mb here. I work shifts so it isnt possible for my end time to be flexible. She gets out at 4, so not like DH can just leave a few minutes early either. Its an employees responsibility (in any job field) to make sure the hours and commute are ok for them. it isnt the employer's job..

MB here. I would only accommodate this if it wasn't a problem with our schedule. That would include needing to rush to get home and potentially not making it. If I could adjust my schedule and hers by 15 minutes (7:45-5:45) without a problem, then why not? I would not agree to keep doing it, however, if the bus schedule changes again.

It sounds like she really lives too far away, honestly.

Is she missing the last bus of the night or is the wait more than 30 minutes? Is it reasonable for you to get home at 545 or will you literally have to leave work early vs not stopping for take out on the way home? I think it's your problem in that it stresses the nanny out and potentially makes it so she doesn't have down time in the evening. Think about the articles you read about the best employers and the perks they have. Yes, accommodating something like this makes for an attractive employer. But if you genuinely CAN'T make it work then that's that. But if you can and are choosing not to in order to be in control, then your a bitch.

The contract states 8-6 and she should stay until that time. If she must leave, change the hours and her pay.

Is there a park and ride lot near the second stop that she's not aware of? You could maybe help her find alternative lots or options but it's not your responsibility and you also should not change her end time. I'm a nanny and find nannies like pp frustrating to think their bosses need to change their schedule to accommodate them. Now if her end time was 6 and you didn't get home until 6 and then talked to her for 15 minutes or you came home late every day which would then cause her to miss the connection I would side with the nanny but not in this case.

Anonymous wrote:Its interesting to see how quick you all are to show no empathy for a nanny, but quick to demand understanding from nannies. We're supposed to be understanding when you're late, understanding when you leave a mess for us, understanding when you go out of town and want us to work extra to make up for it, understanding when you guilt us about being sick because YOU don't have backup. I'm always amazed that so many shitty women managed to find this one forum. Amazing.

Huh? Did you actually read the OP post?? nannies hours are 8 to SIX but now nanny wants to leave 15 minutes early every day (5:45). Why is this MB's issue? She should have not accepted the job if she needed to leave no later the 5:45 which also factors MB's schedule. Why should anyone have to have "understanding" for the nanny. In the real world you take the next bus...

Its interesting to see how quick you all are to show no empathy for a nanny, but quick to demand understanding from nannies. We're supposed to be understanding when you're late, understanding when you leave a mess for us, understanding when you go out of town and want us to work extra to make up for it, understanding when you guilt us about being sick because YOU don't have backup. I'm always amazed that so many shitty women managed to find this one forum. Amazing.

If she doesn't learn to accommodate your needs, get a new nanny. What are you worried about, OP?

Anonymous wrote:Some people are so heartless. I bet if it was you this woukd be a problem.

So who is supposed to accommodate MB who now also must leave work 15 minutes earlier than her workday ends? In what world does this make any employer "heartless"?

MB here. No it's not your problem. I used to work somewhere where my bus came between 445 and 452 and the next came around 515. First boss was fine with my leaving early and coming in early. Second boss wasn't. A pain? Yes. But part of the job.

Some people are so heartless. I bet if it was you this woukd be a problem.

Of course not. She accepted the job with the hours of 8-6. That means she works until 6pm.

No, but finding another nanny IS your problem.

you need to be absolutely sure you don't arrive home after 6pm or keep her past 6 by getting home at 550 and then wanting to talk for 15 minutes...

you do not have to comply with her wishes that you be home 15 minutes earlier than her scheduled end time. while it might suck that she has to do so much commuting, she should have looked into that before taking the job or find another way to get to your house.

(nanny)

Nanny's hours are 8-6. She informed us this morning that she absolutely must leave early every day (by 5:45, no later) so that she doesn't miss her bus connection in Shady Grove. Mind you, she is leaving our house in lower NW, taking a 30s bus to the redline metro, getting off at Shady Grove, and then connecting to a bus to get to a park and ride lot. Is the bus connection that is the third step of her chosen commute really something I'm supposed to accommodate? I can definitely see trying to help her not miss the last express bus on the 30s line, right at our house....but am I supposed worry about the connection 3 steps away?