I think she just may be one of those really laid back and personal people that just do not have any boundaries...Meaning anything goes with them.

In a friendship that can be okay, but considering that you work for her, she is out of bounds I would say.

She may be trying to break the ice and make you feel more of a friend vs. an employee and if that is the case, she is going about it all wrong. She is completely clueless in my book.

I would change the subject when she mentions anything about your love life. In fact, I would just stop discussing anything personal with her from here on out.

Keep things work-related with her only and hopefully she will get the hint and respect your boundaries.

I think it's weird to be open and honest about your relationships and to be this out off when the topic of sex comes up. If you kept all of your personal life private, that's one thing. But you don't so this doesn't seem to be that big of a deal. Just tell her you're uncomfortable discussing your sex life.

People on here are so imature grow up. And half of you watch kids.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would tell her in language that even an idiot would understand: It is none of your damn business.

Good luck with the raise

I would be leaving permanently so a raise would not be expected. No employer has the right to ask such personal questions. Most of you have an effing fit if asked if you are preegnant.

Anonymous wrote:I would tell her in language that even an idiot would understand: It is none of your damn business.

Good luck with the raise

Troll.

I would tell her in language that even an idiot would understand: It is none of your damn business.

Anonymous wrote:I am concerned that you lied to her. This is going to be a problem and you will lose trust overall.

Yes I did lie. I don't find anything wrong with it. It's like me asking MB if she still gives her husband oral. That's inappropriate and I'm sure she would lie. She doesn't need to know who I have sex with. There are still professional boundaries but we are very open and have the same personality. We both come from families that are unfiltered. Talking about dating is ok but asking whether I'm sexually active isn't.

Anonymous wrote:I am concerned that you lied to her. This is going to be a problem and you will lose trust overall.

Because her boss is going to track down the boyfriend and ask him to confirm they're not having sex? People often lie when caught off guard with inappropriate questions. It's just human. And it should never come up again.

OP, your boss is treating you like she treats her friends - which includes asking about their sex lives. I think you should keep up your friendly demeanor but just not mention dates and boyfriends anymore. If she asks how it's going, say "well, thanks" and move on to another friendly topic.

I am concerned that you lied to her. This is going to be a problem and you will lose trust overall.

Yes it's inappropriate, but it's bound to happen when employer and employee behave like BFFs.

Lack of appropriate boundaries.

She's interested in your sex life because as she told you, she's not having sex.

Just tell stop talking about dating with her. If you can't babysit because you have a date, say "Sorry, I already have plans." No need to get into the details.

And it really makes me uncomfortable. I am in off again/on again relationship with my ex. We are relatively open and have discussed relationships. Wednesday evening MB finished up work early so we just sat around talking. She blurts out if I still have sex with him. I was shocked and told her no ( not true). She still proceeded to tell me I'm in my sex days and I should be experimenting. I immediately changed topics. Last night I told MB I had a date tonight ( they asked to babysit) and she says " well at least one of us is getting it this weekend". She is a little unfiltered and I am too but not at work. I am curious as to why she seems so interested in my sex life. It's so odd and uncomfortable. She's a sweetheart but this is very personal.