This must be a troll. No one normal would ask a NANNY to do this crap!

I wouldn't do any of those extra tasks either!

I refuse to clean my NF's bathroom... I'm not there to whipe your piss of the toilet hire a cleaning lady or stay home and do it all yourself

OP here, I will say that she does do a lot for us. She already cleans the kitchen daily, cleans up all child related messes, handles the dishwasher, and has offered to pick up our laundry along with the children's laundry. We asked her to do basic things like clean the main bathroom, vacuum the house three times a day, wash windows, and mop the kitchen and she flat out refused and said that she was not our maid.
She did offer to grocery shop and make dinner but I just can't let go of that.


Those aren't "basic things"; those are heavy cleaning and your nanny is right to refuse.

But then, why bother responding to an obvious troll...

Thank you for pointing out yet another bored nanny trolling here.

I almost spent time caring about this fake post. Glad I didn't bother!

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I will say that she does do a lot for us. She already cleans the kitchen daily, cleans up all child related messes, handles the dishwasher, and has offered to pick up our laundry along with the children's laundry. We asked her to do basic things like clean the main bathroom, vacuum the house three times a day, wash windows, and mop the kitchen and she flat out refused and said that she was not our maid.
She did offer to grocery shop and make dinner but I just can't let go of that.

The things you are asking her to do, almost no self-respecting nanny will do. She already does things for you that many of the entitled nannies won't do.

Those requests in your last post are excessive. I don't blame your nanny for getting offended, since you are stepping into job creep territory. If your needs have changed, then look for a new nanny and give your current one ample notice, severance, and a good reference letter so she can find a family where she'll feel like she's not being taken advantage of. I actually wouldn't be surprised if she's already looking for another job.

BTW, did you mean "vacuum 3 times a WEEK"?

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I will say that she does do a lot for us. She already cleans the kitchen daily, cleans up all child related messes, handles the dishwasher, and has offered to pick up our laundry along with the children's laundry. We asked her to do basic things like clean the main bathroom, vacuum the house three times a day, wash windows, and mop the kitchen and she flat out refused and said that she was not our maid.
She did offer to grocery shop and make dinner but I just can't let go of that.

Those aren't "basic things"; those are heavy cleaning and your nanny is right to refuse.

But then, why bother responding to an obvious troll...

What about during the summer hours OP? Or when school is out or when one of your kids is sick? Would you be offended if she asked to be paid extra on those days bc she's working more than norm?
Would you find that offensive? Because that's exactly what you are doing to her.

I'm a MB and I think you are asking too much. Yes jobs change as the kids grow, but unless the nanny has agreed to do those things at the outset, I would consider those to be jobs for a cleaning lady. If she does vacuum or mop, it should be because she and the kids have made a mess, she shouldn't be doing general household cleaning. Maybe you need to advertise for a housekeeper/nanny.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I will say that she does do a lot for us. She already cleans the kitchen daily, cleans up all child related messes, handles the dishwasher, and has offered to pick up our laundry along with the children's laundry. We asked her to do basic things like clean the main bathroom, vacuum the house three times a day, wash windows, and mop the kitchen and she flat out refused and said that she was not our maid.
She did offer to grocery shop and make dinner but I just can't let go of that.

Oh boy, I rarely do this but...TROLL
Or just a moron..vacuum three times a day? How filthy are your children?

Three times a week for vacuuming not a day! Sorry!

OP here, I will say that she does do a lot for us. She already cleans the kitchen daily, cleans up all child related messes, handles the dishwasher, and has offered to pick up our laundry along with the children's laundry. We asked her to do basic things like clean the main bathroom, vacuum the house three times a day, wash windows, and mop the kitchen and she flat out refused and said that she was not our maid.
She did offer to grocery shop and make dinner but I just can't let go of that.

As a nanny I feel that I should be flexible. When I'm working with my older charge who doesn't need to be supervised all the time I will definitely do some light housework such as loading/unloading the dishwasher, kid laundry, cleaning the playroom, etc. Some nannies aren't comfortable with doing much more than this because they don't want to become a nanny/housekeeper, which is understandable.

I think you should bring up the cleaning thing again with your nanny. Tell her that there are a few things around the house you'd like her to do that are child related: putting dishes away, doing kid laundry, having the child help clean their bedroom/playroom, etc. I would let her know that you don't expect her to be doing deep cleaning of the bathroom or anything crazy like that because that's not her job, and it will also make it hard for her to keep her eyes/ears on your kids.

If she flat out refuses again I would start looking for someone new to take her place. Make sure that you place in your ad that you need someone who is willing to do some housekeeping, and I'm sure you'll find someone who is!

MB here. I would hire someone else. Interview on weekends and then give her notice as per your contract. I have no patience with princess nannies.

Hi all,

We've had our current nanny for over three years and are just now starting to butt heads with her. When she first started, our kids were babies but now they're older, attend school and preschool, and play together and do not need to have eyes on them at all times. We have asked her to pick up some cleaning duties so we feel better about still playing her the normal rate but she has refused. We do not want to let her go, as we still need childcare for at least another two years but we can't swallow paying her the normal rate when she does not have to be so hands on with our children. We are at a loss.