Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, I wish my nanny was better at caring for my baby than I was -- I would feel a hell of a lot better about leaving her everyday. Count yourself lucky to have found a good nanny. I didn't.

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Honestly, OP, I wish my nanny was better at caring for my baby than I was -- I would feel a hell of a lot better about leaving her everyday. Count yourself lucky to have found a good nanny. I didn't.

No smart person would expect you or your DH to be better at handling a baby than an experienced nanny. Sounds like you hired the right person to stay home with your baby.

Don't feel badly OP. You hired a professional - it's great if you can learn from her.

But you will be better at some things than her, and only you will ever be mom to your kids.

I have a great nanny also, and when my kids were infants there were definitely things she tolerated or managed better than I did. But you will be the one that is there at 3 am when they're violently ill with a stomach bug, and you will be the one they turn to in so many ways that are purely innate.

There is no substitute for mom. Ever. There's also no substitute for a great nanny so good for you!

The nanny may be better at many things, but only you are better at simply being "mummy"

From an experienced nanny.

Most parents do a few things better than I do.
- Nanny

Of course your nanny is better at caring for the baby than you are. I would guess that any good nanny is better than most any first time parent.

I read your post about an hour ago and since then I can list about 20 things the nanny does better than I do! She is definitely better at baths (and always has been) and much better about getting DS to eat. She has always been faster about diaper changes and he never fusses with her. She is better at making up silly games and better at making DS laugh. She is better with other kids in play group and better about making sure DS gets out everyday and to a new activity. She is definitely better at his laundry than I am. She is also in better physical shape and has more energy even though she is 25 years older than I am!

No one loves my son more than I do and when he is sick - he only wants me. I'm his mother and I can never be replaced. And I am blessed to have found such a great nanny!

Anonymous wrote:Hey Mom it is OK, you will always be MOM no matter what. You have to remember a nanny with good experience often and really should know great childcare techniques and be able to execute it well, that is what you are paying her for.

I agree with this 100%. You hired someone with experience, who knows what she is doing, and that is what you're paying her for. Your job as a mother is to ensure that your child is well cared for, and you've done a fantastic job!

Your nanny isn't better than you she's just more relaxed.
Your nanny has been at it for years. I bet if a first time mom with a day old baby saw you on camera she'd be impressed with all you know to do now your son is a few weeks older.
Also give yourself a mom pat on the back because you did a great job picking someone to look after your baby during the day.

Another poster wrote something I thought was quite wise on another thread: "This is not your nanny's first time at the rodeo" You are first time parents - she is not a first time nanny.

Anonymous wrote:Hey Mom it is OK, you will always be MOM no matter what. You have to remember a nanny with good experience often and really should know great childcare techniques and be able to execute it well, that is what you are paying her for.

No. It isn't OK. I would feel like a collosal failure if my care giver was better with my child.

It might be true that she is better at the day to day stuff, but you'll learn it all.

Just think back to when your son was born - how difficult did you find changing your first diapers? And now you could do it in your sleep. You'll get the hang of everything else just like that. Your nanny had years of practice of caring for small kids, she knows the tricks. You're still learning.

But more importantly than that, you will always be in your son's life, you will always love him no matter what and you will be his best advocate. That's more important, and you're the only one who can provide that.

Hey Mom it is OK, you will always be MOM no matter what. You have to remember a nanny with good experience often and really should know great childcare techniques and be able to execute it well, that is what you are paying her for.

That is just a fact. I was just watching her on the baby cam and I realized that in everything she is better at this than either my husband or me.

That's all. I just wanted to get that out somewhere. Not exactly something I could share with family or friends.