Anonymous
12/04/2014 10:20
Subject: found out there have been many nannies before me over just a couple years...
Anonymous wrote:MB here. I'm not sure I buy this. What professional nanny would be forming substantive opinions about their employment based on the hearsay of a child?
You haven't answered the question about the age of the child - which is highly relevant not only for reliability of anything the child might tell, but also to the number of caregivers/babysitters a kid might have known over the course of years.
If you spent time w/ my kids (under 5) you might hear of as many as 5-8 different women who have spent time with them. Babysitters, mother's helpers, fill-in nanny for several weeks (and emergency coverage) for their regular nanny, etc... In reality we've had the same nanny for 4+ years, but that doesn't mean she's the only adult who watches our kids.
If you have concerns or questions then talk to your employers.
If you're just trolling for entertainment then I've sadly taken the bait so congratulations.
All I said was that this new information is a little concerning, not that I have made any substantive opinions about the family or position. This does make me wonder, wouldn't you?
My charge is 8. I'm not taking everything she says as fact obviously!
Anonymous
12/04/2014 09:08
Subject: found out there have been many nannies before me over just a couple years...
MB here. I'm not sure I buy this. What professional nanny would be forming substantive opinions about their employment based on the hearsay of a child?
You haven't answered the question about the age of the child - which is highly relevant not only for reliability of anything the child might tell, but also to the number of caregivers/babysitters a kid might have known over the course of years.
If you spent time w/ my kids (under 5) you might hear of as many as 5-8 different women who have spent time with them. Babysitters, mother's helpers, fill-in nanny for several weeks (and emergency coverage) for their regular nanny, etc... In reality we've had the same nanny for 4+ years, but that doesn't mean she's the only adult who watches our kids.
If you have concerns or questions then talk to your employers.
If you're just trolling for entertainment then I've sadly taken the bait so congratulations.
You haven't answered the question about the age of the child - which is highly relevant not only for reliability of anything the child might tell, but also to the number of caregivers/babysitters a kid might have known over the course of years.
If you spent time w/ my kids (under 5) you might hear of as many as 5-8 different women who have spent time with them. Babysitters, mother's helpers, fill-in nanny for several weeks (and emergency coverage) for their regular nanny, etc... In reality we've had the same nanny for 4+ years, but that doesn't mean she's the only adult who watches our kids.
If you have concerns or questions then talk to your employers.
If you're just trolling for entertainment then I've sadly taken the bait so congratulations.
Anonymous
12/04/2014 07:27
Subject: found out there have been many nannies before me over just a couple years...
Yes, you have every right to be concerned OP. This is a HUGE red flag.
How did you find this out?
Sure, you can bring it up w/your family, but depending on how you found this out they may not be so enthusiastic to discuss past nannies w/you. So proceed w/caution on this topic.
Listen to what they say, hear their side of the story + go w/your gut on this.
Honestly however...I would always have my guard up w/this family. I would always wonder if I would be next on the chopping block. Just look at their history.
How did you find this out?
Sure, you can bring it up w/your family, but depending on how you found this out they may not be so enthusiastic to discuss past nannies w/you. So proceed w/caution on this topic.
Listen to what they say, hear their side of the story + go w/your gut on this.
Honestly however...I would always have my guard up w/this family. I would always wonder if I would be next on the chopping block. Just look at their history.
Anonymous
12/03/2014 21:43
Subject: found out there have been many nannies before me over just a couple years...
How old is your charge? Unless she's old enough to be 100% reliable (I know my 4 1/2 year old is NOT always accurate) I wouldn't take her word for it. Maybe she's had a number of babysitters for a variety of reasons but only 1 actual nanny. We've had quite a few nannies due to several moves and I know my kids could never list them by name and certainly couldn't say why we let them go.
If this is your only concern I'd let it go. You don't even know if it's true.
If this is your only concern I'd let it go. You don't even know if it's true.
Anonymous
12/03/2014 21:34
Subject: found out there have been many nannies before me over just a couple years...
I wouldn't make it a habit of encouraging that kind of talk with charge. Could backfire..
Anyway
They lied to you.
I had an employer lie to me about their nanny history. Did end well.
They are deceitful they lied about this and you said they were underhanded about letting previous nanny go that's what you know.
No one here can tell you if they will let you go or not.
You can talk to them about your performance and mention the days off and see if that will work for them.
Basically all you can do is take a chance.
Anyway
They lied to you.
I had an employer lie to me about their nanny history. Did end well.
They are deceitful they lied about this and you said they were underhanded about letting previous nanny go that's what you know.
No one here can tell you if they will let you go or not.
You can talk to them about your performance and mention the days off and see if that will work for them.
Basically all you can do is take a chance.
Anonymous
12/03/2014 21:27
Subject: found out there have been many nannies before me over just a couple years...
Anonymous wrote:Well you should be discussing your job performance with your bosses not the child.
Honestly sounds like you aren't sure if this position is right for you.
If your bosses have a history of letting nannies go suddenly and without cause it doesn't matter if you go on the trip or not they could just as easily replace you if you stay.
I have never discussed job performance with the child.
I've enjoyed this job, and did feel this job was the right one for me. However, at this point knowing this family drops nannies so easily, I'm not so sure.
You're absolutely right, I guess only time will tell.
Anonymous
12/03/2014 21:23
Subject: Re:found out there have been many nannies before me over just a couple years...
I was not discussing employment concerns with the child. As far as I was told there had only been one nanny before me, then recently the child started mentioning other nannies and babysitters by name, and seemed to know exactly why they were no longer with the family.
Anonymous
12/03/2014 20:43
Subject: found out there have been many nannies before me over just a couple years...
maybe you shouldn't be a nanny if you are discussing your employment concerns with a child instead of your employers
Anonymous
12/03/2014 19:59
Subject: found out there have been many nannies before me over just a couple years...
How old is your charge? Seems odd she can list the reasons prior nAnnies were let go? Were they believable or were they like a little girl I babysit for who said her old babysitter stopped coming because she ate all the frosting that was meant for her birthday cake?
Anonymous
12/03/2014 18:03
Subject: found out there have been many nannies before me over just a couple years...
Well you should be discussing your job performance with your bosses not the child.
Honestly sounds like you aren't sure if this position is right for you.
If your bosses have a history of letting nannies go suddenly and without cause it doesn't matter if you go on the trip or not they could just as easily replace you if you stay.
Honestly sounds like you aren't sure if this position is right for you.
If your bosses have a history of letting nannies go suddenly and without cause it doesn't matter if you go on the trip or not they could just as easily replace you if you stay.
Anonymous
12/03/2014 17:51
Subject: found out there have been many nannies before me over just a couple years...
How did you find out abot these other nannies?
From their child, who started listing all the nannies before me and why they were let go.
How do you feel about the job?
I felt a little uneasy from the beginning due to the manner in which they replaced their former nanny with me.
How do you feel about your employers?
I really like them, but have always felt uneasy about being replaced.
How do your employers feel about you?
According to their child, they like me.
How long have you been at the job?
Just a couple months.
How much time are you taking off?
1 day soon and 1 week in a couple months (the week off was scheduled before I started, and they knew about it before hiring me)
From their child, who started listing all the nannies before me and why they were let go.
How do you feel about the job?
I felt a little uneasy from the beginning due to the manner in which they replaced their former nanny with me.
How do you feel about your employers?
I really like them, but have always felt uneasy about being replaced.
How do your employers feel about you?
According to their child, they like me.
How long have you been at the job?
Just a couple months.
How much time are you taking off?
1 day soon and 1 week in a couple months (the week off was scheduled before I started, and they knew about it before hiring me)
Anonymous
12/03/2014 17:08
Subject: found out there have been many nannies before me over just a couple years...
How did you find out about these other nannies?
How do you feel about the job?
How do you feel about your employers?
How do your employers feel about you?
How long have you been at the job?
How much time are you taking off?
How do you feel about the job?
How do you feel about your employers?
How do your employers feel about you?
How long have you been at the job?
How much time are you taking off?
Anonymous
12/03/2014 17:02
Subject: found out there have been many nannies before me over just a couple years...
Now I'm a little concerned. Should I be? I wanted ask about it because I'm taking time off in a couple weeks and now I'm worried i'll just be replaced.