Why do you think she'd ASK you if she can pay you late, OP?

I had a boss do that to me every single week. It bothered me but I didn't want to rock the boat ( I was only 19 at the time) so I just didn't say anything. There were other problems with the position and I eventually just quit. Which is why I think you should say something to her if things are good otherwise.

Anonymous wrote:MB constantly makes strange remarks as she is writing out my check for the week such as "you made more than me this week!" Or "ouch this hurts" . It makes me uncomfortable and I have no idea what to say. What would you say?

I actually resigned once, because they acted like they couldn't afford me. So maybe start looking for a new job?

Op here, she tells me how they are financial well off and how both of their businesses are booming. She tends to share too much info with me. I will just smile and say thank you and let her know how much I love working for her family.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, we have a great relationship and we value each other, or so it seems most of the time. She tells me all the time how much the family adores me. She even gave me a $2 raise in the first year without me even asking. She gives me birthday and holiday gifts. I make her cute cards or crafts from the kids as well. iI know with great certainty the family is not hurting financially so I don't understand the comments. She has been forgetting to pay me as well or asking if I can be paid a few days later, but I see her pay her other employees on time each week. I don't mind once and awhile but sometimes I really rely on beng paid on time. I'm not sure what's going on. Maybe she's been adding it up and she didn't realize how much a nanny would cost? I've been with them for two years.Thanks for the advice.

If she has "forgotten" to pay you, you definitely need to speak up and ask for your paycheck right then and there. If this has happened several times, I would be looking for another position. I don't know how you know with "great certainty" what their financial situation is. They could be in debt up to their eyeballs.

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. Say nothing. Not every rude comment or question deserves a response.

Another MB here and strongly disagree. The comments are making OP uncomfortable and she shouldn't just have to deal with it. OP, you can always say something along the lines of "I know you say those comments jokingly, but they make me quite uncomfortable". Pp, would you stay silent if your boss was making comments to you and about you that made you uncomfortable?

Yes, if my boss made THESE types of comments. A person who makes these comments hates to part with their money and nothing is going to change that. If OP says that the comments make her uncomfortable, her boss will think she is being oversensitive/can't take a joke. Now if OP's boss makes a comment about her job performance or sexually harasses her, then she obviously should respond. Otherwise, just take the check and be on your way.

OP here, we have a great relationship and we value each other, or so it seems most of the time. She tells me all the time how much the family adores me. She even gave me a $2 raise in the first year without me even asking. She gives me birthday and holiday gifts. I make her cute cards or crafts from the kids as well. I know with great certainty the family is not hurting financially so I don't understand the comments. She has been forgetting to pay me as well or asking if I can be paid a few days later, but I see her pay her other employees on time each week. I don't mind once and awhile but sometimes I really rely on being paid on time. I'm not sure what's going on. Maybe she's been adding it up and she didn't realize how much a nanny would cost? I've been with them for two years.Thanks for the advice.

Is there anything you can change in your own behavior first? Maybe a thank you card at your yearly review stating what a great relationship you all have and that you appreciate their generosity (outside of paying you) and their kindness? I don't feel you owe them this act of appreciation but that it could be a means of assuring MB that the gratitude is mutual. Nannies aren't the only ones ho need to feel appreciated!

What a low class way to behave when paying your employee! Gross...

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Say nothing. Not every rude comment or question deserves a response.

Another MB here and strongly disagree. The comments are making OP uncomfortable and she shouldn't just have to deal with it. OP, you can always say something along the lines of "I know you say those comments jokingly, but they make me quite uncomfortable". Pp, would you stay silent if your boss was making comments to you and about you that made you uncomfortable?

MB here. Say nothing. Not every rude comment or question deserves a response.

I am more direct then some people. I would kindly tell her I hope she felt I was worth it! Are you having any other issues?

Wow very unprofessional of her. If she doesn't like forking over her paycheck, she shouldn't have hired a nanny. I would bring up it up and politely ask if paying you is an issue. Let her know you feel uncomfortable by her comments.

Ask for direct deposit! Waiting for my check on Friday, or worse having to ask for it, always made me very uncomfortable. I can't imagine having my MB say those things while doing it. Have them transfer the money directly to your bank, or use a payroll service.

MB constantly makes strange remarks as she is writing out my check for the week such as "you made more than me this week!" Or "ouch this hurts" . It makes me uncomfortable and I have no idea what to say. What would you say?