I too think it's odd that the mom won't let you wear the baby but I do think you should be able to make this work without wearing the baby. I am a mom of 3 who are each 20 months apart and I just never liked baby wearing for myself (it made my back hurt). When DC#2 was a newborn I took DC#1 to the playground and would just wheel my stroller around the playground wherever DC#1 went and never found it difficult. Our nanny did the same. We had a baby bjorn for the nanny to use if she chose but she never did. It probably depends on the stoller but my city-mini was easy to push anywhere, including over grass and woodchips and I could just park the baby next to wherever we were while I played with DC#1.

Anonymous wrote:OP HERE: I asked, the mom is not allowing me to wear the baby. I figured that would be a lot easier!! I don't many kids even live in their neighborhood, we're typically the only people there.. If any of you are in the palisades, let me know so we can set up play dates!

Ugh, sorry OP. I'm a mom and I think it'd be impossible to do anything if I couldn't wear the newborn. Maybe when the baby is older she'll allow you? There is a very slight suffocation risk if not done properly but some carriers (like the bjorn) are incredibly safe. Kind of strange, because I'm sure the newborn would prefer to be held.

Thanks 16:04 Good thing the infant isn't a cryer! I just started the position so I will ask again in a few weeks when the baby is about 4 months so it doesn't appear I am being pushy.

No advice pp, but I'm in the same boat and it's tricky. Plus the infant rarely sleeps and screams like a banshee unless he's being held AND bounced up and down. I've just had to be really explicit with the parents about what our days do/will look like ("I had to leave Avery in his stroller crying for about 10 minutes so I could play tag with Sasha, then she played in the sandbox while I held the baby.") Not being able to wear the baby is weird - will she allow you to once he's a little older and could be in an ergo or baby bjorn? She may just be worried about the dangers of slings (inexperienced users can smother or drop babies quite easily) so hopefully in a few months you'll have the little one in a carrier of some kind!

Take the newborn around in the stroller and play with the 2 year old as much as you can.

OP HERE: I asked, the mom is not allowing me to wear the baby. I figured that would be a lot easier!! I don't many kids even live in their neighborhood, we're typically the only people there.. If any of you are in the palisades, let me know so we can set up play dates!

I would suggest wearing the baby or keeping the stroller near by. Depending on the park I've left the infant in the stroller right near us so I could see them and tend to then as needed but still able to play with the older child. Another option would be carrying the newborn in an infant car seat if you have one but those get heavy

Is there any park or other public place nearby that plenty of children go to? I find that if there are other kids at the park the kids don't really want me to play with them because they can entertain each other. I would try to find some kind of group that coordinates playground meet ups. I usually walk with my charge in the morning, and around that time it is pretty much useless to go to the park because there is nobody else there.

Can you wear the baby so you can be mobile at the park? Can you find a playground small enough to have your eye on the stroller while also playing with the toddler?

recently started a new job with a newborn and an active toddler (2 year old girl). While in the family's home, I pretty much have the newborn in the same room with me and the toddler either holding her or she’s in the rocker (of course when she isn’t asleep!) But as a 1 month old, she sleeps a lot so it allows me time with the toddler when she isn’t in school. When the newborn is awake, the mom is asking me to take them both to the park and all these adventures which I think just isn’t fair to the toddler. I can’t leave the newborn in the stroller while at the park to play with the toddler so I am pretty much sitting on a bench watching the toddler play. Any suggestions from nannies and SAHMs would be great! FYI: Mom works from home and comes down to breast feed newborn every few hours as well. Thank you all.