I'm with you op, it's hard to have these conversations. I realized at some point that the parents don't feel bad itemizing their bill to their clients, so why should I feel bad for the same thing? It's business. You agreed to X service for X price and if they want Y service, that's Y price.

Anonymous wrote:I think you just repeat that your rate for doing these extra chores is $X an hour. Your mistake was agreeing to fold her laundry (not kid laundry) for free. You can say that your rate includes kid-related duties, including things like kid lauundry, kid dishes, organizing kid closets, etc., but that anything not related to the children costs $X more an hour. Just be polite and professional.

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I think you just repeat that your rate for doing these extra chores is $X an hour. Your mistake was agreeing to fold her laundry (not kid laundry) for free. You can say that your rate includes kid-related duties, including things like kid lauundry, kid dishes, organizing kid closets, etc., but that anything not related to the children costs $X more an hour. Just be polite and professional.

I have worked for one family for years now and started helping out MBs best friend a few days a week. In addition to watching original MBs children, I also help her with light house keeping, event planning, shopping and organizing for a $3 increase on my regular pay. She obviously told her friend that I do this additional work for her which is totally fine. When hired MBs friend asked if I do organizing and could help with chores, I said sure and told her what my rate was for that additional work and said I would be happy to schedule some time to meet with her and talk about organizing plans. She then asked while her daughter was napping, if I would mind folding some laundry. I said sure no problem. I haven't charged her extra for that because it is just sitting on the couch folding clothes while I watch TV. The other family is more work and I m actually washing, drying, folding and putting it away. Today when I got there, she asked me if I could organize her cabinet in my downtime. I am fine with staying busy and helping out while charge is napping, makes the day go quicker for me, but I get paid more to perform these extra duties. She doesn't pay me the additional rate. I am not sure how to mention that organizing is above and beyond my usual job requirements and I would like to be properly compensated. I absolutely hate confrontation and try to go lightly with this particular MB because she is my full time MBs best friend.