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Anonymous wrote:Her bringing her child to work does not mean you pay her nanny share rates. If you do, she gets an equal say in all childcare related matters.

If you are bringing your kid I'm not paying you full pay.... it's basically a share.

Like PP said, if it is a share, it is a share. Pay like one, and split ALL childcare decisions. If you want to play boss, you're going to have to pay more for the convenience. Not necessarily full pay, but more than half. OP, I would suggest paying minimum wage, or slightly more, and having a very specific contract detailing everyone's expectations. If you're both going to think of it as a share, she may (rightfully) expect herself and her child to be an equal in this relationship. That means all of the compromises that come with a share. No one kid/family gets to dictate how care will be provided.

If only one person is putting money into the "share" then they are in charge. Remember that the nanny has benefits in this relationship too in not having childcare.

That's not how this works. That's not how any of this works.

There are no true nannies here. There are either high school graduates looking for $16+ with no childcare experience or SAHMs looking for money on the side. This potential woman is one of the latter. I'm also concerned about DC's socialization. Right now I have a 19 year old who I do not trust (rightfully) to drive DC. They are at home all the time and that needs to change. Even if a nanny brings her child and they don't go anywhere, that's a lot better than the situation now.

I am not trying to screw her over and don't mind paying more for most of the input. I'm just not sure what's fair.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Her bringing her child to work does not mean you pay her nanny share rates. If you do, she gets an equal say in all childcare related matters.

If you are bringing your kid I'm not paying you full pay.... it's basically a share.

Like PP said, if it is a share, it is a share. Pay like one, and split ALL childcare decisions. If you want to play boss, you're going to have to pay more for the convenience. Not necessarily full pay, but more than half. OP, I would suggest paying minimum wage, or slightly more, and having a very specific contract detailing everyone's expectations. If you're both going to think of it as a share, she may (rightfully) expect herself and her child to be an equal in this relationship. That means all of the compromises that come with a share. No one kid/family gets to dictate how care will be provided.

If only one person is putting money into the "share" then they are in charge. Remember that the nanny has benefits in this relationship too in not having childcare.

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Anonymous wrote:Her bringing her child to work does not mean you pay her nanny share rates. If you do, she gets an equal say in all childcare related matters.

If you are bringing your kid I'm not paying you full pay.... it's basically a share.

Like PP said, if it is a share, it is a share. Pay like one, and split ALL childcare decisions. If you want to play boss, you're going to have to pay more for the convenience. Not necessarily full pay, but more than half. OP, I would suggest paying minimum wage, or slightly more, and having a very specific contract detailing everyone's expectations. If you're both going to think of it as a share, she may (rightfully) expect herself and her child to be an equal in this relationship. That means all of the compromises that come with a share. No one kid/family gets to dictate how care will be provided.

I'm a little confused by your question.

If minimum wage is well within what as full time caregiver in your area makes and you plan to pay minimum wage why not hire a nanny without a child?

Unless you see a nanny with a child of her own as a benefit.

I must caution you that a nanny with children comes with drawbacks especially one with young children.

If you want someone with mom experience pick someone with grown children.

Also, a nanny bringing her chid is not a true share it is a nanny bringing her child and sometimes making a little less to do so as that is a huge benefit.
In a share two families hire a nanny to look after their children and the parents split the cost.

My suggestion would be to join a share and you and the other family each pay minimum if you truly want a share .

I might even try solo since it seems in our area minimum wage will get you a full-time sitter.

Anonymous wrote:Her bringing her child to work does not mean you pay her nanny share rates. If you do, she gets an equal say in all childcare related matters.

If you are bringing your kid I'm not paying you full pay.... it's basically a share.

Anonymous wrote:Her bringing her child to work does not mean you pay her nanny share rates. If you do, she gets an equal say in all childcare related matters.

This is not correct.

Her bringing her child to work does not mean you pay her nanny share rates. If you do, she gets an equal say in all childcare related matters.

Anonymous wrote:She's not a full-time sitter. She's a nanny. That's completely different.

What do you think makes her a nanny, and not a sitter?

She's not a full-time sitter. She's a nanny. That's completely different.

People survive in my town on less than I have paid a nanny.

Anonymous wrote:I don't pay based on how much someone needs the money - I pay based on experience and duties. I thought everyone did?

You must have missed the news this week about the sitter who had her car repossessed from the mall parking lot, -with two charges inside of it!
Beware of a nanny who can't survive on what you pay her, unless someone else is supporting her.

I don't pay based on how much someone needs the money - I pay based on experience and duties. I thought everyone did?

Is someone else supporting her, and your pay is her pocket change?

I am tossing around the idea of hiring a nanny who would bring her own child. I know, I know. I am desperate. I would like to style it as a nanny share but I'm having trouble deciding on a salary. We do not live in DC and full time sitters are paid between $5-12 an hour here. Yes, I know that's below minimum wage but that is how it is here. What would a salary for a nanny bringing her own child be considering the average pay is so low. I need to pay at least minimum wage.