Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One to two weeks pay is expected. I got a $100 bonus when my 8hr/week job ended...

The job ended, you didn't quit.

That's true.

If a nanny quits because she's moving or returning to school or to have her own child, I still believe a parting bonus is customary. I've never quit a job for any other reason but I agree, if she quit just to move on, a smaller gift is appropriate.

My first reaction was perhaps OP's nanny quit because of job creep. OP says that the nanny stopped doing chores she used to do. Were these chores in her original job description or were they chores she took it upon herself to do?
The only reason a nanny does extra work (work not included in her contract) is to secure a raise or bonus when the time comes. This is called "going above and beyond."
My guess is that nanny's efforts became expected, unappreciated and unrewarded. She got sick of it and stopped completely while she job hunted. She knew she wasn't going to stay. She shouldn't have been late, but I get it. To put it blunty, you didn't give s**t, so she stopped giving a s**t. I'd bet a million dollars that this is what happened.

Wow, talk about entitled nannies. A separation bonus is customary when the family ages out of nanny care or lets the nanny go for other reasons not related to performance. Even then, it is totally discretionary and should not be expected.

Also, the nonsense about the nanny quitting because of uncompensated extra chores is totally unwarranted. If she was getting a paycheck that she deemed adequate for three years, she was getting compensated for whatever chores she was doing. Thank goodness the nannies on this board are not representative of those in the marketplace.

OP, I would suggest one week's pay under ordinary circumstances, but might do nothing more than a token gift if she has really been slacking off. I would also do something personal from the kids, like a handmade card and a framed photo. The nanny is not doing you a favor by giving you ample notice but making you late for work and stressed about chores every day. It's normal for an employee to feel job fatigue once she has moved on mentally, but part of being a good employee and a professional is maintaining one's usual level of diligence and care right through the last day of work.

BTW, when our last nanny left, she gave us ample notice and kicked up her performance a few notches by trying extra hard to make happy memories with the kids and by taking on extra chores so that everything would run smoothly as her replacement adjusted to the job. We adore her, and made sure she knew it!

When I quit my 3+ year job, I received a weeks pay and a basket full of small gifts worth about $100-150

Anonymous wrote:One to two weeks pay is expected. I got a $100 bonus when my 8hr/week job ended...

The job ended, you didn't quit.

One to two weeks pay is expected. I got a $100 bonus when my 8hr/week job ended...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is the one who quit? I would give maybe a gift card worth 100 or cash.

This, plus a nice gift from the kids.

Why does it matter if she quit? Three years of great service is certainly worth more than $100. And some of you wonder why so many nannies are reluctant to do more than the bare minimum. This shit is why. It sounds as though OPs nanny gave her three good years (if not why keep her on that long) and she pulled back on likely extra uncontracted, uncompensated duties after giving notice and agreeing to stay until a replacement is found. The extra uncompensated duties she stopped doing, and OP is missing, probably have a lot to do with her quitting, and really have no actual bearing on her actual job performance.

She was compensated for these 3 years at the level she was willing to accept. PP, do you work for the money that you're paid or for some bonus that you might get at the end? We don't know what was in her contract and whether any job creep happened, I think you're projecting.

Honestly, I don't know why the OP feels that she needs to pay extra at the end. I would do something from the kids, but that's that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is the one who quit? I would give maybe a gift card worth 100 or cash.

This, plus a nice gift from the kids.

Why does it matter if she quit? Three years of great service is certainly worth more than $100. And some of you wonder why so many nannies are reluctant to do more than the bare minimum. This shit is why. It sounds as though OPs nanny gave her three good years (if not why keep her on that long) and she pulled back on likely extra uncontracted, uncompensated duties after giving notice and agreeing to stay until a replacement is found. The extra uncompensated duties she stopped doing, and OP is missing, probably have a lot to do with her quitting, and really have no actual bearing on her actual job performance.

Anonymous wrote:She is the one who quit? I would give maybe a gift card worth 100 or cash.

This, plus a nice gift from the kids.

Yes she quit, but it has been tough for me the last few months as she stopped doing chores she used to do and has been arriving late. But I do recognize she is doing me a favor by staying until the new person can start.

She is the one who quit? I would give maybe a gift card worth 100 or cash.

2 weeks

1-2 weeks

I'd give one week and a nice gift from the kids.

We had a nanny for 3 years. For most of the time she was great ... Performance declining in the last few months. Nanny gave ample notice so that was nice. How much to give at the end?