Anonymous
01/28/2015 02:19
Subject: MB commenting on the things I buy
MB here. I know people like OP's MB and they are insecure, unhappy people who are always comparing themselves and their lives to others. She won't change. You need to decide how long you want to put up with it.
Anonymous
01/27/2015 23:59
Subject: MB commenting on the things I buy
Anonymous wrote:Why are you wearing jewelry to work with children? Why does she know where you go on vacation? Why does she know where you get your hair done?
Perhaps make sure that you are not showing off and bragging? Wear no jewelry (simple studs and a simple watch would make sense), switch between two different pairs of shoes and get some simple Old Navy crap to work in. After you do all that and stop talking about fancy places you go, THEN say to her "It creates a really awkward moment when you comment about how the salary I earn by working for you allows me to spend on things. Could we please stick to just talking about the job and kids?"
Making small talk about a vacation you are taking soon, a hair appointment you have that evening, or simply wearing your own belongings is neither bragging nor unprofessional and is common practice across ALL employment fields. Why should the nanny have to pretend to be a pauper just so her inappropriate boss will not make uncomfortable comments? I feel badly that you have such a sterile relationship with your bosses that you find something off about OP's actions, rather than her MB.
Anonymous
01/27/2015 23:55
Subject: Re:MB commenting on the things I buy
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your MB is shockingly rude! And I would definitely say something in a light, jokey manner "all from before I came to work for you obviously".
Aren't you afraid the kids are going to wreck your jewelry and nicer clothing? My charge grabs everything and I would be afraid he's break a chain or swallow an earring!
I would immediately be fired.
I only wear nice jewelry when I'm taking my charges to an event, they are 9, 11 and 14 and really well behaved so I don't worry about them ruining anything.
So you are a babysitter then.
Anonymous
01/27/2015 22:01
Subject: MB commenting on the things I buy
Anonymous wrote:Say " it's nice that i have such generous parents and boyfriend, since I couldn't afford these expensive items as a nanny"
Lol...I agree.
Anonymous
01/27/2015 21:34
Subject: MB commenting on the things I buy
Say " it's nice that i have such generous parents and boyfriend, since I couldn't afford these expensive items as a nanny"
Anonymous
01/27/2015 20:51
Subject: Re:MB commenting on the things I buy
Anonymous wrote:Your MB is shockingly rude! And I would definitely say something in a light, jokey manner "all from before I came to work for you obviously".
Aren't you afraid the kids are going to wreck your jewelry and nicer clothing? My charge grabs everything and I would be afraid he's break a chain or swallow an earring!
I would immediately be fired.
I only wear nice jewelry when I'm taking my charges to an event, they are 9, 11 and 14 and really well behaved so I don't worry about them ruining anything.
Anonymous
01/27/2015 20:50
Subject: MB commenting on the things I buy
Anonymous wrote:Why are you wearing jewelry to work with children? Why does she know where you go on vacation? Why does she know where you get your hair done?
Perhaps make sure that you are not showing off and bragging? Wear no jewelry (simple studs and a simple watch would make sense), switch between two different pairs of shoes and get some simple Old Navy crap to work in. After you do all that and stop talking about fancy places you go, THEN say to her "It creates a really awkward moment when you comment about how the salary I earn by working for you allows me to spend on things. Could we please stick to just talking about the job and kids?"
My charges aren't infants or toddlers, I take them to a lot of events and was told to dress in a professional manner. Of course, there are days when we stay home and I'm in sweats, but there are situations when I need to look nice. It's not like my wardrobe is filled with designer labels, I just have a few expensive pieces. 3/4ths of them were gifted to me, I did not buy them myself.
I have a Gucci handbag that was given to me by my boyfriend who makes 4X as much as I do. I have a necklace also given to me by my boyfriend. My vacation she asked about because I had to ask off, my parents are paying my way.
Even if I did use all of the money to buy expensive items, so what? She really doesn't have any say in how I use my money.
Anonymous
01/27/2015 20:31
Subject: Re:MB commenting on the things I buy
Your MB is shockingly rude! And I would definitely say something in a light, jokey manner "all from before I came to work for you obviously".
Aren't you afraid the kids are going to wreck your jewelry and nicer clothing? My charge grabs everything and I would be afraid he's break a chain or swallow an earring!
Aren't you afraid the kids are going to wreck your jewelry and nicer clothing? My charge grabs everything and I would be afraid he's break a chain or swallow an earring!
Anonymous
01/27/2015 20:22
Subject: MB commenting on the things I buy
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why are you wearing jewelry to work with children? Why does she know where you go on vacation? Why does she know where you get your hair done?
Perhaps make sure that you are not showing off and bragging? Wear no jewelry (simple studs and a simple watch would make sense), switch between two different pairs of shoes and get some simple Old Navy crap to work in. After you do all that and stop talking about fancy places you go, THEN say to her "It creates a really awkward moment when you comment about how the salary I earn by working for you allows me to spend on things. Could we please stick to just talking about the job and kids?"
I disagree. I'm a nanny and I wear jewelry to work. Nothing extravagant, but I often wear necklaces and earrings, occasionally a ring. I wear tailored jeans and looser cardigans and tops with flats or boots. While I have absolutely nothing against nannies that wear yoga pants to work -- and sometimes I do!! -- I prefer to get dressed for work. It makes me feel better about what I do and it motivates me to do a great job when I feel like sitting on the couch. Look good feel good! (And before I get flamed for not going out with the kids or getting down on the floor, I have two 9 month old twins and can still sit on the floor all day with them or take them for a walk in the stroller in my outfits).
That being said, you should absolutely not have to dress down or leave your favorite purse at home because your MB is making inappropriate comments. Should I not wear my diamond engagement ring? What about the beautiful purse I got from my parents as a college graduation present? I went to Germany for a week last year after I saved up to take the trip for almost an entire year. You are entitled to your belongings, whether you purchased them yourself or they were given to you. Do not feel bad. Honestly, this would bother me because I would feel like my MB is looking down on me and like I am her servant. Yes, I work for her. Yes, she obviously makes more money than I do and she knows exactly how much I make. That doesn't mean I can't save up for something nice for myself or can't go on vacation.
I would tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable. Don't feel you need to hide your more luxurious belongings, but I also would constantly bring them to her attention (though it doesn't seem like you are). Sorry OP :/ MB is tacky and rude.
+100000
Anonymous
01/27/2015 20:06
Subject: MB commenting on the things I buy
Anonymous wrote:Why are you wearing jewelry to work with children? Why does she know where you go on vacation? Why does she know where you get your hair done?
Perhaps make sure that you are not showing off and bragging? Wear no jewelry (simple studs and a simple watch would make sense), switch between two different pairs of shoes and get some simple Old Navy crap to work in. After you do all that and stop talking about fancy places you go, THEN say to her "It creates a really awkward moment when you comment about how the salary I earn by working for you allows me to spend on things. Could we please stick to just talking about the job and kids?"
I disagree. I'm a nanny and I wear jewelry to work. Nothing extravagant, but I often wear necklaces and earrings, occasionally a ring. I wear tailored jeans and looser cardigans and tops with flats or boots. While I have absolutely nothing against nannies that wear yoga pants to work -- and sometimes I do!! -- I prefer to get dressed for work. It makes me feel better about what I do and it motivates me to do a great job when I feel like sitting on the couch. Look good feel good! (And before I get flamed for not going out with the kids or getting down on the floor, I have two 9 month old twins and can still sit on the floor all day with them or take them for a walk in the stroller in my outfits).
That being said, you should absolutely not have to dress down or leave your favorite purse at home because your MB is making inappropriate comments. Should I not wear my diamond engagement ring? What about the beautiful purse I got from my parents as a college graduation present? I went to Germany for a week last year after I saved up to take the trip for almost an entire year. You are entitled to your belongings, whether you purchased them yourself or they were given to you. Do not feel bad. Honestly, this would bother me because I would feel like my MB is looking down on me and like I am her servant. Yes, I work for her. Yes, she obviously makes more money than I do and she knows exactly how much I make. That doesn't mean I can't save up for something nice for myself or can't go on vacation.
I would tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable. Don't feel you need to hide your more luxurious belongings, but I also would constantly bring them to her attention (though it doesn't seem like you are). Sorry OP :/ MB is tacky and rude.
Anonymous
01/27/2015 19:07
Subject: MB commenting on the things I buy
She's inappropriate. I've had some mums compliment me on my purses.( when I was old enough to wear purses, my mum impressed on me the need for a quality leather purse, that would be long lasting) but I've never had anyone be that obnoxious. Tell her that it makes you uncomfortable, and that it would be like you asking the prices of items she owns. I carry a good purse to work, but like another poster mentioned, I wear jeans, trainers, and hoodies to work. No earrings or simple studs. Spit up, and infants tugging on my earrings make that necessary.
Anonymous
01/27/2015 17:03
Subject: MB commenting on the things I buy
MB is insecure.
Anonymous
01/27/2015 16:48
Subject: MB commenting on the things I buy
Why are you wearing jewelry to work with children? Why does she know where you go on vacation? Why does she know where you get your hair done?
Perhaps make sure that you are not showing off and bragging? Wear no jewelry (simple studs and a simple watch would make sense), switch between two different pairs of shoes and get some simple Old Navy crap to work in. After you do all that and stop talking about fancy places you go, THEN say to her "It creates a really awkward moment when you comment about how the salary I earn by working for you allows me to spend on things. Could we please stick to just talking about the job and kids?"
Perhaps make sure that you are not showing off and bragging? Wear no jewelry (simple studs and a simple watch would make sense), switch between two different pairs of shoes and get some simple Old Navy crap to work in. After you do all that and stop talking about fancy places you go, THEN say to her "It creates a really awkward moment when you comment about how the salary I earn by working for you allows me to spend on things. Could we please stick to just talking about the job and kids?"
Anonymous
01/27/2015 16:45
Subject: MB commenting on the things I buy
It's obnoxious. I would say it's also notice that you will not be getting a raise since she thinks she pays you too much as it is.
I suggest not pointing out/mentioning these things to her.
I suggest not pointing out/mentioning these things to her.
Anonymous
01/27/2015 16:34
Subject: MB commenting on the things I buy
I've been here 5 months and she comments constantly on what I buy/wear/drive.
"Oh, those shoes are really nice. I know they cost a pretty penny. Glad we keep you looking good."
"We wanted to vacation in Aspen too. It's pricey, I guess I know my money will be going there regardless."
She comments on my clothes and jelewery mostly, but often what I eat or where I go to get my hair done. It's not HER money once I cash the checks. Where does she think her money comes from? Does her boss always question what she buys?
Plus, most of what I have that is higher end was given as a gift. I rarely buy expensive things for myself.
"Oh, those shoes are really nice. I know they cost a pretty penny. Glad we keep you looking good."
"We wanted to vacation in Aspen too. It's pricey, I guess I know my money will be going there regardless."
She comments on my clothes and jelewery mostly, but often what I eat or where I go to get my hair done. It's not HER money once I cash the checks. Where does she think her money comes from? Does her boss always question what she buys?
Plus, most of what I have that is higher end was given as a gift. I rarely buy expensive things for myself.