house gets left out, but I do try.

Parents love their nannies, but please try to understand that I don't get a break. When I come home from work I'm picking up where you left off, and while it may not be perfect we do the best we can.

You couldn't be more patronizing if you tried.

So... do you think nannies come home from work to a houseful of maids, cooks, laundresses and gardeners? Are you that myopic, OP, that you believe your nanny's work commitments begin and end at your doorstep?

You generally work 40 hours a week and nannies generally work 50 hours a week PLUS our commute home.


Go somewhere else and sing your song of woe. It isn't flying with me.

Anonymous wrote:We appreciate what you do.

Most of us realize you can get our children to mind you better. We are flabbergasted at how clean you keep the house while we are at work. You are very good at your job.

However I constantly see nannies complain about their employers house not being spotless when they arrive or that the kids got off schedule. Weekends are hectic for parents, I want to spend time with my kids. I have to balance work and play, chores and errands. Sometimes cleaning house gets left out, but I do try.

Parents love their nannies, but please try to understand that I don't get a break. When I come home from work I'm picking up where you left off, and while it may not be perfect we do the best we can.

Stop being so patronizing, OP.

And remember that most families have TWO adults home on the weekends (while the nanny is alone all day) so stop peddling your excuses.

Anonymous wrote:We appreciate what you do.

Most of us realize you can get our children to mind you better. We are flabbergasted at how clean you keep the house while we are at work. You are very good at your job.

However I constantly see nannies complain about their employers house not being spotless when they arrive or that the kids got off schedule. Weekends are hectic for parents, I want to spend time with my kids. I have to balance work and play, chores and errands. Sometimes cleaning house gets left out, but I do try.

Parents love their nannies, but please try to understand that I don't get a break. When I come home from work I'm picking up where you left off, and while it may not be perfect we do the best we can.

Oh, please, OP. Stop making excuses fir being lazy. The nanny should leave the house the way she finds it and the same go r s fir you. She is not your maid.

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure what recent posts you're referencing, but please understand that you're making a lot of assumptions. I work 50 hours per week as a nanny, spend another 20 or so in class, and I have a daughter. The only break I get is when I fall into bed at night. I do think its a bit ridiculous that I can care for 2 kids each day BY MYSELF and my families who have one kid between the two parents can't keep up with their dishes or put the toys away at night. I can be understanding, and I generally keep my mouth shut, but you and I both know some parents are simply lazy.

Well said.

I'm not sure what recent posts you're referencing, but please understand that you're making a lot of assumptions. I work 50 hours per week as a nanny, spend another 20 or so in class, and I have a daughter. The only break I get is when I fall into bed at night. I do think its a bit ridiculous that I can care for 2 kids each day BY MYSELF and my families who have one kid between the two parents can't keep up with their dishes or put the toys away at night. I can be understanding, and I generally keep my mouth shut, but you and I both know some parents are simply lazy.

I imagine OP is a lovely and kind employer, but unfortunately she's in the minority.

Perhaps more parents would express such appropriate gratitude?

I see most nannies start out as all-giving. And then get burned again and again.

We appreciate what you do.

Most of us realize you can get our children to mind you better. We are flabbergasted at how clean you keep the house while we are at work. You are very good at your job.

However I constantly see nannies complain about their employers house not being spotless when they arrive or that the kids got off schedule. Weekends are hectic for parents, I want to spend time with my kids. I have to balance work and play, chores and errands. Sometimes cleaning house gets left out, but I do try.

Parents love their nannies, but please try to understand that I don't get a break. When I come home from work I'm picking up where you left off, and while it may not be perfect we do the best we can.