The advise you got is good. Baby not happy there

Yes spending 10 mins rocking a baby to sleep us ideal for you with one infant. But not ideal for someone with multiple children (same ages or a variety of ages).

Please don't depend on your childcare provider to sleep train your child (nanny or day care) unless you and your dh are fully ready to commit to the process it won't work. You both should be ready fully, if you have a nanny she will be on board (trust me!) But if your child is in daycare it will be harder. There are obstacles like other children, noises, light, etc.

OP, just from your post, you sound like a "high maintenance" parent.

They sound like bad day care providers. Neither of the things you mentioned should be big issues for someone who knows what they're doing. Sounds like they want not independent kids they don't have to interact with. To be fair it's pretty nerve racking tohave a kid who just screams all day long. It's one thing to have them cry for ten minutes but when it doesn't stop it gets old fast. The rocking thing is less of an issue. If she and her husband were both caring for the kids it would be a non issue because one can rock while the other cares for the other kids. Husband probably isn't pulling his weight which adds more stress to the woman.

If you work from home you're going to have a harder time finding a nanny. It really really sucks when the parent works from home and makes clingy issues ten times worse. Find a nanny share where the other family wants to host. That might be your best bet right now.

Fact: it is totes annoying when you write opinions and label them as facts. See what I did there?

Many babies go through separation anxiety around that age. Sounds like your daycare provider isn't a good one.
How many kids are in the daycare?
Why did you write that they're vegetarian as if it's a big perk -- are you?
I'm not against daycare like PP is, but this one seems pretty terrible for your baby. Do you really want someone watching your little one who refers to the baby as "clingy"?

I am not sure how old this couple is or how many other infants or children they are also caring for so this may also factor into the situation.

A nanny may be a better solution for you because a nanny can provide more one-on-one individualized attention & care that a daycare is unable to provide. For example, it is highly unlikely that anyone there has the time to rock a baby for ten minutes to get her to sleep if he/she has other young children in the home to care for as well. Also, w/regards to the separation anxiety, it may be stressful to deal w/on a daily basis having to calm your child down along w/the daily care of others.

If you can afford to do so, I strongly encourage you to find a nanny for your baby.

I think putting a baby in daycare is a bad idea to begin with and this just validates it even more.

Hope this helps and I wish you all the best.

Good Luck.

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You got good advice in the GP thread, I'm not sure why you reposted here? If you want to ask specifics about hiring a nanny or how a nanny would cope with this that seems more relevant - but this definitely isn't the place to get feedback from actual daycare providers.

OP, can you try work on not having to rock her to sleep? It's a bad habit that she now depends on.

Answer: Stop referring to your baby as Baby. She is not the main character in Dirty Dancing.

I don't think it's either. I think your baby just isn't a good fit for that daycAre. The needing to be rocked for 10 min before going to sleep (ok that you need to work on) plus being clingy and crying so much likely means most of their time is spent with your baby vs the other children in her care. It can also be exhausting to have a baby like that so I can understand if she's overwhelmed. A par time nanny may be the best bet for you guys right now to give your baby some time to grow, fix her sleep habits, and get more comfortable not being with you or dad.

Hi,

I am a first time mom and have been lucky enough to be with Baby full time for 8 months. Now I am consulting part time from home and since it is *impossible* to get any work done with Baby at home we looked hard for good part time child care. It seemed like we lucked out in finding a great in-home day care run by an older couple (retd. pediatric nurse AND vegetarian, no less). We started Baby out 3 days a week and for around 5 hours a day (though I am paying her for 8 hours each day).

Well today was the 5th day that my daughter was over there and today the day care provider told me that my 8 month old was too clingy, that she cried too much, and that I need to find a full time nanny for her.

Fact: We have not sleep trained (intentionally) and Baby needs 10 mins of rocking to sleep. We had thought we would work with the care provider to slowly ween her off this habit. I had disclosed it to the provider as well when we met her initially.

Fact: Baby is DEEP into separation anxiety phase. One month ago she didnt care if I even existed as long as she got fed. This month I/hubby need to be in view at all times. If I could have put her in day care earlier I would have and maybe that would have eased her anxiety at being away from me now. But the opportunity to spend time with her was too good to pass up. I made sure that she spent time (like 10-12 hours at a stretch) with grandma, grandpa, uncle, family friends etc so that she was used to people other than hubby and I.

Question: What just happened? Is it normal for 8 month olds to get kicked out of day care because they cry for mommy.....on the 5th day they are away from her? Or is it a case of just insanely bad parenting on our part so that our infant can not instantly adapt to any and all people and situations?!