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Anonymous wrote:OP also has every right to fire the complaining nanny, and move on to another happy nanny. Except how many nannies do you want to make your kids "get used to"? Good luck.

Nowhere did OP say she is considering firing the nanny over this.

Hello. Nowhere did I say OP was considering firing the nanny over this. I said, "She has every right to."

Wow, she has nerve.

Anonymous wrote:OP also has every right to fire the complaining nanny, and move on to another happy nanny. Except how many nannies do you want to make your kids "get used to"? Good luck.

Nowhere did OP say she is considering firing the nanny over this.

OP also has every right to fire the complaining nanny, and move on to another happy nanny. Except how many nannies do you want to make your kids "get used to"? Good luck.

If she only wants to work by her contract then kudos to her but you have every right to have an affordable sitter come in for date nights. There's no reason for her to be upset with you after you told her that her OT rate is just too expensive on top of paying for a night out.

Anonymous wrote:I was very upfront with her and told her that she is awfully expensive for a weekend babysitter -- with her OT rate she is a tad bit above $26. Our kids are asleep for the vast majority of the time we are out (if we actually ever go out!) and that is just too high a rate to pay.

Am I wrong?

you guys not have agreement about that?
I think for babysitter the right offer is between $15to $18.

Another vote for being unreasonable. Personally, for me this would be a red flag to not make any compromises about a discounted babysitting rate. I realize it's a common compromise, but it's not legal, and if things end badly with the nanny, she'd be entirely within her rights to come after you for back OT and FICA tax.

She's being unreasonable...she should not expect you to pay double just to use her. She should try to match or come close to what the sitter would make, not expect you to pay overtime to her when someone else is available.

Her position would anger me. Of course you don't want to pay $26/hr for an evening sitter! I would tell her in no uncertain terms that you are very happy with her job performance (if you are), but that you plan to keep your other sitters. Also, there is no way I would pay her in cash at a different rate after she declined. It is illegal based on your contract and could cause problems in the future!

-career nanny

So she's mad because you won't pay her OT for weekend work.

IDk - if she wants the work and the extra money, she might want to consider compromising and taking her base rate in cash. It's not legal, but it's done an awful lot.

It's like nannies who demand to be paid their full rates plus OT for all hours worked when their employers go out of town. They'd rather turn down an extra $1000 because they could be making $1200.

So much about the nanny profession is negotiable, why not be flexible and take a little more money instead of none at all?

You're not wrong OP. We do the same thing. I have several babysitters I use for evenings and weekends. Our nanny would not only be extremely expensive, but I also think she needs a break.

No, you aren't wrong. She wants extra money and knows she won't get it babysitting from anyone else. She nay not like it, but you don't have to use her.

We did offer her the rate we pay our usual weekend sitter. She said that her contract calls for OT rates. Which it does. Which, again, is why we don't use her on the weekends. I'm so confused -- it's like she wants us to shell out extra cash just for the heck of it.

My nanny family pays me my base rate in cash for sitting hours. I too would be annoyed if they overlooked me to pay someone else for hours I would gladly accept. Why not offer her the rate you'd be paying another sitter? I don't think you are doing anything wrong, but I can see why she would be upset.

I was very upfront with her and told her that she is awfully expensive for a weekend babysitter -- with her OT rate she is a tad bit above $26. Our kids are asleep for the vast majority of the time we are out (if we actually ever go out!) and that is just too high a rate to pay.

Am I wrong?