Grandma wants to be the nanny, but parents don 't trust her. Either:
1) they don't think she's physically capable of caring for the child and what they really need is an inexperienced mother's helper type who will lift the child and follow orders or
2) they disagree with her about parenting philosophy but can't stand up to her, in which case you will spend all day having to balance what parents want with what Grandma is telling you to do and having her undermine you whereever she can.

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Anonymous wrote:Baby sit a 6 month old baby.

Who will do what?

Dang! Find yourself someone to talk too.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,
Grandma wants to be the full time caregiver, but the parents don't quite trust her ability, for whatever reason. This is their "compromise."
Do NOT fall into this hell hole. This a recipe for disaster. Sorry, OP. Get the hell out of there, for your own good.

+1000 (and I am not a nanny, but a mother of two). I think it is much more difficult to work with the grandma than the parent. grandma wants to be in charge and she is not your employer, and she probably does not like the fact that you are there instead of her. she either hates you and wants you out, or she thinks you are there just for lifting the baby up and down, cleaning up messes and change diapers while she is the actual caregiver. I would not take the job

+1 from another MB. When my family is visiting I try to keep them out of the house when the nanny is there. I can't imagine it going well with grandma always there.

Anonymous wrote:Hello,
Grandma wants to be the full time caregiver, but the parents don't quite trust her ability, for whatever reason. This is their "compromise."
Do NOT fall into this hell hole. This a recipe for disaster. Sorry, OP. Get the hell out of there, for your own good.

+1000 (and I am not a nanny, but a mother of two). I think it is much more difficult to work with the grandma than the parent. grandma wants to be in charge and she is not your employer, and she probably does not like the fact that you are there instead of her. she either hates you and wants you out, or she thinks you are there just for lifting the baby up and down, cleaning up messes and change diapers while she is the actual caregiver. I would not take the job

Hello,
Grandma wants to be the full time caregiver, but the parents don't quite trust her ability, for whatever reason. This is their "compromise."
Do NOT fall into this hell hole. This a recipe for disaster. Sorry, OP. Get the hell out of there, for your own good.

I do wonder what parents are thinking when they set up this type of arrangement. Who wants their employers mom with them all day? I might be able to grit my teeth and bear a bi-weekly day visit as that is important for maintaining family bonds. What other posters are describing is having a babysitter for the nanny.

Don't do it!!!

I did it once - loathed the experience - and would never take a job with a grandparent in the house ever again.

My grandmother was hypercritical of both me and her grandchild - saying things like, "It's too bad Larla has such thin hair" and "Larla doesn't seem too interested in learning". When it came to me she would tell me I was paying too much attention to my charge and her real life will never be able to duplicate that attention. PLUS she thought I was working for her - she would ask me to get her a cup or coffee or make a pot of coffee while I was in the kitchen making the charge's lunch. I never even sat down to eat my lunch when my change was napping because she made me feel so uncomfortable.

I lasted three months, told the parents why I was giving notice and the following Monday (after the parents had apparently told her why I was leaving) grandma told me I was oversensitive and would have a miserable life if I didn't learn how to take constructive criticism. I swore never to be in that position again.

DO NOT TAKE THAT JOB, OP.

Having worked alongside a Grandmother, it was pure hell. I had to quit after a few months.

I would have much preferred to work alongside the actual parents.

The Grandmother was so freaking overprotective, micromanaging and distrusting it eventually drove me so nuts I couldn't work another day.

Anonymous wrote:Baby sit a 6 month old baby.

Who will do what?

Baby sit a 6 month old baby.

What will she do?
What will you do?

Anyone here, works full time with grandma also stays the whole time in the house?

How is it?