Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 13:17     Subject: Re:Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
Your DH is wrong. If leaving the nanny two bottles from when she wasn't working that morning why not all the bottles from the night before and all the child's dishes?

This wouldn't be a deal breaker for me but it would bug me.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 13:05     Subject: Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
You could give her a gift card, or better yet a bonus and let her know that she goes above her job expectations and that the bonus is for dealing with your DH.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 11:43     Subject: Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
Anonymous wrote:pp you are utterly confused if you think you are not "the help". you are the help. Regardless of all the bs "I am family" they are so nice to me yadda yadda yadda, at the end of the day, you are paid to do a job, therefore you exchange "help" for money, just like a housekeeper which I am assuming you would refer to as "the help". I hate nannies that think they are above other people!!!!!!!!!!


Youre missing some pretty obvious social and historic context behind the phrase "the help" here. Don't get all snarky if you don't know what you're talking about. There is a HUGE difference between being a household employee who does her duties and being the help and getting completely taken advantage of.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 11:27     Subject: Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
Laziness in parents is one of my biggest issues. Your DH needs to step up his game.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 11:21     Subject: Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
and ps, I am 11:20 and I am a nanny.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 11:20     Subject: Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
pp you are utterly confused if you think you are not "the help". you are the help. Regardless of all the bs "I am family" they are so nice to me yadda yadda yadda, at the end of the day, you are paid to do a job, therefore you exchange "help" for money, just like a housekeeper which I am assuming you would refer to as "the help". I hate nannies that think they are above other people!!!!!!!!!!
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 11:08     Subject: Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
Your DH needs to understand that a nanny is not "the help" and should not be treated as such. He sounds like a 1st class jerk.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 11:02     Subject: Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
I'm pretty laid back so these two specific things probably wouldn't bother me. I wouldn't relish it, but I wouldn't let it fester and eat at me either.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 10:45     Subject: Re:Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
I never leave dirty bottles for my employers no matter what - I'll stay an extra two minutes to make sure all of the baby's items are cleaned and put away. AND I expect the same from my employers.

Any parent you wouldn't run to change the baby's diaper before you arrive is a jerk. It amazes me how many babies seem to poop the second I walk in the door.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 09:59     Subject: Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
As a nanny two bottle from that morning wouldn't particularly bother me- walking into dishes from the night before and being expected to do them would receive a solid "no". But, not changing your child's diaper because you know I'll be there shortly is ridiculous. You may pay me to care for your child but it's YOUR child and they will always be your responsibility 1st.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 09:58     Subject: Re:Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
Anonymous wrote:Your husband is wrong. I resent being left dirty dishes from when the children are not in my care and handing someone a soiled baby is beyond the pale. Tell him that this nanny agrees with you and that your current nanny will eventually leave you if his behavior continues.



+2 This nanny gives her vote to you. Tell Hubby to stop.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 09:48     Subject: Re:Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
Your husband is wrong. I resent being left dirty dishes from when the children are not in my care and handing someone a soiled baby is beyond the pale. Tell him that this nanny agrees with you and that your current nanny will eventually leave you if his behavior continues.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 09:05     Subject: Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
Let hubby do the work for a week and he'll change his tune.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 09:03     Subject: Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
Anonymous wrote:We have a terrific nanny we want to hang on to forever and I know she can get another job in a hot minute if she decided to leave us. Along with other fantastic qualities she is also very classy and soft-spoken and I have a feeling that she will not argue with us if she doesn't like something we are asking her to do and will simply give notice.

DH is constantly pushing her. When I do the hand-off two mornings a week, I make sure the baby is clean and all his bottles and dishes are washed. When DH has the baby (until 10AM the other three mornings a week) he leaves the two dirty bottles and the baby's breakfast dishes for the nanny to do when she gets there. Last Monday, the baby pooped right before the nanny arrived and DH waited for her (he said two minutes) to deal with it.

DH thinks this is part of her job because she has never complained about it. I think she is just too polite to say anything and will give notice if this kind of thing continues.

Thoughts? Thanks in advance.


If you believe that this is wrong, talk to your husband!
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 09:00     Subject: Please Don't Give The Nanny A Reason to Quit
We have a terrific nanny we want to hang on to forever and I know she can get another job in a hot minute if she decided to leave us. Along with other fantastic qualities she is also very classy and soft-spoken and I have a feeling that she will not argue with us if she doesn't like something we are asking her to do and will simply give notice.

DH is constantly pushing her. When I do the hand-off two mornings a week, I make sure the baby is clean and all his bottles and dishes are washed. When DH has the baby (until 10AM the other three mornings a week) he leaves the two dirty bottles and the baby's breakfast dishes for the nanny to do when she gets there. Last Monday, the baby pooped right before the nanny arrived and DH waited for her (he said two minutes) to deal with it.

DH thinks this is part of her job because she has never complained about it. I think she is just too polite to say anything and will give notice if this kind of thing continues.

Thoughts? Thanks in advance.