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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you have learned to be more reliable OP. Use this as a lesson. Even though nannying doesn't seem like a real job you do have to treat it as such.

WTF? I will give you a reading lesson. I have always been highly reliable with former families. This was just a stretch of back luck. My last family I had missed 1 day in 1.5 years with them. That was because my MB got me sick. The position before that was 3 years and I missed two days. I do take being a nanny very seriously. I've worked with some celebirties and high-profile clients who spoke endlessly about my high reliability rate when referring me to other families. You know what happens when you assume - you made an a** out of yourself.

Then why are you here trolling for sympathy?

Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you have learned to be more reliable OP. Use this as a lesson. Even though nannying doesn't seem like a real job you do have to treat it as such.

WTF? I will give you a reading lesson. I have always been highly reliable with former families. This was just a stretch of back luck. My last family I had missed 1 day in 1.5 years with them. That was because my MB got me sick. The position before that was 3 years and I missed two days. I do take being a nanny very seriously. I've worked with some celebirties and high-profile clients who spoke endlessly about my high reliability rate when referring me to other families. You know what happens when you assume - you made an a** out of yourself.

MB here, and I also totally get both sides of this situation. As PP said, you NF are not jerks (unless they left that list intentionally), their bar for nanny's availability is greater than others maybe but maybe it is just their circumstances.

My suggestion is to move on, but after you about to accept an offer from a new NF, I would tell them about your dad's condition and talk about what the backup options they might have. Some families might be more flexible than others. Some families might have clear backup plan. If family's back up plan is "mom/dad take PTO" and it is not followed by "and mom has very flexible schedule" that might not be the best match for you. If you can help a family in advance with backup care arrangements, it can also help you.

I wish your dad fast and successful recovery.

Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you have learned to be more reliable OP. Use this as a lesson. Even though nannying doesn't seem like a real job you do have to treat it as such.

Shut up, troll.

Hopefully you have learned to be more reliable OP. Use this as a lesson. Even though nannying doesn't seem like a real job you do have to treat it as such.

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Anonymous wrote:They asked you to babysit in order to fire you? Did they intentionally leave the nanny list out? That's cold.

To be candid - I don't really like them much. I only have a year until I get my degree so I was willing to stick it out until then. MB knew I was going to my dads this weekend but asked me to babysit anyway. I felt guilty for missing work so I said yes. I can't say if they deliberately left out the list for me to see but it was right where I log everything in. It wasn't hard to miss.

Even though it sucks that I have to go through the interview process over, I'm relieved. MB isn't the easiest to work for. She has made me miss class twice because she was late and never apologized, she will ask me something but then immediately shut me down or walk away ( mid-sentence). The worst is when she works from home. She has a home office and we play majority of the time in the family room. Instead of being in her office like she said, she is at a desk in the next room. She gets upset when we are too loud and she is on a call. It's really annoying but she doesn't like him playing in the nursery ( she believes he won't sleep if he plays in there) and the basement is way too cold ( where her office is). She is kind of a pain in the butt.

Anonymous wrote:They asked you to babysit in order to fire you? Did they intentionally leave the nanny list out? That's cold.

To be candid - I don't really like them much. I only have a year until I get my degree so I was willing to stick it out until then. MB knew I was going to my dads this weekend but asked me to babysit anyway. I felt guilty for missing work so I said yes. I can't say if they deliberately left out the list for me to see but it was right where I log everything in. It wasn't hard to miss.

They asked you to babysit in order to fire you? Did they intentionally leave the nanny list out? That's cold.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm really sorry this happened and especially for how it happened. I see both sides of this. Ultimately, they need to have reliable childcare, which for various reasons you were not able to provide. One thing I'm wondering about is why you had to miss work because your dad had surgery? Didn't he have people to take care of him? Couldn't you have called him on the phone? I've never missed work because someone had surgery. Was he not expected to live? If he just had surgery, it's probably not very restful, nor helpful to have a bunch of people hanging around the hospital.

I am an only child and really all my dad has and vice versa. He has been very ill with a bad heart and cancer for over a year. I see the point in not going to the hospital for every thing ( I don't) but when I get a call that my dad is having emergency heart surgery, I will go. God forbid if something were to happen and I wasn't there. My job is important but there will be many jobs but I only have one father. He was more important in that moment.

And with him being ill, its kind of a " only a matter of time" the doctors say. It sucks that I had to miss work but I would be more guilty and upset if my father passed and I wasn't there because I was at work.

I'm the first pp. Totalling get where you are coming from and totally get where they are coming from. Try to move past thjs. they are neither jerks nor in the wrong

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Anonymous wrote:I'm really sorry this happened and especially for how it happened. I see both sides of this. Ultimately, they need to have reliable childcare, which for various reasons you were not able to provide. One thing I'm wondering about is why you had to miss work because your dad had surgery? Didn't he have people to take care of him? Couldn't you have called him on the phone? I've never missed work because someone had surgery. Was he not expected to live? If he just had surgery, it's probably not very restful, nor helpful to have a bunch of people hanging around the hospital.

I am an only child and really all my dad has and vice versa. He has been very ill with a bad heart and cancer for over a year. I see the point in not going to the hospital for every thing ( I don't) but when I get a call that my dad is having emergency heart surgery, I will go. God forbid if something were to happen and I wasn't there. My job is important but there will be many jobs but I only have one father. He was more important in that moment.

And with him being ill, its kind of a " only a matter of time" the doctors say. It sucks that I had to miss work but I would be more guilty and upset if my father passed and I wasn't there because I was at work.

Anonymous wrote:I'm really sorry this happened and especially for how it happened. I see both sides of this. Ultimately, they need to have reliable childcare, which for various reasons you were not able to provide. One thing I'm wondering about is why you had to miss work because your dad had surgery? Didn't he have people to take care of him? Couldn't you have called him on the phone? I've never missed work because someone had surgery. Was he not expected to live? If he just had surgery, it's probably not very restful, nor helpful to have a bunch of people hanging around the hospital.

I am an only child and really all my dad has and vice versa. He has been very ill with a bad heart and cancer for over a year. I see the point in not going to the hospital for every thing ( I don't) but when I get a call that my dad is having emergency heart surgery, I will go. God forbid if something were to happen and I wasn't there. My job is important but there will be many jobs but I only have one father. He was more important in that moment.

I'm really sorry this happened and especially for how it happened. I see both sides of this. Ultimately, they need to have reliable childcare, which for various reasons you were not able to provide. One thing I'm wondering about is why you had to miss work because your dad had surgery? Didn't he have people to take care of him? Couldn't you have called him on the phone? I've never missed work because someone had surgery. Was he not expected to live? If he just had surgery, it's probably not very restful, nor helpful to have a bunch of people hanging around the hospital.

I'm really sorry this happened and especially for how it happened. I see both sides of this. Ultimately, they need to have reliable childcare, which for various reasons you were not able to provide. One thing I'm wondering about is why you had to miss work because your dad had surgery? Didn't he have people to take care of him? Couldn't you have called him on the phone? I've never missed work because someone had surgery. Was he not expected to live? If he just had surgery, it's probably not very restful, nor helpful to have a bunch of people hanging around the hospital.

You're in that shitty situation. Of course I get you've had a run of bad luck and situations that have required you to miss work. However, in the course of 6 weeks, you've Already missed almost a full week. They don't have much of a track record with you so its in their best interest to find someone else. I don't see fault in either party

Been working with my NF for six weeks. I've had a string of bad luck by getting sick with step throat the second weekend ( had to miss Monday). Then my father had heart surgery this week ( missed T,W,TH). MB and DB asked me to babysit on tonight. I felt almost guilty for missing work that I agreed even though I would have preferred to be with my dad this weekend ( lives in the next state). I get to work and on the counter is a list of nannies names with details of their start date, rate and interview times. I was upset and kind of shocked. I have been fortunate enough to rarely, if ever, miss days with previous positions. I have never been let go either. Then DB tells me im unreliable and I will not be needed after the holidays. MB goes on how its unfortunate because they love me as a person and Im wonderful with their daughter. What shocks me is I even told her I would come into work and then spend the weekend with my dad. They both said it was important I be with him and they had backup. Has anyone been fired for this? I'm a little shocked.