Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 17:33     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
Anonymous wrote:We have someone absolutely wonderful now, but earlier today we ran into the ex- the one who demanded everything and more each month, wouldn't lift a finger outside of the kids, treated me ,( the first time mom) like an inconvenient novice, and made our lives way more complicated than they needed to be. Now we have someone wonderful. She has made our lives happier. Our house is more happy with her presence. And yes, she does help with cleaning and laundry. We love her and will be very generous with her. I am so grateful right now thinking back to those early days, that did not need to be that hard.... To anyone in an uncomfortable situation with your employee, it is worth finding the right one!!! She loves us and we love her. Here's to a good fit both ways!



I do not want my children;s nanny to "life a finger outside of the kids". I want her 100% attention on my children. However, the rest of the things that you listed are awful and I'm glad you found a better fit for your family.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 13:48     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have someone absolutely wonderful now, but earlier today we ran into the ex- the one who demanded everything and more each month, wouldn't lift a finger outside of the kids, treated me ,( the first time mom) like an inconvenient novice, and made our lives way more complicated than they needed to be. Now we have someone wonderful. She has made our lives happier. Our house is more happy with her presence. And yes, she does help with cleaning and laundry. We love her and will be very generous with her. I am so grateful right now thinking back to those early days, that did not need to be that hard.... To anyone in an uncomfortable situation with your employee, it is worth finding the right one!!! She loves us and we love her. Here's to a good fit both ways!


Thanks!
We are going through that right now. Our current nanny drops a bomb on us each and every month (more gas money, can I take side jobs while watching charge, days off, $2 raise not $1 raise, play date with sick kid bc "they" haven't seen each other in weeks, loose car seatstraps bc toddler wearing a coat is OK, etc) and it's getting too disruptive to our mornings and our jobs. We also really question her judgment.


I'm immediate PP. and this is exactly what first nanny did. We tried "technical assistance" on the car seats and after the third time we fired for cause. She also did illadvised playdates and demanded money all of the time. Weare free of her!!!

There are great nannies out there and now that you've worked with one, you know what works better for your family.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 13:46     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
Anonymous wrote:We have someone absolutely wonderful now, but earlier today we ran into the ex- the one who demanded everything and more each month, wouldn't lift a finger outside of the kids, treated me ,( the first time mom) like an inconvenient novice, and made our lives way more complicated than they needed to be. Now we have someone wonderful. She has made our lives happier. Our house is more happy with her presence. And yes, she does help with cleaning and laundry. We love her and will be very generous with her. I am so grateful right now thinking back to those early days, that did not need to be that hard.... To anyone in an uncomfortable situation with your employee, it is worth finding the right one!!! She loves us and we love her. Here's to a good fit both ways!


I could hve written this post. Second nanny has been with us for about 1.5 years now and the longer she's with us, the more I realize how much the first sucked. At this piont I think first nanny was downright neglectful. We ended up firing her for cause when she drove our children in unsafe and improperly installed car seats.

Anyway, first nanny sort of accosted second nanny and insisted on holding "the baby" and new nanny said no, brought home charges and asked me if it was ok for old nanny to snuggle charges. I told her that I didn't care b/c she has two other charges and she's not going to do anything in broad daylight at a busy park.

Bad nannies happen just like bad employees happen in all fields.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 13:38     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have someone absolutely wonderful now, but earlier today we ran into the ex- the one who demanded everything and more each month, wouldn't lift a finger outside of the kids, treated me ,( the first time mom) like an inconvenient novice, and made our lives way more complicated than they needed to be. Now we have someone wonderful. She has made our lives happier. Our house is more happy with her presence. And yes, she does help with cleaning and laundry. We love her and will be very generous with her. I am so grateful right now thinking back to those early days, that did not need to be that hard.... To anyone in an uncomfortable situation with your employee, it is worth finding the right one!!! She loves us and we love her. Here's to a good fit both ways!


Thanks!
We are going through that right now. Our current nanny drops a bomb on us each and every month (more gas money, can I take side jobs while watching charge, days off, $2 raise not $1 raise, play date with sick kid bc "they" haven't seen each other in weeks, loose car seatstraps bc toddler wearing a coat is OK, etc) and it's getting too disruptive to our mornings and our jobs. We also really question her judgment.

Where did you find her and what are you paying her per hour?


Whomever is asking this question, where did you find her, etc, sounds like a disgruntled nanny, not like an employer. Get off of the employer issues sub-forum.

To the PP with the demanding nanny, good luck to you. I hope you can set some boundaries. We had a lot to learn as first time parents, and gave in on top much despite our better judgment. It is hard to switch care providers, but a good nanny cares about your wellbeing as a family.

Keep that in mind.



This is actually a very valid question. No need to make assumptions and be dismissive.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2015 13:14     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
I bet seeing the old one made you appreciate the new one so much more!
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2015 23:10     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have someone absolutely wonderful now, but earlier today we ran into the ex- the one who demanded everything and more each month, wouldn't lift a finger outside of the kids, treated me ,( the first time mom) like an inconvenient novice, and made our lives way more complicated than they needed to be. Now we have someone wonderful. She has made our lives happier. Our house is more happy with her presence. And yes, she does help with cleaning and laundry. We love her and will be very generous with her. I am so grateful right now thinking back to those early days, that did not need to be that hard.... To anyone in an uncomfortable situation with your employee, it is worth finding the right one!!! She loves us and we love her. Here's to a good fit both ways!


Thanks!
We are going through that right now. Our current nanny drops a bomb on us each and every month (more gas money, can I take side jobs while watching charge, days off, $2 raise not $1 raise, play date with sick kid bc "they" haven't seen each other in weeks, loose car seatstraps bc toddler wearing a coat is OK, etc) and it's getting too disruptive to our mornings and our jobs. We also really question her judgment.

Where did you find her and what are you paying her per hour?


Whomever is asking this question, where did you find her, etc, sounds like a disgruntled nanny, not like an employer. Get off of the employer issues sub-forum.

To the PP with the demanding nanny, good luck to you. I hope you can set some boundaries. We had a lot to learn as first time parents, and gave in on top much despite our better judgment. It is hard to switch care providers, but a good nanny cares about your wellbeing as a family.

Keep that in mind.

Anonymous
Post 01/22/2015 22:24     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have someone absolutely wonderful now, but earlier today we ran into the ex- the one who demanded everything and more each month, wouldn't lift a finger outside of the kids, treated me ,( the first time mom) like an inconvenient novice, and made our lives way more complicated than they needed to be. Now we have someone wonderful. She has made our lives happier. Our house is more happy with her presence. And yes, she does help with cleaning and laundry. We love her and will be very generous with her. I am so grateful right now thinking back to those early days, that did not need to be that hard.... To anyone in an uncomfortable situation with your employee, it is worth finding the right one!!! She loves us and we love her. Here's to a good fit both ways!


Thanks!
We are going through that right now. Our current nanny drops a bomb on us each and every month (more gas money, can I take side jobs while watching charge, days off, $2 raise not $1 raise, play date with sick kid bc "they" haven't seen each other in weeks, loose car seatstraps bc toddler wearing a coat is OK, etc) and it's getting too disruptive to our mornings and our jobs. We also really question her judgment.

Where did you find her and what are you paying her per hour?
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2015 22:20     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
Anonymous wrote:We have someone absolutely wonderful now, but earlier today we ran into the ex- the one who demanded everything and more each month, wouldn't lift a finger outside of the kids, treated me ,( the first time mom) like an inconvenient novice, and made our lives way more complicated than they needed to be. Now we have someone wonderful. She has made our lives happier. Our house is more happy with her presence. And yes, she does help with cleaning and laundry. We love her and will be very generous with her. I am so grateful right now thinking back to those early days, that did not need to be that hard.... To anyone in an uncomfortable situation with your employee, it is worth finding the right one!!! She loves us and we love her. Here's to a good fit both ways!


Thanks!
We are going through that right now. Our current nanny drops a bomb on us each and every month (more gas money, can I take side jobs while watching charge, days off, $2 raise not $1 raise, play date with sick kid bc "they" haven't seen each other in weeks, loose car seatstraps bc toddler wearing a coat is OK, etc) and it's getting too disruptive to our mornings and our jobs. We also really question her judgment.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2015 22:03     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anyone believe her? It's a bit over the top, IMHO.


Huh? What is over the top about it? Sounds like your run of the mill shitty employee. Have you never been in a management role? It is common to.have a few disaster hires from time to time.


Amen to that. There are always going to be some bad fits. It is in everyone's best interest to move on, and get the right people in the right spots.

Thing is, for every "bad fit" you pick, the greater the damage to your child. Perhaps learn to choose more wisely?

all
Pp was talking about management of employees in general, not nannies. Ideally you don't have more than one bad fit there.



Anonymous
Post 01/22/2015 22:02     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anyone believe her? It's a bit over the top, IMHO.


Huh? What is over the top about it? Sounds like your run of the mill shitty employee. Have you never been in a management role? It is common to.have a few disaster hires from time to time.


Amen to that. There are always going to be some bad fits. It is in everyone's best interest to move on, and get the right people in the right spots.

Thing is, for every "bad fit" you pick, the greater the damage to your child. Perhaps learn to choose more wisely?

all
Pp was talking about management of employees in general, not nannies. Ideally you don't have more than one bad fit there.



Anonymous
Post 01/22/2015 21:18     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anyone believe her? It's a bit over the top, IMHO.


Huh? What is over the top about it? Sounds like your run of the mill shitty employee. Have you never been in a management role? It is common to.have a few disaster hires from time to time.


Amen to that. There are always going to be some bad fits. It is in everyone's best interest to move on, and get the right people in the right spots.

Thing is, for every "bad fit" you pick, the greater the damage to your child. Perhaps learn to choose more wisely?
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2015 20:15     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anyone believe her? It's a bit over the top, IMHO.


Huh? What is over the top about it? Sounds like your run of the mill shitty employee. Have you never been in a management role? It is common to.have a few disaster hires from time to time.


Amen to that. There are always going to be some bad fits. It is in everyone's best interest to move on, and get the right people in the right spots.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2015 20:12     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
Anonymous wrote:Anyone believe her? It's a bit over the top, IMHO.


Huh? What is over the top about it? Sounds like your run of the mill shitty employee. Have you never been in a management role? It is common to.have a few disaster hires from time to time.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2015 19:24     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
Anyone believe her? It's a bit over the top, IMHO.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2015 18:52     Subject: ran into our nightmare ex-nanny
We have someone absolutely wonderful now, but earlier today we ran into the ex- the one who demanded everything and more each month, wouldn't lift a finger outside of the kids, treated me ,( the first time mom) like an inconvenient novice, and made our lives way more complicated than they needed to be. Now we have someone wonderful. She has made our lives happier. Our house is more happy with her presence. And yes, she does help with cleaning and laundry. We love her and will be very generous with her. I am so grateful right now thinking back to those early days, that did not need to be that hard.... To anyone in an uncomfortable situation with your employee, it is worth finding the right one!!! She loves us and we love her. Here's to a good fit both ways!