Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would ask questions back. A lot of times people start asking questions because they have something they are dying to say.
Maybe she keeps hoping that if she continues the conversation, then eventually things will come around to her, and she can say whatever it is that she needs to say. On the other hand, you keep hoping that if you just answer the question at hand, then the conversation will naturally end.
Maybe if you make the conversation more two sided, then she will feel more satisfied with the conversation, you won't feel hammered with a million questions, and both of you can get back to whatever you need to be doing.

I never said it was one-sided. I always talk with her and we communicate effectively. She will talk about anything from the job to asking me about personal life ( bfs, dating, family, school, etc.). I do not believe its anything she has to ask me. She is happy with me and continuously says so almost everyday. DB works longs hours and travels. I personally think she is lonely. They are quiet people and do not socialize too much with other couples. They even tend I stay in on the weekends. I think she is just dying for a friend or a person to talk with and I'm easy access. She ends to treat me like a friend with our conversations rather than an employee.

If this woman needs a friend, you could try to be a friend. Stop talking about yourself. Ask her about herself.

And no. That isn't your job, but it is the kind thing to do.

I disagree. A nanny is hired to be a caregiver not a friend for the mother. That is not her responsibility.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would ask questions back. A lot of times people start asking questions because they have something they are dying to say.
Maybe she keeps hoping that if she continues the conversation, then eventually things will come around to her, and she can say whatever it is that she needs to say. On the other hand, you keep hoping that if you just answer the question at hand, then the conversation will naturally end.
Maybe if you make the conversation more two sided, then she will feel more satisfied with the conversation, you won't feel hammered with a million questions, and both of you can get back to whatever you need to be doing.

I never said it was one-sided. I always talk with her and we communicate effectively. She will talk about anything from the job to asking me about personal life ( bfs, dating, family, school, etc.). I do not believe its anything she has to ask me. She is happy with me and continuously says so almost everyday. DB works longs hours and travels. I personally think she is lonely. They are quiet people and do not socialize too much with other couples. They even tend I stay in on the weekends. I think she is just dying for a friend or a person to talk with and I'm easy access. She ends to treat me like a friend with our conversations rather than an employee.

Anonymous wrote:I would ask questions back. A lot of times people start asking questions because they have something they are dying to say.
Maybe she keeps hoping that if she continues the conversation, then eventually things will come around to her, and she can say whatever it is that she needs to say. On the other hand, you keep hoping that if you just answer the question at hand, then the conversation will naturally end.
Maybe if you make the conversation more two sided, then she will feel more satisfied with the conversation, you won't feel hammered with a million questions, and both of you can get back to whatever you need to be doing.

Anonymous wrote:While the baby is napping, put in earbuds. Go to the library, take out books, and then on your down time sit down with your book and if she talks say "Sorry, I was hoping to use my lunch time to get this read - the due date is coming up soon." Do it a few days in a row and see if she gets the hint.

At 5:29 put on your coat and pick up your back, at 5:30 say "Gotta run - I have an appointment/am meeting someone/have plans, bye!" and walk towards the front door.