Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2. First One was let go after about 3 months because she was arrested for a DUI.

Second has been with us almost 5 years.

So because of one little mistake, made outside of work hours, you ruin her life by also making her lose her job? You are a peach.

Oh please, I'm a nanny and I drive my charges. If I got a DUI I would expect to be let go. It's not one little mistake. Where's your common sense? Would you let your own children drive with someone who has been charged with DUI? The nanny family didn't ruin her life, the nanny ruined her own life.

Anonymous wrote:2. First One was let go after about 3 months because she was arrested for a DUI.

Second has been with us almost 5 years.

So because of one little mistake, made outside of work hours, you ruin her life by also making her lose her job? You are a peach.

2. First One was let go after about 3 months because she was arrested for a DUI.

Second has been with us almost 5 years.

#1 five years (live in)
#2 one year (left to go back to grad school) (live out)
#3 four years (live in, then live out)
#4 au pair (1.5 years)
#5 au pair (1.5 years)
#6 au pair (1 year)
#7 au pair (1 year)

All done now as kids are 13 and 15.

nannydebsays wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a family actually changes nannies that much, then there must be something fundamentally wrong with the family.

Or they must be rich.

I heard Mariah Carey on a radio show last year state that she does this. And she didn't even bat an eyelash.

Such a diva. Lol.

Or there is something wrong with the nanny, or the nanny had a personal emergency, or people have relocated, or childcare needs change, or a multitude of other reasons why a family might employ more than one nanny in a period of time. Not all situations (and even fewer nannies) are perfect and sometimes a change needs to happen.

If a family reports that they have had 8 nannies in 3 years, then the FAMILY is the common denominator and the problem stems from their behavior. Maybe they just can't screen well, or their hiring practices stink, or they start job creep upon hire, or they are hard to work for because MB/DB act out their personal issues in front of nanny, or they talked a lot about how they discipline and then nanny discovers it was all a load of baloney and they let their kids rule the house, or...

Yes, nannies can also be the issue, but most families might have a SINGLE problem nanny before they fix whatever led them to hire poorly and get on a better track.

And Mariah has said she switches nannies all the time so her kids don't get attached. Lovely parenting tactics there.

This makes sense that this would be the most common reason but that's not always true. We have had 7 nannies in 4 years. Only 2 left on bad terms.

#1 She was our first nanny and I had no idea how to hire a nanny. She was recommended by really good friends of ours who had employed her as their nanny for years. She was SO horrible there are no words to describe it except to say that she was truly crazy. I think she had been ok when she was younger and worked for our friends but a few years later she had lost it. Literally.
After this we used an agency.
#2 We loved her, she stayed with us for a year until she moved on to a non-nanny career.
#3 Also stayed with us a year and we loved her as well. She moved on to a teaching career overseas.
#4 Came from the same agency and #2 and #3 who I had trusted completely. She lied frequently and when she gave DS#1 too much infant motrin and then tried to cover it up we fired her.
#5 Was wonderful, stayed with us until we moved out of state

#6 Started with us part-time when I was on maternity leave. When I went back to work she decided she didn't want to work full-time and left to stay home with her kids
#7 She's been with us almost a year. We love her and it seems to be mutual.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a family actually changes nannies that much, then there must be something fundamentally wrong with the family.

Or they must be rich.

I heard Mariah Carey on a radio show last year state that she does this. And she didn't even bat an eyelash.

Such a diva. Lol.

Or there is something wrong with the nanny, or the nanny had a personal emergency, or people have relocated, or childcare needs change, or a multitude of other reasons why a family might employ more than one nanny in a period of time. Not all situations (and even fewer nannies) are perfect and sometimes a change needs to happen.

If a family reports that they have had 8 nannies in 3 years, then the FAMILY is the common denominator and the problem stems from their behavior. Maybe they just can't screen well, or their hiring practices stink, or they start job creep upon hire, or they are hard to work for because MB/DB act out their personal issues in front of nanny, or they talked a lot about how they discipline and then nanny discovers it was all a load of baloney and they let their kids rule the house, or...

Yes, nannies can also be the issue, but most families might have a SINGLE problem nanny before they fix whatever led them to hire poorly and get on a better track.

And Mariah has said she switches nannies all the time so her kids don't get attached. Lovely parenting tactics there.

Anonymous wrote:If a family actually changes nannies that much, then there must be something fundamentally wrong with the family.

Or they must be rich.

I heard Mariah Carey on a radio show last year state that she does this. And she didn't even bat an eyelash.

Such a diva. Lol.

Or there is something wrong with the nanny, or the nanny had a personal emergency, or people have relocated, or childcare needs change, or a multitude of other reasons why a family might employ more than one nanny in a period of time. Not all situations (and even fewer nannies) are perfect and sometimes a change needs to happen.

Two, the kids are 3 and 8 now, and we have had two guys total since DS1 was born.

We've had 4 regular nannies and a couple of temps.

Nanny 1 was part time when we had one child. Stayed about a year (but took a three-month vacation in there) and left to pursue a job in her degree field.

Nanny 2 was with us for a year and a half, and then left to become a SAHM.

Nanny 3 come on board right after DC #3 was born, and was with us for a year until we moved out of state.

Nanny 4 just started with us in our new home state, and I'm hopeful she'll be able to stay on for awhile (we have one more child due soon).

One, for three years now. Contemplating whether it's time to make a change but we've been extremely blessed thus far.

One nanny. She just passed her 5th anniversary with us. She is stellar.

One. I am so glad we did working interviews. We've had the same manny for three years. Solid as a rock.

If a family actually changes nannies that much, then there must be something fundamentally wrong with the family.

Or they must be rich.

I heard Mariah Carey on a radio show last year state that she does this. And she didn't even bat an eyelash.

Such a diva. Lol.

Its obviously not common (as in "happens to most people") but there will be many stories. All kinds of things can cause this.

I've heard horror stories about people changing nannies 3-4 times in a year. How common is this?