Anonymous
05/10/2014 13:07
Subject: Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
This is the OP. I do occasionally WFH in our current situation, and while the first few times weren't perfect, we've been successful in setting boundaries -- I'm in my office, my daughter knows our nanny is taking care of her, etc. I know maternity leave is a different issue and that nannying for a full-time SAHM probably isn't a walk in the park, but I'm hopeful that with the right situation, we can make it work.
Anonymous
05/10/2014 12:02
Subject: Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What's the going rate for one 2.5 year old in falls church/arlington? She's in school 3x/wk now from 915-1215; 5 days in the fall. Just her for now, but baby #2 is due in November.
Your biggest chalenge will be finding anyone who wants you down her neck for six months.
Most nannies won't even consider that.
You'll do better with a young mother's helper, not a nanny.
Since DH and I work FT outside the home, that's not an option.
Just so you know, most nannies hate having the mother home when they are taking care of a two to four year old child. The majority of children will constantly want Mommy or will not listen to the nanny if she can run to Mommy and undermine nanny's authority. Nap times, meal times, time-outs, etc. can be so difficult for the nanny when the mother is present.
Just keep that in mind. I know I wouldn't apply for your position knowing you'd be home for months but I would be very interested if it was just your 2.5 year old and a baby.
I understand. We have been in a share until now, and were hoping to continue through my leave (with our nanny watching DD while I dealt with the baby most of the time), but our share partners (who had their second in march), just announced they want our nanny to themselves effective early June, so we're in a bit of a scrambling, awkward spot. I don't want to cause additional disruption for DD
by having another short term "patch," when we're hoping to build a long term relationship with someone, but I know it's a challenge.
It can help if you have a big house, so you can maintain at least physical boundaries.
MB here, and I'm getting a bit fed up with some of the responses on this forum. For example, the part about nannies only working for someone if the parent is fully out of the house, otherwise the children won't listen to the nanny. That is not true. I am a WOHM who has teleworked fairly regularly since DD was an infant. She has a set schedule and does not run to me if I am in my office working. Even when I come down during lunch, my DD knows that our nanny is in charge of the schedule, etc. Also, my DH, nanny and I have worked together (more than 2.5 yrs so far) to set up a good routine for our DD when it comes to naps and schedule. We've told DD that she needs to listen to all of us.
With respect to maternity leave, it's better for the baby if the mom is able to stay home longer. I am on maternity leave with our youngest and am exclusively pumping so I need to have another adult watch the baby. It also helps for me to catch up on sleep so I have more energy to help out during the evenings and weekends when DH is not at work. He handles all the night feedings while I'm pumping. We are paying our nanny for two kids (since we came home from the hospital), but we tag team. For example, she took our oldest to a sports class this morning, while I stayed home and watched the infant. As soon as they got back, I ran upstairs and am pumping now as I type this. If my nanny is helping out with the youngest, I am generally throwing loads of kids' laundry in the machine or helping put the older one down for a nap.
So sorry you are "fed up" with the responses on this forum, MB. How awful it must be for you to be fed up! Nannies, please agree to lie and say that working for SAHMs is lovely and like a walk in the park on a spring morning so that this MB doesn't get "fed up" ever again!!! After all, Nannies, this MB knows everything and knows how every mother and child in the entire country relate to each other and their nanny - we nannies haven't got a clue!
Anonymous
05/09/2014 18:47
Subject: Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What's the going rate for one 2.5 year old in falls church/arlington? She's in school 3x/wk now from 915-1215; 5 days in the fall. Just her for now, but baby #2 is due in November.
Your biggest chalenge will be finding anyone who wants you down her neck for six months.
Most nannies won't even consider that.
You'll do better with a young mother's helper, not a nanny.
Since DH and I work FT outside the home, that's not an option.
Just so you know, most nannies hate having the mother home when they are taking care of a two to four year old child. The majority of children will constantly want Mommy or will not listen to the nanny if she can run to Mommy and undermine nanny's authority. Nap times, meal times, time-outs, etc. can be so difficult for the nanny when the mother is present.
Just keep that in mind. I know I wouldn't apply for your position knowing you'd be home for months but I would be very interested if it was just your 2.5 year old and a baby.
I understand. We have been in a share until now, and were hoping to continue through my leave (with our nanny watching DD while I dealt with the baby most of the time), but our share partners (who had their second in march), just announced they want our nanny to themselves effective early June, so we're in a bit of a scrambling, awkward spot. I don't want to cause additional disruption for DD
by having another short term "patch," when we're hoping to build a long term relationship with someone, but I know it's a challenge.
It can help if you have a big house, so you can maintain at least physical boundaries.
MB here, and I'm getting a bit fed up with some of the responses on this forum. For example, the part about nannies only working for someone if the parent is fully out of the house, otherwise the children won't listen to the nanny. That is not true. I am a WOHM who has teleworked fairly regularly since DD was an infant. She has a set schedule and does not run to me if I am in my office working. Even when I come down during lunch, my DD knows that our nanny is in charge of the schedule, etc. Also, my DH, nanny and I have worked together (more than 2.5 yrs so far) to set up a good routine for our DD when it comes to naps and schedule. We've told DD that she needs to listen to all of us.
With respect to maternity leave, it's better for the baby if the mom is able to stay home longer. I am on maternity leave with our youngest and am exclusively pumping so I need to have another adult watch the baby. It also helps for me to catch up on sleep so I have more energy to help out during the evenings and weekends when DH is not at work. He handles all the night feedings while I'm pumping. We are paying our nanny for two kids (since we came home from the hospital), but we tag team. For example, she took our oldest to a sports class this morning, while I stayed home and watched the infant. As soon as they got back, I ran upstairs and am pumping now as I type this. If my nanny is helping out with the youngest, I am generally throwing loads of kids' laundry in the machine or helping put the older one down for a nap.
You established a good routine and set boundaries for your child. You instilled in your child that the nanny is in charge during certain hours and your child doesn't run or cry for you when she doesn't like what the nanny says or tells her to do. Good. You made it work. Sadly, I have never worked for any other MB who has set the boundaries or respected the nanny. My experience with three different at-home-Moms vs. your experience with only your one.
Tell me again what you are fed up with in my response. Was I lying? How could I have changed my three different situations if the mother allowed the child to run to her every time I said it was clean-up time or nap time and told the child it was okay not to do clean up or take a nap? Seriously, what could I have done differently?
Would I ever take a job with another at-home mother? NO.
Anonymous
05/09/2014 11:34
Subject: Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What's the going rate for one 2.5 year old in falls church/arlington? She's in school 3x/wk now from 915-1215; 5 days in the fall. Just her for now, but baby #2 is due in November.
Your biggest chalenge will be finding anyone who wants you down her neck for six months.
Most nannies won't even consider that.
You'll do better with a young mother's helper, not a nanny.
Since DH and I work FT outside the home, that's not an option.
Just so you know, most nannies hate having the mother home when they are taking care of a two to four year old child. The majority of children will constantly want Mommy or will not listen to the nanny if she can run to Mommy and undermine nanny's authority. Nap times, meal times, time-outs, etc. can be so difficult for the nanny when the mother is present.
Just keep that in mind. I know I wouldn't apply for your position knowing you'd be home for months but I would be very interested if it was just your 2.5 year old and a baby.
I understand. We have been in a share until now, and were hoping to continue through my leave (with our nanny watching DD while I dealt with the baby most of the time), but our share partners (who had their second in march), just announced they want our nanny to themselves effective early June, so we're in a bit of a scrambling, awkward spot. I don't want to cause additional disruption for DD
by having another short term "patch," when we're hoping to build a long term relationship with someone, but I know it's a challenge.
It can help if you have a big house, so you can maintain at least physical boundaries.
MB here, and I'm getting a bit fed up with some of the responses on this forum. For example, the part about nannies only working for someone if the parent is fully out of the house, otherwise the children won't listen to the nanny. That is not true. I am a WOHM who has teleworked fairly regularly since DD was an infant. She has a set schedule and does not run to me if I am in my office working. Even when I come down during lunch, my DD knows that our nanny is in charge of the schedule, etc. Also, my DH, nanny and I have worked together (more than 2.5 yrs so far) to set up a good routine for our DD when it comes to naps and schedule. We've told DD that she needs to listen to all of us.
With respect to maternity leave, it's better for the baby if the mom is able to stay home longer. I am on maternity leave with our youngest and am exclusively pumping so I need to have another adult watch the baby. It also helps for me to catch up on sleep so I have more energy to help out during the evenings and weekends when DH is not at work. He handles all the night feedings while I'm pumping. We are paying our nanny for two kids (since we came home from the hospital), but we tag team. For example, she took our oldest to a sports class this morning, while I stayed home and watched the infant. As soon as they got back, I ran upstairs and am pumping now as I type this. If my nanny is helping out with the youngest, I am generally throwing loads of kids' laundry in the machine or helping put the older one down for a nap.
Anonymous
05/08/2014 17:57
Subject: Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What's the going rate for one 2.5 year old in falls church/arlington? She's in school 3x/wk now from 915-1215; 5 days in the fall. Just her for now, but baby #2 is due in November.
Your biggest chalenge will be finding anyone who wants you down her neck for six months.
Most nannies won't even consider that.
You'll do better with a young mother's helper, not a nanny.
Since DH and I work FT outside the home, that's not an option.
Just so you know, most nannies hate having the mother home when they are taking care of a two to four year old child. The majority of children will constantly want Mommy or will not listen to the nanny if she can run to Mommy and undermine nanny's authority. Nap times, meal times, time-outs, etc. can be so difficult for the nanny when the mother is present.
Just keep that in mind. I know I wouldn't apply for your position knowing you'd be home for months but I would be very interested if it was just your 2.5 year old and a baby.
I understand. We have been in a share until now, and were hoping to continue through my leave (with our nanny watching DD while I dealt with the baby most of the time), but our share partners (who had their second in march), just announced they want our nanny to themselves effective early June, so we're in a bit of a scrambling, awkward spot. I don't want to cause additional disruption for DD
by having another short term "patch," when we're hoping to build a long term relationship with someone, but I know it's a challenge.
It can help if you have a big house, so you can maintain at least physical boundaries.
Anonymous
05/08/2014 11:48
Subject: Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What's the going rate for one 2.5 year old in falls church/arlington? She's in school 3x/wk now from 915-1215; 5 days in the fall. Just her for now, but baby #2 is due in November.
Your biggest chalenge will be finding anyone who wants you down her neck for six months.
Most nannies won't even consider that.
You'll do better with a young mother's helper, not a nanny.
Since DH and I work FT outside the home, that's not an option.
Just so you know, most nannies hate having the mother home when they are taking care of a two to four year old child. The majority of children will constantly want Mommy or will not listen to the nanny if she can run to Mommy and undermine nanny's authority. Nap times, meal times, time-outs, etc. can be so difficult for the nanny when the mother is present.
Just keep that in mind. I know I wouldn't apply for your position knowing you'd be home for months but I would be very interested if it was just your 2.5 year old and a baby.
I understand. We have been in a share until now, and were hoping to continue through my leave (with our nanny watching DD while I dealt with the baby most of the time), but our share partners (who had their second in march), just announced they want our nanny to themselves effective early June, so we're in a bit of a scrambling, awkward spot. I don't want to cause additional disruption for DD by having another short term "patch," when we're hoping to build a long term relationship with someone, but I know it's a challenge.
Anonymous
05/08/2014 11:09
Subject: Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What's the going rate for one 2.5 year old in falls church/arlington? She's in school 3x/wk now from 915-1215; 5 days in the fall. Just her for now, but baby #2 is due in November.
Your biggest chalenge will be finding anyone who wants you down her neck for six months.
Most nannies won't even consider that.
You'll do better with a young mother's helper, not a nanny.
Since DH and I work FT outside the home, that's not an option.
Just so you know, most nannies hate having the mother home when they are taking care of a two to four year old child. The majority of children will constantly want Mommy or will not listen to the nanny if she can run to Mommy and undermine nanny's authority. Nap times, meal times, time-outs, etc. can be so difficult for the nanny when the mother is present.
Just keep that in mind. I know I wouldn't apply for your position knowing you'd be home for months but I would be very interested if it was just your 2.5 year old and a baby.
Anonymous
05/08/2014 09:44
Subject: Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What's the going rate for one 2.5 year old in falls church/arlington? She's in school 3x/wk now from 915-1215; 5 days in the fall. Just her for now, but baby #2 is due in November.
Your biggest chalenge will be finding anyone who wants you down her neck for six months.
Most nannies won't even consider that.
You'll do better with a young mother's helper, not a nanny.
Since DH and I work FT outside the home, that's not an option.
Anonymous
05/08/2014 08:34
Subject: Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
Anonymous wrote:What's the going rate for one 2.5 year old in falls church/arlington? She's in school 3x/wk now from 915-1215; 5 days in the fall. Just her for now, but baby #2 is due in November.
Your biggest chalenge will be finding anyone who wants you down her neck for six months.
Most nannies won't even consider that.
You'll do better with a young mother's helper, not a nanny.
Anonymous
05/08/2014 08:27
Subject: Re:Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
Anonymous wrote:Between 15 and 20 an hour - time and a half for anything over 40 hours a week. A college graduate with experience will run about 18 to 20. Paid legally, of course.
+1
Her (or his) years of experience will influence the rates that they charge but 15-20 per hour is the range you'll be looking at.
Anonymous
05/08/2014 07:12
Subject: Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
Depends how much you want her. If she's not much better than your next option, no worries. But if she stands out in any way, you're competing with other families.
So your offer needs to outshine the others.
If you can afford to do so.
So your offer needs to outshine the others.
If you can afford to do so.
Anonymous
05/08/2014 06:58
Subject: Re:Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
Between 15 and 20 an hour - time and a half for anything over 40 hours a week. A college graduate with experience will run about 18 to 20. Paid legally, of course.
Anonymous
05/07/2014 22:03
Subject: Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
40-50 hours/week. I will be on maternity leave for six months, but will still need help with DD and expect to pay for 40 hours during that time.
Anonymous
05/07/2014 21:59
Subject: Re:Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
So what are the hours you are offering and will they change when baby #2 arrives? Part-time is generally more expensive.
Also, are you looking for legal, on the books? Do you want a college graduate with Early Childhood Development credits? How many years of experience?
Also, are you looking for legal, on the books? Do you want a college graduate with Early Childhood Development credits? How many years of experience?
Anonymous
05/07/2014 15:09
Subject: Rate question - one 2.5 year old in falls church
What's the going rate for one 2.5 year old in falls church/arlington? She's in school 3x/wk now from 915-1215; 5 days in the fall. Just her for now, but baby #2 is due in November.