Anonymous wrote:What's so bad about the I job that you can't stick it out for the summer?

And PP of right, it's two AND a half years. As in I've been there 2 ys + 1/2 yr = 2.5 yr or two years and a half year or two and a half years.

Yes, sorry for the mistake. Two AND a half...there.

I can stick it out for the summer, if they can't find someone to replace me sooner. I am moving to be closer to my university so I can easily continue my education. My hours will be cut, and I need a full time job, not part time. Also, personally it's been a job I was not happy at for about a year. I LOVE my charges so much, but I am not happy with my pay or working conditions. There are a lot of family and marital issues that I was dragged into, and it has just gotten worse and worse. I pretty much became the "SAHM" and often was not treated or spoken to with respect by the hand of MB. Lines of professionalism were crossed, which was partly my fault for being naive and being so new to the nanny business. I just can't continue to stay in a job that's making me so unhappy just because I want to help my charges have a sense of stability. As I mentioned, it is a two month notice and I feel like that is enough time for them to replace me. If they can't, I'm willing to stay longer until they find a suitable replacement.

Wow..A random bonus? They must really like you a lot OP and were just trying to let you know that they appreciate you and wanted to show it.

Or do you think they suspected that maybe you were unhappy and going to leave and thus gave you the extra money hoping it sway you to change your mind??!

Regardless, if you really have your heart set on moving on w/no doubts, then yes, I would still give my notice but I also would offer to return the bonus. You are in no way obligated to do so, however I would just as an offer of goodwill.

You have a very kind heart and sound like a very considerate person for doing that.

Why is it overall not a good situation? It sounds like they must value you to some degree and want you to stay, is there anything you can say to them to try to make it a better job for you?

What's so bad about the I job that you can't stick it out for the summer?

And PP of right, it's two AND a half years. As in I've been there 2 ys + 1/2 yr = 2.5 yr or two years and a half year or two and a half years.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been there?

About two-in-a-half years

Do you mean 'two AND a half years?'

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been there?

About two-in-a-half years

Anonymous wrote:Why was the bonus given? Annual bonus, random bonus, expecting baby bonus, went above and beyond, etc.? You are in a tough situation. I'm not sure if I would give the bonus back or not. Do you have another job lined up?

Just a random bonus. I got holiday bonuses but they were usually $50 for both years. Now, I've been here for two in a half years and never got a pay raise, and that's why she gave me the bonus. It just happen to be when I found out about the baby... It's just a shitty situation honestly, I am so stressed just from the idea of putting in my notice, now you have the added stress of her expecting a baby she is afraid to tell her husband about. I feel like it will put too much stress on MB.

I will offer the bonus back, because I don't want her to think it's like I'm cashing out and leaving. I had planned to put in my notice this Friday for about two months.

I have several summer jobs lined up, but nothing permanent.

It sounds like you already know that staying is not the right thing to do so I would still give my notice. However, if you are feeling guilty about it, think about what will make you feel less guilty. Obviously some people would say keep the bonus but you need to do what feels right to you. For me, I'd give back the bonus because I would feel like they have just rewarded me and now I'm telling them that I'm not happy with the situation. If you give it back, tell them you don't feel right keeping it as you won't be staying with them. I'd also give them as much notice as possible and offer to help them find someone new. I'm sure they will be upset about you leaving as most families are when they are not expecting their nanny to leave but the best you can do is feel good about the way you handle it.

I would give it back, only because I would feel terrible keeping it. Its hard enough to give notice, and I wouldn't want to make it harder on myself.

Why was the bonus given? Annual bonus, random bonus, expecting baby bonus, went above and beyond, etc.? You are in a tough situation. I'm not sure if I would give the bonus back or not. Do you have another job lined up?

Anonymous wrote:If you want to leave on better terms you should probably offer to return the bonus. They may tell you to keep it anyway. Returning it, though, may be the cost of a good reference; they may be left feeling used if they've just given you a bonus and you suddenly leave.

Good luck. It's a difficult situation.

I disagree. A bonus is for work DONE not future work (unless you were given the bonus for the new baby). It's never easy to give notice. Just bite the bullet and do it ans kindly and diplomatically as possible.

How long have you been there?

Give notice. Just like in a marriage, having a baby will never save the situation or make it better.

If you want to leave on better terms you should probably offer to return the bonus. They may tell you to keep it anyway. Returning it, though, may be the cost of a good reference; they may be left feeling used if they've just given you a bonus and you suddenly leave.

Good luck. It's a difficult situation.

I was planning on giving my notice this Friday, but today I found out my MB was pregnant. I also received a bonus for no reason, and feel very guilty. It's just overall not a good situation, and I know it's time for me to move on but at the same time I know NF is about to go through a really difficult time. Should I still turn in my notice Friday? What should I say? When I do give in my notice, I'm planning on giving my bonus back, does that seem ok?