This is an old post. I'm wondering what you did. I'm in a similar situation..

My son got into a great day care (after s long wait list experience) starting this coming September but I want to keep my nanny for before and after care (I can't get home from work to daycare before 6pm most nights and my son's father works in another city. Problem is she doesn't drive and doesn't want learn. She's a really sweet girl and a good nanny. My son is really attached to her but I want him to go to daycare since he's an only child and I'd like him to have more variety than the nanny can give him. I told her I'd buy her a car and everything but she won't do it.

This nanny should learn to drive, it's not complicated, especially in the US.

Another nanny who is still present in the lives of my former charges, so just because she no longer works for you doesn't mean she has to disappear. Would she be open to learning to drive?

I was with a my first family for 5 years and made the decision to move on when the oldest 2 were in school full time and the youngest started a 1/2 day preschool program. I stay in touch with the family and still see the kids regularly- sometimes a babysitting night, other times I'll take them to catch a Saturday morning movie matinee, and other times we just get together for dinner. So if finding a new nanny is what you feel you need to do there are definitely options for keeping in touch with your current nanny and keeping her in your children's' lives.

Five years is a long time. It seems unfair to me to fire a nanny for something you knew she didn't have and couldn't do before you hired her five years ago. I would seek all other options for your child's transportation first. I'm sure there are carpools.

Is she willing to learn to drive? Is there any way she can transport the kids on public transport? Maybe you could find a part time person just for pick ups and dropoffs and keep her. After five years I would definitely exhaust all options in order to keep her on!

I'd keep the nanny, but find out if you can put the oldest in a carpool or something.

If she is great, I'd do everything in my power to keep her.

Keep the nanny, but keep searching for transportation options you haven't yet considered.

Is your need for a car to simply get your oldest child to and from kindergarden? How far is kindergarden? Is there no public transit near your home? I would find a mom in your area to drive your eldest to and from kindergarden (offer a gas stripen) , enrol your middle child in preschool if she's old enough. your youngest can have one on one nanny time while your other child is in preschool.

Hi Moms -

I am looking for some advice and really some nanny therapy. We have had the same nanny since my oldest child was born and i returned to work when she was three months old. She is part of our family, and someone that my children and I absolutely adore. She's been a consistent, loving, trusted person in our home for five years, and has helped me with all of my babies. However, we're going through a period of transition. My oldest is going to kindergarten in the fall and we recently had our third child. Our challenge is that our nanny does not drive. For years this has been manageable - our preschool is within walking distance, as are plenty of parks and things to do. However, as our children have gotten older and our family has grown, the need for a car has become clear.

We have spoken with our nanny about the need to have someone who drives, and have started the process of looking for a new nanny but I find myself hesitant to hire someone and make the change. Part of me feels we will be ready when we find the right person. Part of me continues to weigh if there is another option.

We can't afford two full time nannies - nor is that practical - but perhaps we could find someone who could just help with the "shuttling" part of childcare. Or help out a few days a week. It's probably inevitable that we have to make a change. I'm looking for input for those who have gone through this before - has anyone tried juggling two nannies? Or been successful with keeping a beloved nanny in your family's life after you've made a change.