Anonymous wrote:Its not unreasonable to help with the kids stuff.

Of course it is! She is a nanny NOT a packer /mover. Her MB should pay her extra for the packing. I guess you think if the house interior is being painted that it would be reasonable to expect the nanny to paint children's room(s)!

Its not unreasonable to help with the kids stuff.

Sounds like you handled it perfectly OP.

Op here - Thanks to everyone who responded! After seeing the consensus on here was that they were asking too much of me I had a talk with MB today. I told her that I am happy to help them out with the kids stuff but that packing the house would need to be done by them or a company they hire. I told her how much pain I was in last night and that I didn't want to put myself in that position again. She was really nice about it and let me go early today too. I think she's use to me going above and beyond all the time as I love my job and take great pride in my work. I'm all about being helpful, but I don't want to become a door mat either.

Hell no it is not fair.

You are their nanny.

Even movers who get paid to pack & move people for a living get paid a whole lot more than nannies do because it is tough work and on top of that they need to have a special type of insurance to boot!

So I would tell your momboss that there must have been some misunderstanding upon hire. That you applied for a childcare position ONLY. Not a moving and packing position. If it is moving and packing assistance that she needs, then you and her need to work out a separate pay agreement for that since that is a totally different vocation than childcare.

Or if it is too much physical labor for you understandably, she can hire some strong men to do that.

I was also going to add that you shouldn't even have to be packing up the kids stuff. It's their job to hire a packer/mover or to pack it themselves. They can ask for help in deciding what kids clothes/items (like diapers/wipes) toys/books to not pack until the last minute, but it's not your job to pack up everything the kids own, much less anything else there.

Tell her what you told us, "I packed for five hours yesterday, I'm really sore and tired. I wasn't expecting to pack everyday for hours, that's a lot of work.". Then offer to pack for one hour each day till move. Put on your big girl panties and speak up, honestly if you don't do it now she'll just expect more.

Unless you were hired as a mover/nanny, it's not your job.
Personally I would help my own MB pack, but she would refuse my help. Thats exactly why I would volunteer to help her. Your boss is an ass.

Packing is not your job, including the kids stuff. I would probably help with the kids things as a nice gesture but my NF would also be thankful rather then entitled about it. Explain that packing is no fun at all for little ones and spend the day at the museum to get out of her way.

Even packing the kids stuff is not your responsability !

I would either look up moving company prices and give her that has your starting price point for packing, or I would tell her you're not a professional mover and don't want the liability of things breaking because you didn't pack them right. Also be blunt that it's making you achy and tired which is bad enough when you're moving your own stuff!

MB here. No bueno. I'd have you packing the kids bedrooms and playroom (all toys and clothes). Anything else, I'd ask if you'd like to earn some extra money by staying a couple hours late to pack kitchen or whatever.

Of course it is not fair! Tomorrow I would tell her that you would be happy to help them organize and pack the children's things, but that packing the house for their move falls outside of nanny responibilitiies. Or you could say that while you are happy to help pack the children's belongings, you do not feel comfortable packing their household items. Good luck!

She can increase your hourly wage. You are a nanny not her maid. This is colossal job creep and you have tpspeak up. Packing her house is not the duty of a nanny.

Right now my nanny family is in the process of getting ready to move. I assumed I'd help pack up the kid's toys and their clothes. Apparently my nanny family thinks that I should help with packing the whole house. I've been doing a lot of prep work and cleaning through the piles of mess. Today I spent 5 hours packing stuff from all over the house. When I went to leave MB started telling me about all the stuff she wants me to do tomorrow. She wants me to pack up their whole kitchen and laundry room. I'm already in pain from all the stuff I did today and this seems really excessive to me, especially for how little they're paying me. What do you all think? What is fair?