Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 09:55     Subject: Worried my charge suddenly hates me.
Kids do this - with parents also.

Don't overthink it or take it personally.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2014 19:57     Subject: Worried my charge suddenly hates me.
From what I've read once they more independent (start crawling especially) they develop separation anxiety. She is probably just anxious about you leaving her, and maybe is realizing that when you get there mom and Dad leave. Teething will also make them miserable so try not to take that personally. I know that's hard! Also I know it's hard when you can't soothe them. My latest charge is the same way, if I try to hold him and comfort him he pushes away and cries more. Try distracting her with something fun instead.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2014 16:29     Subject: Worried my charge suddenly hates me.
Anonymous wrote:I a nanny to an infant girl, 5.5 months. I bonded with her from day one. She has been a very easy baby, crying only when hungry and tired. I used to be able to amuse her for hours on end. She would light up when she saw me walk-in and smile when I was leaving. For the past week, she is crying/fussy no mater what. I've noticed if I let her play alone, she is content. When I come close, she fusses and cries. Worse is I can't seem to soothe her either anymore. About 85% of playtime she starts crying. The rest she will giggle and play with me. In the morning, her greeting hasn't changed.

I know she is teething and will be ready for her growth spurt soon. In all my years as an infant nanny (6) I've never had this happen. The sickness came and I was still able to play and soothe. I feel like she hates me now or something. She will be fussing but as soon as mom/dad/aunties walks in, she is fine.

Please no rude comments. What do you guys feel is wrong? Maybe we aren't a good match anymore..

F.Y.I. I'm with her 45/hrs a week.


This has happened to me. Your charge is more mobile and experiencing new things, like teething, rolling, sitting up, etc.
She is probably fine playing on her own, but when she sees you (her primary caregiver-during the day), she probably associates you with being there when she is hurt or teething. You are there to soothe her when she bumps her head, is teething or tired. It's pretty common at this age and should subside as she get used to all these new things.
I would suggest trying not to have a huge reaction if she is crying or gets hurt.
In a quiet, gentle voice say "I understand that you are sad. Everyone feels sad sometimes but it will be ok," or "That must have really hurt, everything will be ok." Infants and children do this with parents too.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2014 15:58     Subject: Worried my charge suddenly hates me.
I a nanny to an infant girl, 5.5 months. I bonded with her from day one. She has been a very easy baby, crying only when hungry and tired. I used to be able to amuse her for hours on end. She would light up when she saw me walk-in and smile when I was leaving. For the past week, she is crying/fussy no mater what. I've noticed if I let her play alone, she is content. When I come close, she fusses and cries. Worse is I can't seem to soothe her either anymore. About 85% of playtime she starts crying. The rest she will giggle and play with me. In the morning, her greeting hasn't changed.

I know she is teething and will be ready for her growth spurt soon. In all my years as an infant nanny (6) I've never had this happen. The sickness came and I was still able to play and soothe. I feel like she hates me now or something. She will be fussing but as soon as mom/dad/aunties walks in, she is fine.

Please no rude comments. What do you guys feel is wrong? Maybe we aren't a good match anymore..

F.Y.I. I'm with her 45/hrs a week.