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Anonymous wrote:Since she has a history of not taking well to being "given notice," I would plan ahead financially OP and just assume you will be jobless for those three weeks preceding your new job.

Geez, after four years of work you would think she should be grateful. Plus three weeks notice is good.

Good for you to be moving on. And away from her.

No ones going to take 3 weeks off of work just to spite the nanny out of the last three weeks or work/pay.

Happened to me. I gave a family I was with for 1.5 a months notice. I had mentioned going back to teaching to mb here and there and when I received An offer I wanted to notify asap so she could make arrangements. She was at the beach at the time and the dad was still in town. I went over to speak with him and He told her. She called me crying and saying how blindsided she felt. I apologized (shouldn't have) and told her over the next month is even help her look for my replacement. She and the kids were due back after the weekend. Sunday evening got an email( a way We never used to communicate) saying that the kids would be going to their grandparents for the week. I was really suspicious. By he end of the week I tried to contact her to no avail. Left a message that I was taking car seats to the house and some other things I had from them. When I get there and open the garage a car belonging to one of their backup sitters was hiding in the garage. I say hiding because we all know to park in a certain space and leave garage space for parents. Never got to see my babies ever again. And the oldest had been a student of mine part time before I became their nanny. It was horrible. But for the best the relationship was toxic at times

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since she has a history of not taking well to being "given notice," I would plan ahead financially OP and just assume you will be jobless for those three weeks preceding your new job.

Geez, after four years of work you would think she should be grateful. Plus three weeks notice is good.

Good for you to be moving on. And away from her.

No ones going to take 3 weeks off of work just to spite the nanny out of the last three weeks or work/pay.

She wouldn't need 3 weeks she could find a nanny by the weekend. It happens, unfortunately people do not always behave rationally when they feel rejected. Hopefully OP's MB will surprise her and take the news well be sad that she is going but happy she's found a dream job,

Anonymous wrote:Since she has a history of not taking well to being "given notice," I would plan ahead financially OP and just assume you will be jobless for those three weeks preceding your new job.

Geez, after four years of work you would think she should be grateful. Plus three weeks notice is good.

Good for you to be moving on. And away from her.

No ones going to take 3 weeks off of work just to spite the nanny out of the last three weeks or work/pay.

Since she has a history of not taking well to being "given notice," I would plan ahead financially OP and just assume you will be jobless for those three weeks preceding your new job.

Geez, after four years of work you would think she should be grateful. Plus three weeks notice is good.

Good for you to be moving on. And away from her.

I am supposed to give 30 days, but I only gave 1 week to my employers after they kept harassing me over text messaging about how much I inconvenienced them by missing a day of work after a car accident that was not my fault.

Congratulations, OP. No one wants to lose a good nanny but since she knew you were in college, I'm sure she anticipated this day coming.

What does your contract say? Mine says one month.
However, we all know contracts aren't enforceable really.

Doesn't school start in the fall or what?

3 weeks is absolutely enough notice.

If she blows up that's her issue. If she wanted a nanny to stay with them until the kids no longer needed a nanny she should have hired a career nanny.
That's on her and not you.

If she takes a fit no big deal it's not like you need her reference as you are moving on.

Congrats on the job!

Congratulations on your new job!

Give notice. Did she think you were therefor life?

She should be kissing your feet for staying for four years! Plus a $1,000. bonus.

OP here, the reason I know she does not take being "given notice" well is because she told me when she was telling me about their other nannies and why they left. (I know, it should have been a red flag, but this job has worked out).

She's not a bad person, but she doesn't take rejection very well.

Why predetermine that your employer will "blow up" and this will be so difficult?

Three weeks notice is certainly decent.

If you go in assuming it's going to be a nightmare it is far more likely to be one.

Give her a chance.

How do you know your MB doesn't handle being given notice well?

I have been with the same family for four years and I am the longest lasting nanny with them.

I was just offered a job in my chosen field (that I went to college for), so I will have to give notice.

It's going to be difficult because my MB doesn't handle being "given notice" very well, but I'm not giving up this new opportunity.

I'm going to give 3 weeks notice. I feel that is fair. Has anyone else been in a similar situation where the MB has blown up at previous nannies who have given notice?

I just want to be as professional as possible and not burn any bridges.