Anonymous
03/19/2015 19:57
Subject: Nanny is pregnant
It's hard to know for sure whether she will want to continue on -- and perhaps she doesn't yet know herself.
If you're serious about wanting her to continue, then I would bring this up sooner rather than later. She may think that it would be too much to ask or that you wouldn't want her to continue with the baby in tow. If you want her to, I think it wouldn't hurt to mention this to her so she knows it's an option.
However, I'm not sure this is entirely ideal, as the PP mentioned. It may be really hard with a baby and with balancing her own child vs. your children (rather than two sets of kids who are not her own). Does she have other children, or is this her first?
I'm unclear as to what she's doing for you now. Is she only PT at the moment if your kids are in school?
If nothing else, you might consider asking her to stay on as backup care or for summers or other times when you'll need someone but only short-term.
If you're serious about wanting her to continue, then I would bring this up sooner rather than later. She may think that it would be too much to ask or that you wouldn't want her to continue with the baby in tow. If you want her to, I think it wouldn't hurt to mention this to her so she knows it's an option.
However, I'm not sure this is entirely ideal, as the PP mentioned. It may be really hard with a baby and with balancing her own child vs. your children (rather than two sets of kids who are not her own). Does she have other children, or is this her first?
I'm unclear as to what she's doing for you now. Is she only PT at the moment if your kids are in school?
If nothing else, you might consider asking her to stay on as backup care or for summers or other times when you'll need someone but only short-term.
Anonymous
03/05/2015 21:56
Subject: Nanny is pregnant
My best friend started with a family with two elementary age kids 40+ hours and then found out she was pregnant. They reduced her hours to 30+ but she still is available for overnights and no school- days. 5 years later she has two and her nanny kids think of them as siblings.
Anonymous
03/03/2015 19:36
Subject: Nanny is pregnant
How much are you hoping she'll want to come back?
Anonymous
03/03/2015 18:55
Subject: Re:Nanny is pregnant
Nanny here. IMO it is not an ideal situation for school aged kids to have to deal with nanny's infant. It will impact their regular schedule and activities (we can't go play at the park now, baby is napping. I can't help with homework or snacks now, baby needs to nurse, etc, etc). Also, it will be hard for her financially to not only be just working after school hours, but then for a reduced rate! (But I do agree that the rate should be reduced, regardless, since she would be bringing her child.)
She would be better off finding a family who is expecting or has a young infant to work with. It would be more fair to her charge to be at a similar age (same age appropriate activities, schedule, etc). It would be easier for her workload wise. It would be better for her to be able to find a situation with more hours, since she will most likely be making less per hour.
It would be better for your family to find a nanny without her own kids (or, perhaps, with a child close in age to yours?). You can help out your current nanny by letting her know your plans sooner rather than later, and also being a great reference to her. If you're worried about losing her prematurely (always a concern when giving nanny notice) you can offer her a severance/bonus if she stays until a certain date.
This.
Anonymous
03/01/2015 13:49
Subject: Nanny is pregnant
My friends rate were lower because she brought her child but still fair rates
Anonymous
03/01/2015 13:47
Subject: Nanny is pregnant
I have a friend that has been able to work through her pregnancies talking and agree to leave when baby is born, in the first case she brought her child to work in a nanny share so she watched 3, and in the second child she watches one and hers, its worked out fine, her kids are grown now, and the families loved her, she did a great job, so its better to talk with nanny and be clear of whats going to happen now or afterwards, be clear and also caring and compassionate, tell her what you want and expect and ask what her plans are, thats fair
Anonymous
02/24/2015 20:16
Subject: Nanny is pregnant
It's not too early to start this conversation. Let her know where you're at ("We are open to the idea of you continuing to provide aftercare with baby in tow, but want to discuss details"). In your situation, I would propose doing a greatly reduced rate but guaranteeing more hours than part time (so you are paying her the same, but having her reserve more hours for you), so that you have coverage for random snow days and holidays and teacher work days and dentist appointments. The rest of the time you can just have her run to the grocery store and maybe fold some kids laundry--it won't take up all the time but will make your life easy and will help you have backup care.
I think the biggest pitfalls will be if baby is demanding (particularly around napping on the go), and of course days when one of your kids is sick. Does your nanny have a lot of infant experience or has she mostly worked with older kids? If she doesn't have much newborn experience, she may be thrown by how much work it is at first!
I think the biggest pitfalls will be if baby is demanding (particularly around napping on the go), and of course days when one of your kids is sick. Does your nanny have a lot of infant experience or has she mostly worked with older kids? If she doesn't have much newborn experience, she may be thrown by how much work it is at first!
Anonymous
02/24/2015 18:18
Subject: Nanny is pregnant
Anonymous wrote:Our amazing nanny is pregnant. It is too soon to press her on whether she intends to return to work after maternity leave, but our sense is that she would welcome a part-time after school position (my kids are school age), provided she could bring her baby.
Has anyone ever made an arrangement like this work? If so, what advice, cautions, etc do you have?
And how do you handle salary when, in practice, it would be difficult to reduce a nanny's salary on the one hand, but not exactly fair for her to expect the same wage when she'd be minding her own kid.
Thoughts?
How would you have felt if your employer had hounded you?
Anonymous
02/24/2015 16:32
Subject: Nanny is pregnant
Nanny here. IMO it is not an ideal situation for school aged kids to have to deal with nanny's infant. It will impact their regular schedule and activities (we can't go play at the park now, baby is napping. I can't help with homework or snacks now, baby needs to nurse, etc, etc). Also, it will be hard for her financially to not only be just working after school hours, but then for a reduced rate! (But I do agree that the rate should be reduced, regardless, since she would be bringing her child.)
She would be better off finding a family who is expecting or has a young infant to work with. It would be more fair to her charge to be at a similar age (same age appropriate activities, schedule, etc). It would be easier for her workload wise. It would be better for her to be able to find a situation with more hours, since she will most likely be making less per hour.
It would be better for your family to find a nanny without her own kids (or, perhaps, with a child close in age to yours?). You can help out your current nanny by letting her know your plans sooner rather than later, and also being a great reference to her. If you're worried about losing her prematurely (always a concern when giving nanny notice) you can offer her a severance/bonus if she stays until a certain date.
She would be better off finding a family who is expecting or has a young infant to work with. It would be more fair to her charge to be at a similar age (same age appropriate activities, schedule, etc). It would be easier for her workload wise. It would be better for her to be able to find a situation with more hours, since she will most likely be making less per hour.
It would be better for your family to find a nanny without her own kids (or, perhaps, with a child close in age to yours?). You can help out your current nanny by letting her know your plans sooner rather than later, and also being a great reference to her. If you're worried about losing her prematurely (always a concern when giving nanny notice) you can offer her a severance/bonus if she stays until a certain date.
nannydebsays
02/24/2015 15:49
Subject: Nanny is pregnant
People literally do everything from dropping the nanny's rate by 50% to keeping her rate the same.
Some employers argue nanny+ baby = "nanny share".
Some employers decide that keeping a nanny they love/not having to find a new nanny is well worth just continuing to pay the current hourly rate.
IMO, the most important discussion is how will she balance your kids needs with the needs of her child? Is she willing to work baby's schedule around kid activities? Is she OK with baby napping on the go at times? How does she hope to manage making room for baby in your home?
Open discussion is what makes this sort of thing work, OP. Good luck!
Some employers argue nanny+ baby = "nanny share".
Some employers decide that keeping a nanny they love/not having to find a new nanny is well worth just continuing to pay the current hourly rate.
IMO, the most important discussion is how will she balance your kids needs with the needs of her child? Is she willing to work baby's schedule around kid activities? Is she OK with baby napping on the go at times? How does she hope to manage making room for baby in your home?
Open discussion is what makes this sort of thing work, OP. Good luck!
Anonymous
02/24/2015 15:11
Subject: Nanny is pregnant
If she's amazing, you'll want to try to accommodate her needs.
Anonymous
02/24/2015 15:10
Subject: Nanny is pregnant
Do a search here, OP.
Anonymous
02/24/2015 13:49
Subject: Nanny is pregnant
Our amazing nanny is pregnant. It is too soon to press her on whether she intends to return to work after maternity leave, but our sense is that she would welcome a part-time after school position (my kids are school age), provided she could bring her baby.
Has anyone ever made an arrangement like this work? If so, what advice, cautions, etc do you have?
And how do you handle salary when, in practice, it would be difficult to reduce a nanny's salary on the one hand, but not exactly fair for her to expect the same wage when she'd be minding her own kid.
Thoughts?
Has anyone ever made an arrangement like this work? If so, what advice, cautions, etc do you have?
And how do you handle salary when, in practice, it would be difficult to reduce a nanny's salary on the one hand, but not exactly fair for her to expect the same wage when she'd be minding her own kid.
Thoughts?