Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You cannot afford a nanny or a 2nd child

Well, our 2nd child is actually our 4th child and our nanny is very happy with us. I am sure she'd appreciate a raise but we gave her the salary she requested, so we can afford her. I'd just like to show her how amazing I think she is.

Geez....sew it up already! 4 kids?!

Nanny share are like the jackpot! You get more for the 2-4 kids than if they were all in one family!

Anonymous wrote:You cannot afford a nanny or a 2nd child

Well, our 2nd child is actually our 4th child and our nanny is very happy with us. I am sure she'd appreciate a raise but we gave her the salary she requested, so we can afford her. I'd just like to show her how amazing I think she is.

$100 is fine for an "anniversary." Not really necessary either.
Christmas or yearend bonus is more important, save up for that $300 or whatever.

You cannot afford a nanny or a 2nd child

OP, is this just an issue this year due to a passing concern or is this likely to be the case going forward because of own employment situation? If it is just a less then stellar year, give the bonus and a positive review along with an appropriate explanation so the nanny does not think she did anything wrong. If you think you will need to have this talk again each year because your job does not pay you enough to afford yearly raises then you should consider whether you have hired above your pay range.

Best of luck.

Anonymous wrote:You're paying less than $10/hr now. That's not terrible for a share, but it's not a fabulous rate either. I really think she deserves at least a week's bonus if there's no raise in her future.

For a share that is very reasonable. Not everyone gets raises at work. If you do not get a raise, budget accordingly, you cannot always do a raise for someone else.

Anonymous wrote:You're paying less than $10/hr now. That's not terrible for a share, but it's not a fabulous rate either. I really think she deserves at least a week's bonus if there's no raise in her future.

I am having another baby in April and will be putting my older baby in school. I'll probably try and give her a raise them, assuming our financial situation improves.

You're paying less than $10/hr now. That's not terrible for a share, but it's not a fabulous rate either. I really think she deserves at least a week's bonus if there's no raise in her future.

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Anonymous wrote:Raises aren't automatic every year, especially as they get closer to getting out of market, capping out. Not sure on your situation but a bonus, a $0.50/hour raise or some other bill payment might work.

Not everyone gets a 2-8% raise a year.

I wouldn't tell her "you'd love to give a raise but can't", that might fuel a war of questioning about your spending habits. Just say, here is XYZ, it's all we can budget and afford.

If it works out it does. Everyone has their own budget.

Whats an appropriate bonus? We are in a nanny share and we pay $350 a week. Is $100 ok? Or should it be a full week (which is what we give her on Christmas)?

How many hours do you use her? How many kids do you have in the share?

We use her 40 hrs a week. There are 2-3 kids in the share (2 f/t, 1 very p/t). She already gets a lot of extra days off - she had 4 extra days off in the past 2 weeks. The other family has only been in the share for 2 months, so I dont want to ask them to contribute. she has been with us (and another family previously) for the past year.

If a raise is out of the question, and you can scrape together a full week, I think that would be very nice.

Also, if you an the other family could agree to give her a couple of more paid days off during the year, that might also be appreciated. If those are days one or both of you can cover for free, your cost doesn't go up, but her benefits do. Obviously, if you'd have to pay for care to cover those days, it might not be possible.

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Anonymous wrote:Raises aren't automatic every year, especially as they get closer to getting out of market, capping out. Not sure on your situation but a bonus, a $0.50/hour raise or some other bill payment might work.

Not everyone gets a 2-8% raise a year.

I wouldn't tell her "you'd love to give a raise but can't", that might fuel a war of questioning about your spending habits. Just say, here is XYZ, it's all we can budget and afford.

If it works out it does. Everyone has their own budget.

Whats an appropriate bonus? We are in a nanny share and we pay $350 a week. Is $100 ok? Or should it be a full week (which is what we give her on Christmas)?

How many hours do you use her? How many kids do you have in the share?

Anonymous wrote:Raises aren't automatic every year, especially as they get closer to getting out of market, capping out. Not sure on your situation but a bonus, a $0.50/hour raise or some other bill payment might work.

Not everyone gets a 2-8% raise a year.

I wouldn't tell her "you'd love to give a raise but can't", that might fuel a war of questioning about your spending habits. Just say, here is XYZ, it's all we can budget and afford.

If it works out it does. Everyone has their own budget.

Whats an appropriate bonus? We are in a nanny share and we pay $350 a week. Is $100 ok? Or should it be a full week (which is what we give her on Christmas)?

Raises aren't automatic every year, especially as they get closer to getting out of market, capping out. Not sure on your situation but a bonus, a $0.50/hour raise or some other bill payment might work.

Not everyone gets a 2-8% raise a year.

I wouldn't tell her "you'd love to give a raise but can't", that might fuel a war of questioning about your spending habits. Just say, here is XYZ, it's all we can budget and afford.

If it works out it does. Everyone has their own budget.

Should I just give her a bonus and a small gift? Should I tell her we'd love to give her a raise but cant?