Anonymous wrote:OP here. I also asked her if she had a bottom line, i.e. how much she wanted in take home pay so I'd know if we are way off or close. She didn't have an answer for me so I'm not sure what to do. Like I said, she is the first candidate I've wanted to consider and we have interviewed a lot. She has only had 2 previous nanny jobs but they were both VERY long term (as in 10+ years) so she has a lot of experience but I guess it's possible she was paid under the table but she seemed like she really wanted us to do it over the table (as do we).
I'm sure she wants to be paid legally now - it just doesn't seem like she has been before. Which doesn't matter to you anyway. She has to decide based on your gross salary offer. It certainly isn't up to you to tell her how many deductions she should take!