Anonymous
09/01/2014 22:46
Subject: Re:Just got invited to Hawaii :)
I have been to Hawaii twice for my vacation. The flights are long, there is no way I would travel with kids. There is a big difference when you are alone with the kids, but them being around their parents is another story. I went to lunch with my boss and her kids they acted up much I didn't even get to finish my lunch. Never again, I can take them anywhere by myself with no problem but with their parents around they think they don't have to listen to you.
Anonymous
09/01/2014 22:41
Subject: Just got invited to Hawaii :)
Anonymous wrote:I've traveled with several families. Here is my advice:
*Do not ask if your husband can come along. It's less than two weeks. You can call, skype, etc.
*See a doctor about the nervous flying. Perhaps you can get a low dose valium to help you relax. I'd be tempted to get it early so you could take one and find out your reaction.
*Do not guess or assume ANYTHING.
*Find out what your schedule will be like.
*Find out what the accommodations are (private room in a house, private hotel room, sharing a room with the kids) Will there be a kitchen? All meals eaten out?
*Find out who will be paying for your meals when you're on the clock and when you're off the clock.
*Find out if you'll be required to care for the kids on the flight.
*Find out where you will be staying. Will they be renting a car? Will you be able to use the rental in your off time? Is there anything nearby you'd be interested in seeing? Will they be mostly at the beach, or will they be doing sight seeing too?
The only bad experience I had traveling was when I didn't know the answers to some of the above.
This was what I was hoping for!!! Thanks!!
Anonymous
09/01/2014 21:35
Subject: Just got invited to Hawaii :)
I've traveled with several families. Here is my advice:
*Do not ask if your husband can come along. It's less than two weeks. You can call, skype, etc.
*See a doctor about the nervous flying. Perhaps you can get a low dose valium to help you relax. I'd be tempted to get it early so you could take one and find out your reaction.
*Do not guess or assume ANYTHING.
*Find out what your schedule will be like.
*Find out what the accommodations are (private room in a house, private hotel room, sharing a room with the kids) Will there be a kitchen? All meals eaten out?
*Find out who will be paying for your meals when you're on the clock and when you're off the clock.
*Find out if you'll be required to care for the kids on the flight.
*Find out where you will be staying. Will they be renting a car? Will you be able to use the rental in your off time? Is there anything nearby you'd be interested in seeing? Will they be mostly at the beach, or will they be doing sight seeing too?
The only bad experience I had traveling was when I didn't know the answers to some of the above.
*Do not ask if your husband can come along. It's less than two weeks. You can call, skype, etc.
*See a doctor about the nervous flying. Perhaps you can get a low dose valium to help you relax. I'd be tempted to get it early so you could take one and find out your reaction.
*Do not guess or assume ANYTHING.
*Find out what your schedule will be like.
*Find out what the accommodations are (private room in a house, private hotel room, sharing a room with the kids) Will there be a kitchen? All meals eaten out?
*Find out who will be paying for your meals when you're on the clock and when you're off the clock.
*Find out if you'll be required to care for the kids on the flight.
*Find out where you will be staying. Will they be renting a car? Will you be able to use the rental in your off time? Is there anything nearby you'd be interested in seeing? Will they be mostly at the beach, or will they be doing sight seeing too?
The only bad experience I had traveling was when I didn't know the answers to some of the above.
Anonymous
09/01/2014 20:56
Subject: Just got invited to Hawaii :)
Go and enjoy ,I wish my boss include me in her travel.
Anonymous
09/01/2014 20:38
Subject: Just got invited to Hawaii :)
You will be miserable. Stay home with your family even if it is without pay. Any woman too lazy to look after her own children on vacation is going to expect you to be on duty 24/7.
Anonymous
09/01/2014 18:24
Subject: Just got invited to Hawaii :)
Anonymous wrote:My dad had to travel for work when I was a kid, and I have tons of memories of my mom and I tagging along. I know plenty of people today that do the same thing with their spouses. So all those suggesting that business travel should never include a spouse are I think a little off base.
That's not to say that traveling for work as a nanny and trying to bring a spouse isn't a bit more complicated, but I don't think it needs to be dismissed outright. Has your nanny family met your DH? Comfortable with him around the kids? etc. If you're willing to pay for separate accommodations I think that will probably make it much more appealing for MB/DB. Also think abut what your plan would be for him while you're working. Would he be hanging out with you and the kids, or off doing his own thing? His coming along could be a bonus on the plane though. Assuming he was willing, he could be an extra pair of hands to help with the kids on the flight, as well as help keep you calm.
This has bad idea written all over it.
My husband loves me and he likes the children I care for, but there is no way he would want to spend time in Hawaii helping me watch them. And my employers pay me to take care of them, not me and my husband.
Anonymous
09/01/2014 17:37
Subject: Just got invited to Hawaii :)
Anonymous wrote:My dad had to travel for work when I was a kid, and I have tons of memories of my mom and I tagging along. I know plenty of people today that do the same thing with their spouses. So all those suggesting that business travel should never include a spouse are I think a little off base.
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That's nice that your dad worked in an industry where it was appropriate for you and your mom to tag along. That is not the case with travel for all industries. My husband was an active duty Marine for 23 years. He often had to travel for work (for much longer than 12 days), and we (my kids and I) did not tag along. It was not appropriate for the type of work he was doing. Same with the type of work OP is doing.
Anonymous
09/01/2014 17:17
Subject: Just got invited to Hawaii :)
My dad had to travel for work when I was a kid, and I have tons of memories of my mom and I tagging along. I know plenty of people today that do the same thing with their spouses. So all those suggesting that business travel should never include a spouse are I think a little off base.
That's not to say that traveling for work as a nanny and trying to bring a spouse isn't a bit more complicated, but I don't think it needs to be dismissed outright. Has your nanny family met your DH? Comfortable with him around the kids? etc. If you're willing to pay for separate accommodations I think that will probably make it much more appealing for MB/DB. Also think abut what your plan would be for him while you're working. Would he be hanging out with you and the kids, or off doing his own thing? His coming along could be a bonus on the plane though. Assuming he was willing, he could be an extra pair of hands to help with the kids on the flight, as well as help keep you calm.
That's not to say that traveling for work as a nanny and trying to bring a spouse isn't a bit more complicated, but I don't think it needs to be dismissed outright. Has your nanny family met your DH? Comfortable with him around the kids? etc. If you're willing to pay for separate accommodations I think that will probably make it much more appealing for MB/DB. Also think abut what your plan would be for him while you're working. Would he be hanging out with you and the kids, or off doing his own thing? His coming along could be a bonus on the plane though. Assuming he was willing, he could be an extra pair of hands to help with the kids on the flight, as well as help keep you calm.
Anonymous
09/01/2014 15:55
Subject: Just got invited to Hawaii :)
When our manny travels, he is working. If you need to concentrate on your fear you have to let them know that you won't be available to work during flights. Though maybe having kids to pay attention might distract you from your fear.
No. You can absolutely not bring your husband.
No. You can absolutely not bring your husband.
Anonymous
09/01/2014 15:34
Subject: Re:Just got invited to Hawaii :)
I travelled lots with several different families and it had always been great. I always worked much less than I would otherwise, had some free time to do my own thing and got to know the parents a bit better. Granted, every single time we made sure to make clear in advance what they would require from me. And of course it helps that I had had good relationships with the parents. Though I have never worked for parents who would make me watch the kids on a flight while they were right there.
So you can have a great time, but definitely speak about all the details before you commit.
So you can have a great time, but definitely speak about all the details before you commit.
Anonymous
09/01/2014 14:45
Subject: Just got invited to Hawaii :)
Honestly, every time I have traveled with my employers it has been horrible. Very little time to myself, horrible sleeping arrangements, and the flight was hell. How old are the kids? A flight to Hawaii is crazy long and if the parents are expecting you to take care of them during the flight it will be your worst nightmare. If I were you I would do whatever I could to get out of it especially if you want to keep your relationship with your nanny family good. 10-12 days would suck.
Anonymous
09/01/2014 13:45
Subject: Just got invited to Hawaii :)
Agree with PP. Get a schedule, or at the very least schedule parameters, in advance. Also clarify accommodations. Private room? Private bedroom with shared house? Or sharing a room with the kids. (That'd be a no for me!)
Are they staying at a place with a kitchen? If not, what meals will you be responsible for?
Are they staying at a place with a kitchen? If not, what meals will you be responsible for?
Anonymous
09/01/2014 13:15
Subject: Just got invited to Hawaii :)
Agree with the previous poster, do not ask if your husband can come along. You will be working.
Get it spelled out in advance what hours you will be working, overtime, and if they want you to watch the children on the flight. And if they do, be prepared.
They may want you to be more flexible in your hours.
I've had families take me on vacation where I did very little work and only watched the children while they went out at night, and other families who kept me on my regular work schedule, with some overtime.
Find out which island you will be going to and find activities and beaches for the kids. Some beaches are better in the winter than they are in the summer for taking small children to.
Things are expensive there. A gallon of gas will cost about $1 more a gallon than in the DC area. Food is more expensive, but if you find a farmer's market, go. You will be amazed at how inexpensive some if the food is there.
Get it spelled out in advance what hours you will be working, overtime, and if they want you to watch the children on the flight. And if they do, be prepared.
They may want you to be more flexible in your hours.
I've had families take me on vacation where I did very little work and only watched the children while they went out at night, and other families who kept me on my regular work schedule, with some overtime.
Find out which island you will be going to and find activities and beaches for the kids. Some beaches are better in the winter than they are in the summer for taking small children to.
Things are expensive there. A gallon of gas will cost about $1 more a gallon than in the DC area. Food is more expensive, but if you find a farmer's market, go. You will be amazed at how inexpensive some if the food is there.
Anonymous
09/01/2014 12:57
Subject: Just got invited to Hawaii :)
Do not ask if your husband can come. This is work--not a couples vacation. Many, many industries require travel.
Anonymous
09/01/2014 12:54
Subject: Just got invited to Hawaii :)
DB came home last night and asked if I would go to Hawaii with them! They would pay my normal salary for the week and also my flight/accommodations( which I think would be with them?)
Any advice?
2 things I'm nervous about
1. I am a nervous flyer. I usually try to sleep on flights but I don't know if they require me to cAre for the kids. Also I have never gone anywhere without my husband. It would be 10-12 days which is quite a while. Could I suggest him comming along and we get our own accommodations?
2. I don't want to ruin a wonderful relationship if I feel taken advantage of!
Any advice?
2 things I'm nervous about
1. I am a nervous flyer. I usually try to sleep on flights but I don't know if they require me to cAre for the kids. Also I have never gone anywhere without my husband. It would be 10-12 days which is quite a while. Could I suggest him comming along and we get our own accommodations?
2. I don't want to ruin a wonderful relationship if I feel taken advantage of!