Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its an anonymous forum - people are a lot more blunt and much nastier than they would be in real life.

I understand important events and the need for a sitter but 2 weeks out should be adequate notice for a back up sitter - maybe metro parent relief?

Agreed. Take the extreme comments with a grain of salt. But there were plenty of rational posters saying that there are no guarantees in life and other than treating your sitter well and building a good rapport, there's not much else you can do but hope for the best. At this point your unwillingness to take that to heart is only going to bring more vitriol out.

Totally agree with both of these comments.

I think people were just offended because they saw that you were upset that someone cancelled on you, but gave you a two-weeks heads up. This time frame is usually not looked down upon by employers, something may have come up and she may not have been able to get out of it. Two weeks is actually good notice for her cancelling.

Plus, I think it gives you a fair amount of adequate time to find another person.

What if you relied on this person 50 hours a week and you are traveling for work next week? Most contracts require a 2 week notice. That's all. My point? It could be much more serious. Given that none of your sitters are available and the way you have whined on here, the problem could be you. I think that if you were honest to us about what you pay to have a sitter there while your children sleep, you'd have sitters lined up aroind the block to sit for you. Something is off here.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you read DCUM, you know what this place is like. If you don't have the stomach for the crazies you shouldn't post on ANY forum here, nanny or not.

I agree with the others, though, that your post was over the top, you got a lot of good advice and feedback you apparently didn't like and/or ignored, and are now trying to play the martyr. Two weeks is plenty of time to call an agency if you seriously don't have any mom friends or neighbors you could call for referrals.

+1 OP is shocking childish.

Hmm. Interesting. So which is it OP? Have you never posted here before, as you said in the other thread? Or, do you frequent DCUM, and you've interviewed nannies from here before? You're smelling like a troll.

OP, you read DCUM, you know what this place is like. If you don't have the stomach for the crazies you shouldn't post on ANY forum here, nanny or not.

I agree with the others, though, that your post was over the top, you got a lot of good advice and feedback you apparently didn't like and/or ignored, and are now trying to play the martyr. Two weeks is plenty of time to call an agency if you seriously don't have any mom friends or neighbors you could call for referrals.

Seriously, OP... first you whine about someone cancelling on you TWO WEEKS before the event and now you're whining that you thought posters were mean to you?

Grow up.

MB here and I think 2 weeks notice was sufficient. Things happen. I once booked a sitter about 3 months in advance for a wedding in another city. It was one of my best friend's PT nanny. It was for another best friends wedding so clearly very important and we thought it was all set. Wouldn't you know that her cousin gave birth about a month early and the bris would need to be on the day I needed her. Of course I was stressed but not much you can do about it. We started calling friends in that city and actually found a friend of a friend who also was sitter (I had a huge number of references for her since I used to live in that city) and all was well. I think 2 weeks was sufficient notice -- I had less than that and survived.

Op, I'm a nanny and I agreed with you. If you make a commitment to work for someone, then you do it. If you think something else might come up, then don't commit in the first place. I agreed with you 100%. That said, I guess it's better to have two weeks notice than to have her dog you at the last possible second.

OP apparently didn't want good view points and advice. Hmmmm.

OP, your thread was tame. You were being over the top. Your sitter gave you adequate notice. If its not enough, you should probably evaluate what kind of employer you are. The responses might have been a bit harsh, but if you filter out the rude, you got plenty of good info and viewpoints. It was almost unanimous.

Anonymous wrote:Its an anonymous forum - people are a lot more blunt and much nastier than they would be in real life.

I understand important events and the need for a sitter but 2 weeks out should be adequate notice for a back up sitter - maybe metro parent relief?

Agreed. Take the extreme comments with a grain of salt. But there were plenty of rational posters saying that there are no guarantees in life and other than treating your sitter well and building a good rapport, there's not much else you can do but hope for the best. At this point your unwillingness to take that to heart is only going to bring more vitriol out.

Its an anonymous forum - people are a lot more blunt and much nastier than they would be in real life.

I understand important events and the need for a sitter but 2 weeks out should be adequate notice for a back up sitter - maybe metro parent relief?

It's you. Sorry.

i posted a question on the general board and got a great deal of anger directed at me - the question was about a nanny canceling 2 weeks in advance for a date i booked 6 weeks in advance for a work event (its equivalent to a wedding in importance to me and i made that clear to the nanny). i seem to have been roundly denounced as a horrible employer.

is this your experience on this site?

i haven't used the nanny forum at all since it split...

my prior experience was interviewing 3 or 4 nannies from here - none of whom worked out and one who was ghastly.