I used to work for a family that wanted me to text when I picked the kids up from school, when we left the house for anything and also when we got home. I was with them for 5 years and even though that part was annoying it was my favorite job. The parents didn't have trust issues and to this day still trust me completely. It was just one of the weird quirks some people have. Try to see it as a way you can help your MB feel better about being away from her kids while she's at work. It probably took a total of 90 seconds a day and it gave my MB peace of mind.

I would be so annoyed too OP!

I have worked for a few families like this. These types of families tend to have anxiety issues and have always admitted this to me from the get go.

They are just anxious parents in general and cannot help it that they are constantly worrying about the "What ifs?" all day long.

Personally, I think some good meds would suffice them, but as a professional it is not my duty to advise them of this so I keep my mouth shut.

If the pay is good and the job is pretty enjoyable overall, I would think of this as a minor nuisance and just deal with it. However, if it really bothers you and you feel like there is a lack of trust involved somehow, then this may not be a good fit for either of you.

Im a nanny and I do this with my MB

If I am driving him anywhere (except home/school) I text her updates. She is very happy I do it. It is also good incase MB or DB come home early and we aren't there, then they know where we are and what we are up to.

I did this for two years with a 3-5 year old. No big deal- just a quick text after buckling kids in, then another after we got home. If it helped her anxiety, I was glad to do it. It was all about her, no reflection on me. What a small thing. I'd love to have that problem again, now I'm at a job with tons of extended family that piles all the dishes in the sink and doesn't pay OT.

Anonymous wrote:MB insists I text her before I go anywhere with her son and again when we get back even though it's always the same places...park and library. She says it's in case we are in an accident. WTF!

Yes, I would find that annoying and unsustainable. The leaving-the-house and the coming-into-the-house are the most chaotic with a toddler - I couldn't add the need to text my employer. I'd suggest she GPS me or my phone.

That would drive me nuts!

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny who did this until we got an app that streams live. Some can perceive it as annoying but I don't. MB/DB have the right to know when you leave with their child. I text because if we are out and god forbid something happens, MB/BD will start to wonder when I don't text back. Your MB is not asking too much. I'm sure your MB trusts you but it is a way to set of an alarm of something happened and you didn't text that you arrived back. I don't see anything wrong with this.

Great idea!

Yes that would drive me crazy, and it isn't even logical, but as the MB poster said it's not about you, just mom's issues.
It would annoy me , but I wouldn't make a stink over it.

Does not bother me at all and I'm more than happy to do it. I buckle in the kids and text while we wait for the car to warm. Once we arrive, I text before we get out of the car. Takes almost no time at all.

I'm a nanny who did this until we got an app that streams live. Some can perceive it as annoying but I don't. MB/DB have the right to know when you leave with their child. I text because if we are out and god forbid something happens, MB/BD will start to wonder when I don't text back. Your MB is not asking too much. I'm sure your MB trusts you but it is a way to set of an alarm of something happened and you didn't text that you arrived back. I don't see anything wrong with this.

Anonymous wrote:MB insists I text her before I go anywhere with her son and again when we get back even though it's always the same places...park and library. She says it's in case we are in an accident. WTF!

I have been with a family almost a year with the same routine everyday and its annoying every time when I have to text her about what time we left home what time we reached home etc

Our manny writes out a schedule of where he's taking the kids for the week and leaves it for me on Fridays. If something changes he'll text "Both kids fell asleep - skipping story hour today" or something.

I'm and MB and this would annoy me! I don't expect our nanny to do this, but I like hearing where they went at the end of the day, or getting a nice picture if they're having fun somewhere.

But, to try to see it from another perspective, this is almost certainly a function of the mother's anxiety level - not a reflection of her confidence in you or anything. Try to take pity on her rather than letting it get under your skin.

I think its beyond reasonable...your talking about something that takes 2 seconds.

MB insists I text her before I go anywhere with her son and again when we get back even though it's always the same places...park and library. She says it's in case we are in an accident. WTF!