Anonymous
Post 05/27/2014 11:01     Subject: When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How did you handle it with your children? What did you say to them?

Please explain the general circumstances, OP. I suspect you had a falling out with her, seeing that you aren't saying any more than you did.

OP?


It has no bearing on the question. You all are just looking for gossip and controversy.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2014 09:37     Subject: When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
It depends on the age of the kids, whether there will be any ongoing contact (or possibility/desire for that) with the nanny, and what they want to know.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2014 21:07     Subject: When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How did you handle it with your children? What did you say to them?

Please explain the general circumstances, OP. I suspect you had a falling out with her, seeing that you aren't saying any more than you did.

OP?
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2014 17:40     Subject: Re:When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
Anonymous wrote:We used a similar line with our situation, but it is now a little while later and her name is starting to come up. They miss her. Any words of wisdom as to how to give them more closure?


How old are your children?

Agree that you should reassure them nanny loves and misses them. If AND ONLY IF your children are older you could also make a small scrapbook documenting their time with her, something to look back on when they're missing her. (It can also helps them learn a little bit about compartmentalizing times in their life - much like they might put together a scrapbook at the end of elementary school.)
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2014 17:31     Subject: Re:When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Reassure you children that their nanny will always love them and misses them too - I'm a nanny and I KNOW this is the truth (no matter how the parting was).




This. Even if your nanny hated you and your husband and up and quit without notice out of spite, I can guarantee that if your children loved her - she loved your children. Tell your kids that nanny loves them and misses them and that the reason she left had NOTHING to do with them.



100%. You might hate the nanny and the nanny hates you but your kids loved her and she loved your kids. Tell them she loves and misses them. Do it for your kids.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2014 16:49     Subject: Re:When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
Anonymous wrote:Reassure you children that their nanny will always love them and misses them too - I'm a nanny and I KNOW this is the truth (no matter how the parting was).




This. Even if your nanny hated you and your husband and up and quit without notice out of spite, I can guarantee that if your children loved her - she loved your children. Tell your kids that nanny loves them and misses them and that the reason she left had NOTHING to do with them.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2014 16:46     Subject: When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny, and I wonder this too. I recently gave two weeks notice to my employers. At the end of the first week, mom came home while child was sleeping and told me they didn't need me any more, not giving me a chance to say good bye, or even know it was my last day with him.

My leaving had entirely to do with money, and nothing to do with the job itself. After I gave notice, I still gave 100% and didn't phone it in. I wanted to end on the best terms possible, but that hurt. I do wonder what they tell him when he asks for me.



It was a terrible thing that mother did to her own child. Terrible. Honest to God, I don't know what is wrong with some women who think this is the way to handle an emotional situation for their child.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2014 16:40     Subject: When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
I'm a nanny, and I wonder this too. I recently gave two weeks notice to my employers. At the end of the first week, mom came home while child was sleeping and told me they didn't need me any more, not giving me a chance to say good bye, or even know it was my last day with him.

My leaving had entirely to do with money, and nothing to do with the job itself. After I gave notice, I still gave 100% and didn't phone it in. I wanted to end on the best terms possible, but that hurt. I do wonder what they tell him when he asks for me.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2014 13:24     Subject: When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
Anonymous wrote:How did you handle it with your children? What did you say to them?

Please explain the general circumstances, OP. I suspect you had a falling out with her, seeing that you aren't saying any more than you did.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2014 13:13     Subject: Re:When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
Reassure you children that their nanny will always love them and misses them too - I'm a nanny and I KNOW this is the truth (no matter how the parting was).
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2014 18:44     Subject: Re:When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
Anonymous wrote:We used a similar line with our situation, but it is now a little while later and her name is starting to come up. They miss her. Any words of wisdom as to how to give them more closure?


If you and the nanny parted on good terms I'd reach out and ask if she'd be willing to either come over for a good-bye visit (maybe at an ice cream store or something so she's not in your house) or do a Skype thing with them.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2014 18:38     Subject: Re:When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
We used a similar line with our situation, but it is now a little while later and her name is starting to come up. They miss her. Any words of wisdom as to how to give them more closure?
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2014 18:17     Subject: When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
Our nanny chose to leave suddenly when she was diagnosed with a rare and advanced form of brain cancer. We were incredibly sad to see her go but completely understood her need to relocate closer to family. We told our 5 year old daughter that Nanny could no longer watch her because she had moved to be closer to her family.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2014 16:28     Subject: When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
Anonymous wrote:How did you handle it with your children? What did you say to them?


I would tell them that she had a family emergency.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2014 16:01     Subject: When nanny quits/ bails with no notice....
How did you handle it with your children? What did you say to them?