Anonymous wrote:Cracking up that someone doesn't get why this is a problem. Every family is different. They are not interchangeable. Working for different families requires different things of a nanny and she may wish to set different expectations/rates accordingly. Furthermore, I am a NANNY because I enjoy building a relationship with my employers and working together for the good of the children, because I am selective in who I work for, and because I want stability in when and how much I am paid and predictability regarding job requirements. If I didn't care about the relationships, wasn't picky about taking jobs and didn't want stability, I would just work as a temp/backup nanny.

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nannydebsays wrote:MB, I wanted to talk to you about all the work I have been doing for your friends in the neighborhood. I so appreciate the trust you have in me that makes you comfortable offering my services to your friends. However, I would like a little more control over my schedule. I'd like to suggest that we figure out how many hours a week you will need my services, and that we determine a schedule one month ahead. Then I will know when I am free to work elsewhere. (Of course, I would prefer to have guaranteed number of hours here, and be paid for those hours regardless of your needs.)"

If you want to work, then you can say something about "I am happy to help your neighbors when I am not needed here. However, I want to speak with them directly to set up a schedule surrounding your needs. Naturally, giving me your schedule 1 month in advance will allow me to block out those specific times for you and then supplement with work for the neighbors!"

If you don't want to work , then ask for the hours to be set in advance for her, and choose to find other work when she isn't needing your services.

Of course, you will also have to learn to say, "No, I cannot work for you tomorrow MB. Tomorrow was not listed in your advance schedule, and I am working for the Smith family that day." "No, MB, I cannot watch your kids as well as the Smith kids. I understand you have had a scheduling glitch, but I have committed those hours to the Smith family."

I absolutely get your aggravation. You can make this work if you take control back from your MB. Or you can find another position and give the neighborhood notice. Good luck!

Honestly I don't see the original problem OP has... Let's say she has a 5 day a week schedule with MB, and then suddenly MB has her working for other families for 2 of those days like she says above, what is the problem? She isn't being asked to work more hours or last minute hours or unscheduled hours... She is getting the same pay. I kind of would like something like this to happen to me. A little variety would be a welcome thing.

I mean I can understand if it was like "nanny, the neighbor is having a party Saturday, I know you don't work Saturdays but I've loaned you to her for the day, she will pay you." That's not cool. But as the OP wrote it I really just don't see the problem.

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nannydebsays wrote:MB, I wanted to talk to you about all the work I have been doing for your friends in the neighborhood. I so appreciate the trust you have in me that makes you comfortable offering my services to your friends. However, I would like a little more control over my schedule. I'd like to suggest that we figure out how many hours a week you will need my services, and that we determine a schedule one month ahead. Then I will know when I am free to work elsewhere. (Of course, I would prefer to have guaranteed number of hours here, and be paid for those hours regardless of your needs.)"

If you want to work, then you can say something about "I am happy to help your neighbors when I am not needed here. However, I want to speak with them directly to set up a schedule surrounding your needs. Naturally, giving me your schedule 1 month in advance will allow me to block out those specific times for you and then supplement with work for the neighbors!"

If you don't want to work , then ask for the hours to be set in advance for her, and choose to find other work when she isn't needing your services.

Of course, you will also have to learn to say, "No, I cannot work for you tomorrow MB. Tomorrow was not listed in your advance schedule, and I am working for the Smith family that day." "No, MB, I cannot watch your kids as well as the Smith kids. I understand you have had a scheduling glitch, but I have committed those hours to the Smith family."

I absolutely get your aggravation. You can make this work if you take control back from your MB. Or you can find another position and give the neighborhood notice. Good luck!

Honestly I don't see the original problem OP has... Let's say she has a 5 day a week schedule with MB, and then suddenly MB has her working for other families for 2 of those days like she says above, what is the problem? She isn't being asked to work more hours or last minute hours or unscheduled hours... She is getting the same pay. I kind of would like something like this to happen to me. A little variety would be a welcome thing.

I mean I can understand if it was like "nanny, the neighbor is having a party Saturday, I know you don't work Saturdays but I've loaned you to her for the day, she will pay you." That's not cool. But as the OP wrote it I really just don't see the problem.

nannydebsays wrote:MB, I wanted to talk to you about all the work I have been doing for your friends in the neighborhood. I so appreciate the trust you have in me that makes you comfortable offering my services to your friends. However, I would like a little more control over my schedule. I'd like to suggest that we figure out how many hours a week you will need my services, and that we determine a schedule one month ahead. Then I will know when I am free to work elsewhere. (Of course, I would prefer to have guaranteed number of hours here, and be paid for those hours regardless of your needs.)"

If you want to work, then you can say something about "I am happy to help your neighbors when I am not needed here. However, I want to speak with them directly to set up a schedule surrounding your needs. Naturally, giving me your schedule 1 month in advance will allow me to block out those specific times for you and then supplement with work for the neighbors!"

If you don't want to work , then ask for the hours to be set in advance for her, and choose to find other work when she isn't needing your services.

Of course, you will also have to learn to say, "No, I cannot work for you tomorrow MB. Tomorrow was not listed in your advance schedule, and I am working for the Smith family that day." "No, MB, I cannot watch your kids as well as the Smith kids. I understand you have had a scheduling glitch, but I have committed those hours to the Smith family."

I absolutely get your aggravation. You can make this work if you take control back from your MB. Or you can find another position and give the neighborhood notice. Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:Personally this wouldn't bother me. Obviously your MB likes you enough to refer you to her friends and wants to make sure you get hours and pay. Aside from her specifically asking you if this is ok, I don't see the problem. If this doesn't work for you, then be blunt and tell her you'd rather have no pay than go work for her friends. Then tell the friends you charge $X base rate and $Y for each additional kid unless you just aren't interested in working for them in which case you just tell them no because you're looking for another job and don't know what your fall schedule will be. I think you're being intentionally difficult.

Anonymous wrote:"I am giving you my 4 weeks notice"