Anonymous
05/28/2014 10:55
Subject: Re:Racism hurting my previous nanny in her job search
could you give her a letter of reference? detail your professions and put your work contact info in the letter. then she'll have it and there won't be a surprise at who's on the phone.
this is mostly b/c almost all people I know have been offered part of a scam. so people are not as trusting. it's rude, but just one of those things.
this is mostly b/c almost all people I know have been offered part of a scam. so people are not as trusting. it's rude, but just one of those things.
Anonymous
05/27/2014 16:49
Subject: Racism hurting my previous nanny in her job search
I'm so, so sorry you're dealing with this, OP. I think having people call your work number is the best idea.
As a bit of a side note, I think that anybody ignorant enough to question your identity and integrity because of your accent is not somebody you want to employ your nanny anyways.
As a bit of a side note, I think that anybody ignorant enough to question your identity and integrity because of your accent is not somebody you want to employ your nanny anyways.
Anonymous
05/27/2014 09:21
Subject: Racism hurting my previous nanny in her job search
Yes, use your work numbers. Give your nanny some business cards of yours (and your husband) that she can hand out - that might calm people down a bit.
I think having anyone pretend to be you is a VERY bad idea. If I were calling for a reference and sensed that I was being fooled in any way I would never hire the person - it would call into question every other thing he/she had told me.
I'm sorry people are such bloody idiots.
I think having anyone pretend to be you is a VERY bad idea. If I were calling for a reference and sensed that I was being fooled in any way I would never hire the person - it would call into question every other thing he/she had told me.
I'm sorry people are such bloody idiots.
Anonymous
05/24/2014 20:20
Subject: Re:Racism hurting my previous nanny in her job search
Anonymous wrote:Give your work numbers. It does sound like xenophobia and I'm very sorry for that. Demand respect by having them call you and your husband at work.
+1
I'm sorry about this, OP. It isn't right and you deserve to be treated with respect. Use your work number as a reference to confirm your positions for the racists/xenophobes out there.
Anonymous
05/24/2014 20:18
Subject: Racism hurting my previous nanny in her job search
Yikes....What a tough predicament for both of you OP!
There are a lot of Nigerian scams going on online so I see why your nanny is concerned right now w/all the suspicions in your voice.
I think it would raise suspicions if your nanny had her potential employers call and speak to your sister. That would raise too many red flags and not fare too well.
I think it's only best that they speak to you directly. Let them know you are a physician and if they would like, have them call you at work or let them know where you work at so they know you are legit. Perhaps send them an e-mail from your work account.
There are a lot of Nigerian scams going on online so I see why your nanny is concerned right now w/all the suspicions in your voice.
I think it would raise suspicions if your nanny had her potential employers call and speak to your sister. That would raise too many red flags and not fare too well.
I think it's only best that they speak to you directly. Let them know you are a physician and if they would like, have them call you at work or let them know where you work at so they know you are legit. Perhaps send them an e-mail from your work account.
Anonymous
05/24/2014 18:42
Subject: Racism hurting my previous nanny in her job search
Anonymous wrote:If the family is considering an african american nanny enough to be calling her references how can you claim racism against yourself over the phone?
This is pathetic....
Because they are discriminating based on the former employers accent assuming they couldn't be legitimate employers do to English being their second language. When you discriminate based on a persons heritage and assume they possess negative qualities such as lying solely because they come from a different country that is racism or at the very least prejudiced
Anonymous
05/24/2014 18:36
Subject: Re:Racism hurting my previous nanny in her job search
English is not my first language. Sometimes people talk very loud at me as though I am retarded. I just ask them in an equally loud voice whether they think I am deaf or whether they themselves are. Try to keep a sense of humor.
Anonymous
05/24/2014 18:30
Subject: Racism hurting my previous nanny in her job search
If the family is considering an african american nanny enough to be calling her references how can you claim racism against yourself over the phone?
This is pathetic....
This is pathetic....
Anonymous
05/24/2014 18:00
Subject: Re:Racism hurting my previous nanny in her job search
Give your work numbers. It does sound like xenophobia and I'm very sorry for that. Demand respect by having them call you and your husband at work.
Anonymous
05/24/2014 16:15
Subject: Racism hurting my previous nanny in her job search
If the people calling you had half a brain, they'd Google you and presumably see that you're a doctor and from Nigeria so the accent wouldn't surprise them. They don't sound like they're willing to take a couple extra steps to verify you are who you say you are. Sorry you guys are having this problem!
Anonymous
05/24/2014 15:48
Subject: Racism hurting my previous nanny in her job search
Anonymous wrote:Now that my daughter is in school, my husband and I are letting go of our nanny. We are from Nigeria, have been in the U.S. about 10 years. I am a pediatrician and my husband is a college professor. Although our accents are still very evident, we speak English well because we are well educated. However, when people call us to get a reference they question our integrity. One person flat out accused us of being a fake reference.
My nanny was a joy to work with. She is also of minority descent, though she is Black American. She has asked if my sister can take the calls instead because she has been here much longer her accent is not so strong. I am not entirely opposed to the idea. It is frustrating to feel like we have to lie. Also,if she got caught pretending someone else was me it could do more damage than it may be the
The discrimination in USA is getting big,I hate that...
Anonymous
05/24/2014 15:32
Subject: Racism hurting my previous nanny in her job search
What about giving out your work phone number? That way people will call asking for Dr. Boss and get told you're with a patient. Letting them know you're a doctor will elevate your status in their eyes.
I agree that your sister posing as you doesn't sound like a good idea.
I agree that your sister posing as you doesn't sound like a good idea.
Anonymous
05/24/2014 15:29
Subject: Racism hurting my previous nanny in her job search
Now that my daughter is in school, my husband and I are letting go of our nanny. We are from Nigeria, have been in the U.S. about 10 years. I am a pediatrician and my husband is a college professor. Although our accents are still very evident, we speak English well because we are well educated. However, when people call us to get a reference they question our integrity. One person flat out accused us of being a fake reference.
My nanny was a joy to work with. She is also of minority descent, though she is Black American. She has asked if my sister can take the calls instead because she has been here much longer her accent is not so strong. I am not entirely opposed to the idea. It is frustrating to feel like we have to lie. Also,if she got caught pretending someone else was me it could do more damage than it may be worth.
My nanny was a joy to work with. She is also of minority descent, though she is Black American. She has asked if my sister can take the calls instead because she has been here much longer her accent is not so strong. I am not entirely opposed to the idea. It is frustrating to feel like we have to lie. Also,if she got caught pretending someone else was me it could do more damage than it may be worth.