Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 14:04     Subject: Re:Advice on Temporary Position
Perhaps being a temporary nanny isn't for you, OP. Uncertainty and flexibility comes with the territory.


It isn't reasonable to expect the family to know your end date your first week on the job.
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False. It is reasonable to know this before agreeing to the job.


Signed a nanny that frequently temps including maternity leaves.


It's not false just because you disagree with the post.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 11:41     Subject: Advice on Temporary Position
I agree with most of this advice. Assume you "owe" them the 8 weeks they can guarantee you, and then make your plans and give the date you'll be leaving by.

I think it would also be nice to say to them that you're doing this. They may decide to tell their original nanny she can't come back early if that means they lose you.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 10:36     Subject: Advice on Temporary Position
Assume 8 weeks and plan from there. Their uncertainty is their issue, not yours. Give notice when you're ready, and if it doesn't work out perfectly for them, that's really on them.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 09:59     Subject: Advice on Temporary Position
Anonymous wrote:Perhaps being a temporary nanny isn't for you, OP. Uncertainty and flexibility comes with the territory.


It isn't reasonable to expect the family to know your end date your first week on the job.
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False. It is reasonable to know this before agreeing to the job.


Signed a nanny that frequently temps including maternity leaves.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 09:50     Subject: Advice on Temporary Position
Perhaps being a temporary nanny isn't for you, OP. Uncertainty and flexibility comes with the territory.


It isn't reasonable to expect the family to know your end date your first week on the job.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2014 22:19     Subject: Advice on Temporary Position
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How long have you been there? If it's like 2 weeks, I get why they don't know yet. 5 weeks? Different story


I've only been there a week, so maybe I should give them another before asking again? I guess I assumed they would be able to tell me once she had the baby and I started working. I'm also planning to use this family as a reference, so I don't want to upset them by leaving early. As far as the vacation goes, my husband needs to let his employers know as soon as possible what week he will be taking off. There are also plane tickets to buy.


OP, I'm betting you've never had a baby, right? Because you seen to not understand that women plan how maternity leave will go, and then they have to see how their body reacts to having given birth. Some women think their vagina will be thrashed from natural birth so they pick a c-section, not realizing it's major surgery and cuts the stomach muscles requiring significant recovery time. Also, some women think they'll have no problem leaving their newborn to go back to work, only to find they're more attached than they realized they would be, or that their childcare was their mother who changed her mind about providing fulltime care for a newborn.

The parents DON'T KNOW. You can't demand they provide you with information they don't have. You honestly think a woman gives birth and the very next day can assess when she'll be ready to return to work? No.



OP here and I do understand this, but you also need to understand that as a temporary nanny I need to know when the end date is so I can set up my next position.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2014 21:50     Subject: Advice on Temporary Position
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How long have you been there? If it's like 2 weeks, I get why they don't know yet. 5 weeks? Different story


I've only been there a week, so maybe I should give them another before asking again? I guess I assumed they would be able to tell me once she had the baby and I started working. I'm also planning to use this family as a reference, so I don't want to upset them by leaving early. As far as the vacation goes, my husband needs to let his employers know as soon as possible what week he will be taking off. There are also plane tickets to buy.


OP, I'm betting you've never had a baby, right? Because you seen to not understand that women plan how maternity leave will go, and then they have to see how their body reacts to having given birth. Some women think their vagina will be thrashed from natural birth so they pick a c-section, not realizing it's major surgery and cuts the stomach muscles requiring significant recovery time. Also, some women think they'll have no problem leaving their newborn to go back to work, only to find they're more attached than they realized they would be, or that their childcare was their mother who changed her mind about providing fulltime care for a newborn.

The parents DON'T KNOW. You can't demand they provide you with information they don't have. You honestly think a woman gives birth and the very next day can assess when she'll be ready to return to work? No.


Does not matter. OP has a life to lead and plans to make. She cannot and should not put her life on hold .
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2014 21:49     Subject: Advice on Temporary Position
OP do exactly what OP at 18:43 suggested.

Take care of you.

Anonymous
Post 11/17/2014 20:36     Subject: Advice on Temporary Position
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How long have you been there? If it's like 2 weeks, I get why they don't know yet. 5 weeks? Different story


I've only been there a week, so maybe I should give them another before asking again? I guess I assumed they would be able to tell me once she had the baby and I started working. I'm also planning to use this family as a reference, so I don't want to upset them by leaving early. As far as the vacation goes, my husband needs to let his employers know as soon as possible what week he will be taking off. There are also plane tickets to buy.


OP, I'm betting you've never had a baby, right? Because you seen to not understand that women plan how maternity leave will go, and then they have to see how their body reacts to having given birth. Some women think their vagina will be thrashed from natural birth so they pick a c-section, not realizing it's major surgery and cuts the stomach muscles requiring significant recovery time. Also, some women think they'll have no problem leaving their newborn to go back to work, only to find they're more attached than they realized they would be, or that their childcare was their mother who changed her mind about providing fulltime care for a newborn.

The parents DON'T KNOW. You can't demand they provide you with information they don't have. You honestly think a woman gives birth and the very next day can assess when she'll be ready to return to work? No.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2014 20:19     Subject: Advice on Temporary Position
Anonymous wrote:How long have you been there? If it's like 2 weeks, I get why they don't know yet. 5 weeks? Different story


I've only been there a week, so maybe I should give them another before asking again? I guess I assumed they would be able to tell me once she had the baby and I started working. I'm also planning to use this family as a reference, so I don't want to upset them by leaving early. As far as the vacation goes, my husband needs to let his employers know as soon as possible what week he will be taking off. There are also plane tickets to buy.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2014 18:52     Subject: Advice on Temporary Position
How long have you been there? If it's like 2 weeks, I get why they don't know yet. 5 weeks? Different story
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2014 18:43     Subject: Advice on Temporary Position
When you can't get directives from the people that are supposed to be your leaders, do the next best thing which take matters into your own hands and plan you vacation and find a job with a start date of your picking.

I would plan to work 8 weeks, would have vacation on week 9-10 and starting now, I would look for a job, telling every prospect family that my available start date is week 11.

If you don't make a decision what will happen is. Nanny will be back on week 8, you will be out of a job with less then desirable notice, you wont have made plans for vacation so you will say goodbye to that and hopefully you'll at least have a job lined up..... GOOD LUCK
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2014 17:01     Subject: Advice on Temporary Position
They need to get a decision from their nanny so you can have a firm end date! I would just tell them the truth- you really need to know so you can plan your next job And vacation. If they still can't tell you I would just assume you are done after eight weeks and give them notice to reflect that, then plan your vacation.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2014 16:36     Subject: Advice on Temporary Position
You're not out of line for wanting to know. At the same time, it's okay that they don't know. They offered their nanny 12 weeks and she's indicated only wanting to take two thirds of that.

If you must, do what you need to do to cover yourself and give notice.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2014 16:01     Subject: Advice on Temporary Position
I am currently working a temporary position for a family while their regular nanny is on maternity leave. The problem is they will not give me an exact end date to the position. When I asked they said they want their nanny to take 12 weeks or longer but the nanny wants to take 8 weeks so they really have no idea how long it will be. I'm not sure whats going on, but I would really like to know the end date because my husband and I are planning on taking a vacation and then I will probably start another job if I can find one. I don't want to be pushy, but I would really like to know so I can plan accordingly for the vacation and job hunting. Am I out of line for wanting to know an exact date?